If you’ve ever been called a “strong, independent woman” (or man!) and felt a quiet exhaustion behind the compliment, this episode will speak to you.

In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking something many of us carry without realising it — hyper-independence. That deep belief that you have to do everything on your own — not because you want to, but because somewhere along the way, you learned that asking for help wasn’t safe or worthwhile.

We’ll explore where this pattern comes from, how it quietly shapes our relationships and sense of belonging, and most importantly, how trauma therapy — especially EMDR — can help soften those edges. Because healing doesn’t just mean surviving alone. It’s about learning to trust, to connect, and to let others in again.

If you’ve ever felt lonely in your strength, this one’s for you.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Independence can be healthy — until it starts to isolate you.

Hyper-independence is often a trauma response, not a personality trait.

EMDR therapy helps uncover and heal the old wounds that created the need to “do it all alone.”

True strength isn’t about avoiding help — it’s about allowing it.

Letting others in can be one of the most healing experiences of all.

Key Highlights:

What hyper-independence really is — and how it hides behind “strength”

The roots of self-reliance in childhood trauma, neglect, or betrayal

How hyper-independence shows up in adulthood: work, relationships, and loneliness

Why accepting help can feel uncomfortable — and what that reveals

How EMDR therapy can release the pain driving over-independence, helping you open up to trust and connection again

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This week’s episode is a special one — we’re revisiting one of the most popular topics of all time: What actually is EMDR?

Whether you’ve just discovered EMDR therapy or you’re curious about how it works, this episode breaks it all down — from what “Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing” really means to how it helps your brain process trauma and move toward healing.

I’m also thrilled to share that The EMDR Doctor Podcast has officially made it to the Top 100 Mental Health Podcasts in Australia! Thank you to everyone who’s tuned in, rated, and shared the show — your support truly helps this healing conversation reach more people who need it.

If you’ve ever wondered how EMDR helps turn painful memories into “just something that happened that time,” this episode is for you.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Traumatic memories get “stuck” in the emotional part of the brain — EMDR helps them move safely into long-term memory.

Healing doesn’t mean erasing what happened — it means reducing its emotional charge.

You don’t need to process every single painful event — working on key memories helps the whole network heal.

EMDR isn’t just for PTSD — it can help with anxiety, depression, phobias, eating disorders, and more.

The brain’s capacity to heal is powerful — EMDR simply helps it do what it’s naturally meant to do.

Key Highlights:

How EMDR helps the brain reprocess traumatic or distressing memories.

The role of bilateral stimulation — and why moving your eyes from side to side can actually calm the emotional brain.

How EMDR transforms trauma from a current crisis into a past event.

Why EMDR works across many diagnoses — because it’s memory-based, not diagnosis-based.

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This week on The EMDR Doctor Podcast, I’m taking you on a slightly different kind of journey. As I pack my bags for a holiday adventure, I couldn’t help but think about how EMDR itself is an adventure too. It’s a therapy that invites us to step into the unknown, follow the brain’s natural pathways, and sometimes even get creative with imagination and new perspectives. Just like any great adventure, it’s full of surprises, discoveries, and the potential for transformation.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Healing can be an adventure — curiosity and openness often lead to breakthroughs.

Creativity isn’t separate from therapy; it’s a powerful part of how our brains heal.

Imaginative resources (like nurturing figures) can help us feel safe when facing tough memories.

You don’t have to “have it all figured out” before EMDR — your brain knows where it needs to go.

Simple preparation tools, like practicing calm or safe place visualisations, can make EMDR more effective and less overwhelming.

Key Highlights:

How EMDR unfolds after the setup: client-led, fluid, and organic.

The role of creativity in EMDR — from re-scripting moments to introducing nurturing or wise figures.

Why imagination can help unlock stuck points in healing.

Ways EMDR connects current distress to earlier memories, uncovering deeper roots.

Practical tips on how to prepare for EMDR sessions (like calm place visualisations).

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This week, I want to share something powerful that I recently learned at an EMDR Association of Australia training event. It’s a new way of looking at violence against women — not just through the cycle of violence, which many of you might already know, but also through the vortex of violence model, which offers a deeper understanding of how violence impacts survivors over time.

As a therapist working with women who’ve experienced trauma, I’ve seen how naming and understanding these patterns can be life-changing. When survivors recognize the cycle and the vortex, they often feel relief — because it’s no longer just “their fault,” but part of a much larger pattern.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through both models, explain how they can help survivors understand their experience, and share how EMDR therapy can support healing by restoring safety, strength, and self-worth.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Why violence in relationships so often follows a cycle — and how to recognize the phases.

