The Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy

5. Three Points of Attunement


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Episode: 3 Points of Attunement

1. Attunement with Client. (Common way of thinking about attunement)

  • The client decides when you are in attunement, not the therapist. Therapists tend to overate the level of attunement.
  • Practical suggestion: Ask your client at times in the session, “Am I understanding you? Do you feel like I am with you in your experience?” As a part of wrapping up the session, you can ask, “Do you feel like I was attuned/with you in your experience?”
  • 2. Attunement with self

    • Energy-matching
  • Tolerance-Therapist has to have a full range of expression. If we think of emotional attunement as a high powered V8 engine, are there more times you are operating on 3 cylinders.
  • Soul-The ability to meet people in really deep places. 
  • 3. Attunement to target

    • Once you are on a mission to get a response back to vulnerability, you sometimes have to intentionally mis-attune with some spontaneous cues that present in order to stay on target to honor the vulnerability that was shared.

    Thank you for listening. We hope this experience helps you push the leading edge in your work to help people connect with themselves and with each other. 

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