This week, I wanted to talk about something that comes up a lot in therapy and in life: the way shame and self-pity get tangled together. So often, when we find ourselves feeling sorry for ourselves, shame quickly follows — telling us we’re weak, indulgent, or that we shouldn’t be feeling that way at all.

But here’s the thing: self-pity is usually a sign that something inside us really needs care. And when we meet that place with compassion — real, genuine compassion — something powerful happens. Instead of staying stuck in fear, helplessness, or injustice, we can come out feeling nurtured, strengthened, and even loved.

In this episode, I explore how compassion transforms the way we experience shame and self-pity, and why this shift matters so much for healing.

 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Compassion is not indulgence — it’s a healing force.

Self-pity doesn’t mean weakness, it means something inside us needs tending.

When we meet shame with compassion, we shift from helplessness to hope.

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