Deep Penetration | Gay and Bisexual Dating Advice with Daniel Morales

#53: Feel Lost in the Dating World? How to Find Yourself


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The Queer community, as much as I love it and my passion is in supporting the community, has its issues that need to be fixed. At the end of the day, no community is perfect but we have allowed our personal insecurities to impact how we treat each other within the community. I can speak for myself when I say, I have DEFINITELY curved my personality in certain social settings to try and fit in. The need for acceptance, love, and validation was so strong that in my desire to be accepted, I lost myself. 

 

So, if we are going to unpack this… we should start with understanding the queer experience.

 

1. Understanding the Queer Experience:

 

The queer experience often involves a search for acceptance, love, and a sense of belonging. Society's heteronormative ideals and stigma surrounding homosexuality can create feelings of exclusion and isolation. Because of this, a lot of us have been left to deal with trigger emotions like shame, which can be deeply ingrained, resulting from societal messages that suggest being gay or bisexual is somehow wrong or unacceptable. This usually leads to self-doubt, self-criticism, and a sense of unworthiness.

 

2. Impact of Losing Yourself:

 

In the pursuit of belonging, you may feel compelled to hide or suppress your true self, conform to societal expectations or try to fit into predefined molds. This can result in a loss of authenticity and disconnection from our core identity. When you compromise your true self to fit in, it can strain your relationships. Authentic connections require vulnerability and the ability to show up as our genuine selves. Losing yourself in the search for belonging can stop the development of deep, meaningful connections.

 

3. Healing and Reclaiming Authenticity:

 

Focusing on self-compassion allows you to embrace your authentic self with kindness and understanding. Practicing self-acceptance is crucial in challenging the shame and self-judgment that may have accumulated over time. As queer individuals, our experiences of rejection result in long-term insecurity issues that MANY of us bury. These buried emotions result in difficulty with navigating and managing emotions so recognizing and addressing trigger emotions like shame is essential for healing.

 

4. Surrounding Yourself with Support:

 

Seek a Supportive Community: Surrounding yourself with a community of like-minded individuals who embrace and celebrate your authentic self is vital. Seek out LGBTQ+ organizations, social groups, or online communities where you can find support and connect with others who have shared experiences.

  

5. Embrace Self-Exploration:

 

a. Define Your Values and Beliefs: Take the time to explore and define your own values, beliefs, and aspirations. This process will allow you to align your actions and choices with your authentic self, promoting a sense of congruence and fulfillment.

 

b. Practice Self-Expression: Engage in activities that allow you to express your true self, whether it's through art, writing, fashion, or any form of creative expression. Embracing self-expression can be empowering and help you reclaim your authentic voice


Timestamps:


00:00 Intro

02:45 There is No Perfect Way of Being Gay or Bi

05:00 Understanding the Gay/Bi Experience

08:03 Focus on Self-Compassion and Healing

10:55 Embrace Positivity and Change


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