How the “vortex of violence” explains the losses survivors face, from health to confidence to relationships.

Why education is vital: understanding these frameworks can give survivors knowledge and language to protect themselves.

How EMDR can help survivors process trauma, release fear and grief, and rebuild a sense of safety and strength.

Key Highlights:

The cycle of violence: what it looks like and why it keeps repeating.

The vortex of violence: a new model that shows how violence spirals, pulling in safety, trust, and health while spinning off hope and stability.

How recognizing these patterns can empower women to understand it’s not their fault and spot the signs earlier.

The role of EMDR therapy in healing after violence — restoring confidence, rebuilding self-worth, and helping women feel safe again.

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Hi everyone,  in this week’s episode of The EMDR Doctor Podcast I’m diving into a topic that so many of us wrestle with — Imposter Syndrome. Whether you’re a doctor, a teacher, in corporate, or even just starting something new, that nagging voice of “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t belong here” can feel overwhelming. In this episode, I unpack what imposter syndrome really is (and isn’t), share some of my own experiences with it, and explore how EMDR therapy can help you rewrite those old, unhelpful beliefs into something much more supportive and freeing.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Imposter syndrome doesn’t mean you’re unqualified — it means old wounds are still shaping your present.

Thoughts are not truths — that critical voice doesn’t define your reality.

EMDR therapy helps uncover and reprocess the origins of imposter beliefs, reducing their power.

Strengthening positive experiences is just as important as resolving painful ones.

Confidence isn’t about never feeling anxious — it’s about removing the blocks that stop you from stepping into your flow.

Key Highlights:

Honest conversations with young doctors feeling stretched thin by fear, anxiety, and “not good enough” thoughts.

Why imposter syndrome isn’t about lack of skill — it’s about deep, old beliefs that resurface in adulthood.

How imposter syndrome can hide behind perfectionism, overwork, or constant fear of being “found out.”

My own journey with imposter syndrome early in my career and how I carried those fears for years.

The difference between normal job anxiety and true imposter syndrome.

EMDR approaches that help — from reprocessing early shame to bolstering positive beliefs and allowing yourself to actually feel praise.

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In this week’s episode of The EMDR Doctor Podcast, I’m answering a thoughtful listener question: “Who should not do EMDR?” It’s a great one, because while I truly believe EMDR can benefit almost everyone, there are some important physical considerations to keep in mind. From high blood pressure and heart conditions, to epilepsy, eye disorders, pregnancy, chronic illness, and even post-surgery recovery, I’ll walk you through what to look out for and how EMDR can be adapted safely.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Why having high blood pressure doesn’t mean EMDR is unsafe — as long as it’s well managed.

How EMDR can be safely adapted for elderly clients, including pacing and titrating memories.

The role of agitation and blood pressure during trauma processing — and why healing ultimately benefits physical health.

Safety considerations for pregnancy and postpartum trauma work.

Adjustments for epilepsy and eye disorders (e.g. using tapping or auditory bilateral stimulation).

EMDR and surgery, chemotherapy, and chronic illness — tailoring the pace and process to support both body and mind.

Key Highlights:

EMDR is highly adaptable — physical conditions rarely mean exclusion, just adjustments.

Trauma resolution can improve both mental and physical health.

Informed consent and collaborative decision-making are key in tailoring EMDR for each individual.

Age is never a barrier to healing — it’s about pacing and support.

With thoughtful modifications, even those with chronic illness or ongoing treatments can benefit from EMDR.

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This week, I wanted to talk about something that comes up a lot in therapy and in life: the way shame and self-pity get tangled together. So often, when we find ourselves feeling sorry for ourselves, shame quickly follows — telling us we’re weak, indulgent, or that we shouldn’t be feeling that way at all.

But here’s the thing: self-pity is usually a sign that something inside us really needs care. And when we meet that place with compassion — real, genuine compassion — something powerful happens. Instead of staying stuck in fear, helplessness, or injustice, we can come out feeling nurtured, strengthened, and even loved.

In this episode, I explore how compassion transforms the way we experience shame and self-pity, and why this shift matters so much for healing.

 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Compassion is not indulgence — it’s a healing force.

Self-pity doesn’t mean weakness, it means something inside us needs tending.

When we meet shame with compassion, we shift from helplessness to hope.

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Hi everyone, it’s Dr. Caroline Lloyd here, and in this week’s episode I’m unpacking the Drama Triangle — a powerful framework that explains the roles we can slip into in relationships: victim, rescuer, and perpetrator.

