I think that one of the lamest things to do is to break up a relationship by text message.

Lame, lame, lame.

But you're married now and looking for a way to keep the flame alive, right? So, today as part of our mini-series of short summer episodes we're looking at a redemptive use of text messages: romancing your spouse!

Romantic Texts Help You Keep Connected

Text messaging works great for this because it is so quick and easy. Not to make it sound cheap. Quite the opposite, actually.

Marriage is a big deal. A very big deal. But even the simple, quick tokens of love that can be sent via text message go a long way to creating resilience and positivity in your marriage.

And when you shoot a quick, heartfelt text to your wife or husband, it can be really touching because it shows that you are thinking of them. The unprompted spontaneity is heartwarming.

Romantic Text Ideas

We've got a PDF of great ideas you can download but first, let me give you the general concept.

The best text messages are going to be those that come from your own heart in your own words.

So here are some general ideas to workaround:

Something you appreciate about your spouse

How about flirting? or be suggestive?

"I love you" out of the blue always hits the mark

Gratitude and appreciation. Simple is fine: thank him/her for making your lunch!

How about a Bible verse that is encouraging?

Share something you just discovered that speaks to a mutual interest

Strengthen him/her in some area where you know he/she doubts himself

Express your commitment and loyalty

How Is This Helping?

What this is doing is helping you develop your fondness and admiration system. That system is a core resiliency in thriving marriages that will help you weather the stress and challenges that life throws at you.

It also helps buffer you against the conflict that we all experience in our marriages.

We'd love to hear from you! What is the most romantic thing your spouse has ever texted you?