Fear is a powerful emotion that can significantly impact our lives and it's often overlooked when considering the challenges faced by queer men in relationships. In the context of gay and bisexual relationships, fear plays a pivotal role, often acting as the primary obstacle to long-lasting and fulfilling partnerships. 

I know that for a lot of you this seems like the obvious answer, but have you ever stopped to ask yourself, why? Why does fear play such a major role in SO many failed relationships within the queer community? You probably haven't, and if you have… it probably stopped at "because I don’t want to get hurt." If you have recognized that as the root of your fear, I commend you! You've taken time to actually understand WHY you continue having so many failed relationships. Now my question is this:

Why are you afraid of getting hurt?

The "hurt" feeling is subjective for every person. The way in which you process pain, hurt, anguish, and sadness is going to be different from how I process it. What does this mean? Your fear is linked to a subjective spectrum of pain and at some point, you experienced the far end of the spectrum. That experience resulted in you creating defense mechanisms, building emotional walls, developing unhealthy attachment styles, and navigating the world with caution. 

In no way do I blame you for this, it makes sense! As queer individuals, the threat of emotional, mental, and physical harm is VERY real… especially here in the United States. That's not accounting for places like Guyana, Sudan, Iran, Indonesia, United Arab Emirates, and many other countries. But here's the thing, even in states and countries where it is legal to be openly queer and our right are protected, people STILL struggle with relationships. So, that got me thinking about the fear itself. Over my years of coaching and working with people, I have come to believe there are 6 primary fears at play.

1. Fear of Acceptance

2. Fear of Vulnerability

3. Fear of Intimacy

4. Fear of Commitment

5. Fear of Rejection

6. Fear of Incompatibility

Chapters:

Intro

00:01

Why does fear play such a major role in so many failed relationships?

01:46

The fear of acceptance

05:04

The fear of vulnerability

05:59

The fear of intimacy

06:51

The fear of commitment

08:05

The fear of rejection

09:04

The fear of incompatibility

10:30

Understanding the role of shame

13:31

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