I share how these roles can quietly shape our families, partnerships, and even therapy spaces, and why they’re ultimately disempowering. More importantly, I talk about how EMDR can help us move beyond these rigid roles into healthier, empowering alternatives — stepping into coach, creator, and challenger.

If you’ve ever felt stuck replaying the same dynamics with people in your life, this episode will help you see a new path forward.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

All roles in the Drama Triangle are limiting and disempowering.

Awareness of the role we’re playing is the first step to change.

EMDR can process stuck beliefs (like “I’m powerless” or “I’m responsible for everyone else”) and replace them with empowering truths.

Moving into the Empowerment Dynamic allows for healthier, freer relationships.

Healing is about reclaiming agency, choice, and balance in how we show up with others.

Key Highlights:

The Drama Triangle: victim, rescuer, and perpetrator — and how easily we slip between them.

Why “rescuing” clients, partners, or family members can unintentionally keep them in victim mode.

The dangers of being cast as perpetrator when withdrawing from rescuer mode.

How family dynamics often push children into rigid roles — with lasting effects.

The alternative Empowerment Dynamic (creator, coach, challenger).

How EMDR helps shift beliefs that keep us stuck in these roles.

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Hi everyone, it’s Dr. Caroline Lloyd here, and in this week’s episode of The EMDR Doctor Podcast, I’m talking about what I call “teeny tiny targets” in EMDR therapy — those small, everyday irritations or moments that don’t seem like a big deal… until they quietly take up space in your mind.

This episode was inspired by a friend who asked me, “What’s the smallest target you’ve ever worked on?” It got me thinking, because while most of my clients work on big, life-changing events, I often use EMDR for myself on the little things — a snarky comment, a frustrating traffic moment, or even learning how to take a compliment without squirming.

I share how these small targets can be surprisingly powerful for emotional wellbeing, why they’re worth processing, and how EMDR techniques — like walking EMDR — can help shift even the tiniest irritations so they don’t stick around and spoil your day.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

How EMDR can be used for everyday irritations and “micro-upsets” — not just big trauma.

Why unresolved small annoyances can build up and affect your mood and wellbeing.

The story of how I processed a minor traffic frustration using walking EMDR.

How to spot when you’re deflecting compliments — and why that’s worth working on.

A simple EMDR-based protocol for learning to accept and internalise positive feedback.

Key Highlights:

Teeny tiny targets are the small moments of irritation or discomfort that can quietly accumulate stress if we don’t process them.

Walking EMDR is a simple, on-the-go way to work through mild distress.

Learning to take a compliment is more than a social skill — it’s a way to strengthen self-worth and positive belief systems.

Even when the “big trauma” feels more urgent, small wins in therapy can build the emotional capacity needed for deeper work.

Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and meditation — it can also be clearing away the little irritations before they pile up.

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Hi everyone, it’s Dr. Caroline Lloyd here and in this week’s episode, I’m diving into a metaphor that came up in session recently: a child describing her mum’s depression as like living with a zombie. Not a Halloween monster, but that vacant, checked-out presence that feels terrifying when you're a child relying on your parent for safety and love.

In this solo episode, I’m reflecting on what happens when children grow up in households where a parent’s mental illness becomes the silent centre of the home. I talk about emotional survival, parentification, and the hidden costs of growing up too fast. It’s a deep one, but an important one.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

Children of depressed parents often develop a distorted sense of responsibility, suppressing their own emotions to protect the parent.

Becoming "the grown-up" too early can lead to adult issues like anxiety, boundary difficulties, people-pleasing, and sibling conflict.

Secrecy and shame around mental illness can isolate children and delay healing well into adulthood.

EMDR therapy can help reveal and reprocess these early childhood experiences in a safe, contained way.

Healing the inner child involves validating that their needs mattered then — and still do now.

Key Highlights:

A client’s powerful image of her mother with depression as a "zombie" opens up a deeper conversation about how kids experience parental mental illness.

Exploring the concept of children walking on emotional eggshells — not due to violence, but to avoid burdening an emotionally fragile parent.

How kids often suppress their own emotional needs to survive in unstable environments.

The pattern of parentification — where children become caregivers too early.

Long-term emotional toll on children who appear "capable" on the outside but carry heavy internal burdens.

Shame, secrecy, and fear surrounding parental mental illness — and how EMDR helps bring these "zombies" out of the cupboard safely and begin to heal.

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Each episode is packed with expert insights, real stories, and practical tools to help you on your path to recovery.

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