“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default ” — J.K. Rowling

What if we lived in a world where we not only pushed past our FEAR of failure? What if we embraced it as a way of learning and developing ourselves?

So, how can we get rid of this fear of failure, learn from our failure and start living our lives?

1. STOP SEEING FAILURE AS A MEASURE OF YOUR SELF-WORTH.

Failing can often lead to frustration or sadness. Perhaps you anticipated success or feel embarrassed that the situation didn’t pan out; however, failure is not a measure of your worth or value as a person!

Often your harshest critic is yourself. Try seeing that self-worth through your ability to keep trying and keep going than giving up. 

2. FOCUS ON THE GOOD THINGS. 

After failure, you may feel horrendous about yourself. But in truth, everyone has something unique to them that they do well! Use what you do well to your advantage in the future. Whilst important to improve things about yourself, it’s also important to keep those good things strong. Avoid overly negative thinking by focusing on the positive aspects of yourself and your life. Write a list of 10 things you are good at – big or small! 

3. USE FAILURE AS INSPIRATION. 

As I said before, my failure pushed me to work even harder, and gave me the motivation to push myself further. Use each mistake to build strength and courage. By embracing failure, you will become more comfortable with it as a part of your life and work.When you reflect on that in a week, month, or year from now, you may feel stronger for having faced your failures.

4. BE RESILIENT. 

Have that bounce back ability (I’m sure that’s a football term haha). Being resilient means the ability to bounce back from failure. You might feel depressed or upset with yourself. You may feel like giving up, but with resilience, you look for the positives, you look on the brighter side. Have a recipe for optimism- strive to do better, be confident – believe in yourself and creativity – and have a plan for how to improve!

So, begin to enjoy the failure. Enjoy what it brings you. 

If you have guts, resilience, initiative and tenacity you will see an incredible progress in your mind frame if and when you do feel that failure.