Shameless Leadership

864: Permission to Unload the Mental Load of Motherhood


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The mental load of motherhood is the invisible yet relentless responsibilities, from managing household chores to coordinating family schedules, which often fall disproportionately on mothers. This burden not only involves physical tasks but also includes the (often more exhausting) emotional and cognitive labor of anticipating and attending to the needs of their children and family members.

The Motherload (aka the mental load of motherhood) includes the 175 running lists you keep in your head in every single moment of #everydamnday.

It includes:

  • every school form you need to sign tonight
  • how much creamer you have left in the fridge
  • how many rolls of TP you have in the house
  • when you need to call your mom
  • what bills you need to pay by next Wednesday
  • when the kids have their next day off school
  • every single email you need to reply to today and which ones can wait until tomorrow
  • what time the babysitter is coming on Friday
  • which hotel you need to book for spring break
  • which of your kid’s friends can’t have peanuts
  • which of your kid’s friends you need to buy bday gifts for
  • which socks your kid will NOT wear
  • how many pairs of clean undies every single person in the household has left before you have to do laundry again
  • what you’re having for dinner tonight and tomorrow and the next night and the next night and the next night and the next night
  • which kid will eat crusts
  • which kid will eat carrots
  • Have any of the children had any water today?

  • You are a living, breathing library of information. You are basically hosting an entire internet system right inside your head.

    It’s a lot. Too much. So overwhelming and often maddening.

    And sometimes downright unfair.

    The Motherload is exhausting on so many levels.

    I want to give you some hope. But I’m going to warn you that this will require some work (I promise to keep it simple!) on your part. But the work will be REWARDING. The work will lessen the load!

    When it comes to The Motherload, we tend to make it really hard on ourselves. We get in our own way over and over. We get stuck in perfectionism and martyrdom, making ourselves completely miserable.

    Listen in as I give you 4 methods to manage the madness. These simple methods are going to dramatically improve your life and create space in your head (who doesn’t need more space in their head?!)


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