Liminal Living

78: Chuck DeGroat: Trauma, Narcissism, Deconstruction, Dark Night of the Soul


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  • Pre-order Chuck's New Book: [click here]
  • Chucks Author Page: [click here]
  • Chuck's Amazon Page: [click here]

Takeaways

  • Chuck DeGroat's faith journey was shaped by a mix of embodied spirituality and disorientation due to brokenness in his parents' marriage.
  • He found a broader understanding of faith through the contemplative tradition and the mystics, which opened up a more expansive language for his experience of God.
  • Chuck DeGroat's work as a counselor, spiritual director, and author is rooted in his own experiences of pain and the desire to help others navigate their own wounds.
  • Narcissism in church communities can lead to alienation, disconnection, and the multiplication of pain and abuse.
  • Self-awareness is crucial in navigating narcissistic tendencies, and it allows for growth, transformation, and the ability to acknowledge and repair the impact on others.
  • The dynamic between narcissistic leaders and followers is often characterized by mirror hunger and ideal hunger, where the leader seeks validation and the follower seeks fulfillment of certain needs. Being drawn to authoritarian leaders can be a result of feeling a sense of alignment and connection with them, especially for those who have experienced shame and insecurity growing up.
  • Hypermasculinity is often a defense mechanism to disown shame, and many hypermasculine individuals have experienced profound pain, trauma, and powerlessness in their past.
  • Paying attention to the inner dashboard, which includes thoughts, emotions, body sensations, behaviors, and interpersonal relationships, can help identify symptoms of trauma and the need for healing.
  • Deconstruction and the dark night of the soul are similar phenomena that involve questioning and reevaluating one's beliefs and experiences of God, often leading to a sense of disorientation and abandonment.
  • Being anchored in a state of calm and presence, rather than being stuck in survival mode, allows for genuine connection, curiosity, and engagement with ideas.

Chapters

  • A Journey of Faith and Disorientation
  • Exploring the Contemplative Tradition
  • Navigating Narcissism in Church Communities
  • The Importance of Self-Awareness
  • Transformation in the Midst of Pain and Suffering
  • The Dynamic Between Narcissistic Leaders and Followers
  • Hypermasculinity as a Defense Mechanism for Disowned Shame
  • The Inner Dashboard: Identifying Symptoms of Trauma
  • Deconstruction and the Dark Night of the Soul
  • Anchoring in Calm and Presence for Genuine Connection

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