39: Putting ‘Junk’ in Your Heart Will Make You Sick

A candid conversation with Dr. Henry Cloud

Being vulnerable makes me uncomfortable, especially considering how I "used to be" before cancer.

Before cancer, it was crucial to me to be liked. So, "to make" people like me, I didn't always share my opinions or let people get to know the "real me."

When I received the cancer diagnosis, everything changed.

Suddenly, I had to save my energy for healing, and I stopped caring if people liked me. I then started to look at some of my relationships. Some of my friendships needed better boundaries, and I needed to manage my expectations about the friendship.

All of a sudden, I FELT FREE. I felt lighter and truly began to enjoy the people in my life.

I first heard Dr. Cloud, author of Boundaries, on the radio twenty-five years ago.

So, you can imagine how delighted I was when Dr. Cloud agreed to come on my podcast to discuss how our relationships can impact our health.

My specific question to him was this, "can a lack of boundaries or being co-dependent contribute to cancer risk?"

You've got to hear his surprising answer!

Dr. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, clinical psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author. His 45 books, including the iconic Boundaries, have sold nearly 20 million copies worldwide. In addition, he has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting most of his time to working with CEOs, leadership teams, and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture.

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HERE'S WHAT I'M BUYING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY FOR CHRISTMAS, DEPENDING ON IF THEY ARE NAUGHTY OR NICE OF COURSE!

Click the links below for early access to what I'm buying for my friends and family (and well, for myself, if I'm being honest 😊) this holiday season!

I'm at the stage in my life where I want to give meaningful gifts that can improve health and make people smile.

I've got as many coupon codes as possible for you and included many small businesses!

FAVORITE PROTEIN:

I love me some good bar food (seriously, I do!)

And ButcherBox has made it easy to make my own wings at home.

How would you like to get FREE WINGS FOR A YEAR and $20 off of your first box?

This makes the perfect gift for the bar food lover (and sports fan) in your life.

The ButcherBox wings are not "wimpy" but rich, meaty, and super yummy.

Go to the link, www.butcherbox.com/enos, and use the code ENOS to get this offer.

FAV-FAV-FAV SKINCARE PRODUCTS (I've been using these for 10+ years!)

The Body Deli:

 Here are my favorite products that are always in my bathroom:

 Body Deli: Use the code 'ENOS15' at checkout for 15% off!

The Body Deli – Why Did I Get Cancer?

FAVORITE LIP CHAP OF ALL TIME!

I am so picky about my lip chap! Maybe it's because my lips feel chapped most of the time ;) I love this small company based in Snoqualmie, WA.

Kind honeybee skincare | Keeper's Collective Website (thekeeperscollective.com)

I also love Fiona's Forest from Paradise, CA; shoutout to my hometown next door of Chico, CA, woot-woot!

Lavender Lip Balm (fionasforest.com)

(no coupons here, but please support these small women-owned businesses!).

MY FAVORITE TEA THAT I DRINK DAILY.

I LOVE this tea company! I've ordered their immune blend, peppermint, and my new fav is the chocolate mint rooibos!

Everything Tea - Tea Shop

Use the code WELLNESS20 for 20% off!

FAVE SURPRISING PRODUCT TO HELP DETOX.

Queen of the Thrones:

I love using their castor oil packs on body parts that hurt! And as I get older, that means more and more parts :)

I'm also using their castor oil packs on my liver to help my body detox from all of the medical treatments I've had in the last two years.

https://shop.queenofthethrones.com/whydidigetcancer

Use the code WHYDIDIGETCANCER10 for 10% off any order of $59 or more.

FAV NON-TOXIC HOUSECLEANING PRODUCTS:

Young Living Products:

I admit, I used to like the smell of bleach and pine sol, ugh.

Toxic fumes do not mean your house is clean, haha.

Click this link to see my non-toxic "wish list" from YL.

YoungLiving | MyAccount

Use the code SHAREYL to get 10% off your first $50 or more order!

FAV CLEANING CLOTHS ON THE PLANET! ALSO GREAT FOR EYEGLASSES, WINDOWS & SCREENS.

I have relied on E-cloths for nearly a decade to tackle all my cleaning needs without using chemicals! This was way before cancer, so I wasn't even thinking about living a non-toxic life 🙂

These exceptional microfiber cloths are genuinely in a league of their own, effortlessly eliminating 99 percent of bacteria, dirt, grime, and smudges. The best part? No more messy cleaners required! A simple wetting with water is all it takes to unleash the incredible cleaning power of E-cloths.

Click the link below and use the code CLEAN15 for your discount.

E-Cloth | Simplify your Cleaning Routine with Sustainable Kits & Mops

FAV and SURPRISING WAY TO IMPROVE SLEEP.

Occushield

I had to figure out how to decrease the amount of blue light (screens, iPad & phone) I saw at night. The more blue light you see, the more it slows down your production of melatonin (among many other things), and the next thing you know, you're getting a second wind at midnight. No, thank you.

I have this shield on my phone and iPad. It lowers the blue light, and I can't tell it's on my devices; win-win!

Blue Light Screen Filters & Protectors | Ocushield

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