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#38: Rebuilding Trust - Heart Attitude + Mindset


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In this episode - we talk about one facet of rebuilding trust.  Jason mentions that the lack of trust for her is rooted in fear.  I struggle with this (as you will hear at the beginning of the episode) because it feels like the issue is on her (ladies - I am here for you and standing up for YOU).  Once we get over that hump - here are several things he can do to love the fear out of her:   - Trust is destroyed at her expense, trust is rebuilt at his expense - Jason talks about a hobby that he chose to lose in order to rebuild trust.   - A shift in mindset:  “What I get to do versus what I have to do” in order to win back her heart.   - Shifting from playing to not lose TO playing to win.   - Getting out in front of fear:  anything that activates fear, is something that you can have a conversation about.   The conversation continues as we talk about the importance of him cultivating intimacy as well as developing character traits that she is looking for in order to feel safe, love (not fear) and in order to move through the process.  All things that women can expect not because of betrayal but because of who God is calling him to be.   We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us!  
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