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#73: The Value of Full Disclosure


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In this episode, we talk about the value of the full disclosure and some of the reasons that doing a full disclosure (for both him and for her) is incredibly beneficial.  Here are some of those reasons:

- for men:  integration of the story and the acting out - as in, making sense of and connecting dots in his story as a whole which informs the recovery and healing process

- for men:  writing out our stories has been shown via research to help with the healing process at a cellular level

- for women:  knowing the truth of our lives helps facilitate the process of forgiving (not to mention it restores honor to know the truth)

- for women:  knowing the truth of his life can eventually help us tap into empathy for him, which in turn helps aid in forgiveness

- for men:  to help uncover the “why” of the acting out (the roots)

- for men:  an opportunity for rebuilding trust

- for women:  helps her get unstuck and sets her on a course to truly grieve what has happened

- for both:  a marker / foundation for them to build upon

- for women:  the ability to integrate the truth of her life into her story (just like he does)

- for women:  witnessing him cultivating ownership (such an important character trait we need to see in him)

- for men:  it’s Biblical

We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us for Season #6.

  • Pennebaker is the researcher out of UT Austin that has shown the impact of writing out our stories to significantly help our bodies heal.
  • James 5:16 - confess you sins so that you may be healed.
  • John 8:32 - the truth will set you free.
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