Is it true? Are you sure it's true? How often do we ask these questions when an anxious thought comes to our mind? Too often we allow ourselves to assume a thought is true and allow the anxiety to drive us to choices we don't want to make. 

Anxiety is fear. Stress is masked fear. And controlling or mothering behavior... yep... it's also fear.

The Bible is crystal clear: Do not fear. Be anxious for nothing.

If you want to break free from this snare, it starts with 1) calming your physical body 2) investigating the mental tapes playing in your mind. What anxious thoughts have you allowed to run your life? 'I'm not good enough' 'I'm a failure as a husband' "My husband doesn't love me" 

Whatever it is, I challenge you to investigate those thoughts. Get curious about your anxiety.

When you work on acknowledging and understand your fears, you build the resilience needed to face them, biblically. It's not about denying the struggle; it's about leaning in and clarifying what is actually going on. 

This is a technique adapted from Byron Katie, and it is a series of questions you ask yourself. 

A - What mental tape am I repeating? B - Is it true? C - Am I absolutely sure it's true? 

There are a couple more steps we talk through in the podcast, which I'm very excited for you to listen to! 

May God give you grace to walk in His abundant peace and comfort. 

Love, Belah and Team

 

PS - If you want help rewriting that mental tape and want help getting rooted in the truth of Scripture and your marriage, we would love to talk to you. Please contact us at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

 

PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: "[Some of my] quick fire celebrations: -The peace God has bestowed upon my marriage, life, house, and children since walking through this course -The new refreshed hope I have in Jesus -Praying and reading my Bible and actually getting together with people who love and believe in Jesus. I was repulsed by Christians for a while but I now see value in community after doing this course.  -The way I've grown to know what God thinks about marriage and life in general. He actually wants to make it easy and wants to help us not make us work hard or struggle like slaves for the sake of marriage. HE REALLY IS GOOD."