The EMDR Doctor Podcast

33. EMDR in relationships


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In this solo episode, Dr. Caroline Lloyd reflects on how EMDR therapy can subtly (and sometimes dramatically) shift our relationships — even when we're not directly working on them. From calming parent-child dynamics to challenging long-standing patterns like people-pleasing, Caroline explores the ripple effects of healing, and why sometimes things might get messy before they get better. Plus, she teases a fascinating approach to EMDR with couples that might be coming to the podcast soon!

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

  • Why every EMDR experience is unique — no one-size-fits-all healing

  • How working on your own trauma can lead to more peaceful and connected relationships

  • What a “virtuous cycle” looks like in real life — and how healing yourself can help calm others around you

  • Why suppressed resentment in relationships (like with a parent) matters, even if no one talks about it

  • How EMDR can reveal the ways we overcompensate to maintain peace 

  • Why EMDR can sometimes cause friction in relationships — and how that’s actually part of the growth

  • A relatable example of how trauma healing can shake up an unequal relationship dynamic 

  • A fascinating peek into EMDR being used with couples, even if it’s not traditional couples therapy

    Key Highlights:

    • Dr. Caroline reflects on listener feedback and the individuality of the EMDR journey

    • A beautiful client story showing how EMDR shifted a parent-child dynamic toward more calm and connection

    • Insight into hidden resentment and overcompensation in relationships — and how healing can bring authenticity

    • Introduction of the idea that healing might require renegotiating the relationship or even bringing in couples therapy

    • Mention of a unique approach where EMDR is done with both partners present — powerful, intimate, and eye-opening

    • Hint at a future podcast episode with a couples therapist to dig deeper into that model

      Resources Mentioned:

      • Dr. Lloyd’s Heal Your Past online EMDR program – Register at emdrdoctor.com.au/heal
      • Research on PTSD treatments and why EMDR is faster and more effective than traditional talk therapy for trauma
      • Contact and Feedback:

        • Thinking about trying EMDR for PTSD? Reach out to Dr. Lloyd at emdrdoctor.com.au.
        • Note: This podcast provides general information and is not a substitute for individual medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider for personalised recommendations.
        • Subscribe & Stay Connected:

          • Don’t miss next week’s episode — we’ll be exploring even more about how EMDR can shape our lives and relationships. You won’t want to miss the insights (and maybe a special guest).

          • Follow The EMDR Doctor podcast to stay in the loop with expert chats, inspiring stories, and practical takeaways for your healing journey.

            Join Dr. Caroline Lloyd as she demystifies PTSD and provides hope for recovery, showing that healing is possible with the right tools and support. Thanks for listening!

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