A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret

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A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret episodes

July 01, 2022 47. Have You Been Hurt By The Church Or Christian Leadership? Conversation w/ Pastor Brandon Beard - Why Church Hurt Runs Deep & Causes Many To Question Faith Or Leave The Church
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Hello my friend!
In Today’s episode I am talking with my dear friend Brandon Beard.
We dive into the topic of “Church hurt”. We know the complexities when it comes to being hurt by “the Church”. We get real, honest and raw about our own journeys as well.
If you have been hurt, I hope this episode blesses you and helps you know you are not alone.
There is hope to heal from those relationships and wounds. But man oh man, it can be a process…so be patient and kind with yourself as you journey through it.
You are going to LOVE Brandon! He’s the real deal (honest and hilarious!) and has been such a place of experiencing God’s Grace for me.
You can follow Brandon at Twitter: @brandon_beard Instagram: brandon_beard
Brandon has been a Pastor for over 30 years. For the past 11 years he has served as Executive Pastor of Campus Ministry at Compass Church, a multi site Church in the Dallas Forth Worth metroplex. Brandon is also a consultant for the Growmentum Group where he helps Churches and non profits find pathways to purpose, health, and growth. He is married to Irene, has two kids in college, serves on the Board of Children of the Nations in Northern Uganda, and cheers loud for all Seattle sports teams.
If you’ve been hurt and need prayer, or just need to be heard, feel free to send an email to [email protected]
Love you!
Dani
Wanting a Spiritual growth guide in any season? I’d love to invite you to join me in The Spiritual Intentions Framework (audio course!-do at your own pace!)— 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
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43 min
June 24, 2022 Episode 46. Is Shame Keeping You Stuck? How Shame and Regret From The Past & Anxiety About The Future Steals From The Present. Conversation w/ Stef Gass.
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Hi friend!
In today's episode, I am having a conversation with my dear friend and coach Stef Gass from The Stefanie Gass Show. Stef is amazing! This episode was first aired on Stef’s show, but I felt it was an important conversation for you to hear as well.
We go deep into why and how shame can keep us stuck and not moving forward in some areas of our life. Shame and regret are huge underlying reasons that hold us back in life.
We both dive into our past a bit and how we can find healing from shame around traumatic things done to us, and the things we have done as well.
I pray this blesses you and that you know, no matter where you are right now in life—you are not alone and you will get through this season!
Mentions:
Desiring to go deeper with God? Or would you like a step-by-step Framework for Spiritual growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
Much love,
Dani
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44 min
June 23, 2022 45. Conversation w/ My Coach Stef Gass. Your Life Matters. There’s More For You To Do On This Planet Than You Think. Your Calling, Purpose & Direction In Life, & How To Figure Out Next Steps
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Hi my friend!
This week we have 2 back-to-back episodes. Both are with my coach and dear friend Stef Gass from The Stefanie Gass Show. Stef has been a guiding light for me with this Podcast journey, and she is one awesome real human being. She's been through so much in her own life and has much wisdom to share with all of us.
The episode coming out tomorrow--Episode 46, we dive deep into the things from our past that hold us back and how to walk with more freedom in our day to day life. That episode actually aired on her show a few weeks ago, but I felt like it was an important conversation for my people to hear as well. I'm so honest and vulnerable in that episode about specific things that held me captive for a very long time. I'm so grateful we can walk uninhibited in life and there's so much inner healing available to us all. You are not alone and remember, healing and finding that freedom can be such a journey and process.
In today's episode we dive into an aspect of our purpose and calling, and how to move forward with the things we long to do. Stef has a God given insight about her, that I know you'll love. :)
Wherever you are on your journey, I hope you find these episodes encouraging and helpful. You are not alone, and I am cheering for you.
So much love & gratitude,
Dani
Need a step-by-step Framework for Spiritual growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
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46 min
June 14, 2022 44. QUICK Encouragement. Feeling Condemnation, Insecurity or Frustrated w/ Yourself? Exploring Other Reasons We Struggle & ‘God’s Non-Condemning Nature’—Dallas Willard & John Ortberg quotes
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Hi friend!
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Many of us deeply struggle with condemnation and being hard on ourself. I was so touched this week when John Ortberg talked on his Podcast about us living in a ‘culture of condemnation’—it got me thinking about why so many of us struggle with feelings of insecurity or are so hard on ourselves in general. I had never thought about how our culture influences us in that way. It was a light bulb moment for me as I process through exploring God’s non-condemning nature towards each of us. There’s hope, you and I are not sentenced to live under the tyranny of condemnation.
Quotes of the week:
“The hardest thing for people to understand about God is His non-condemning nature.”— Dallas Willard
“We live in a culture of condemnation”— John Ortberg
“Instead of condemning yourself. Bless yourself”—Dallas Willard.
Song of the week:
“When Death Was Arrested” North Point Worship // YouTube // Spotify // iTunes //
Inspiring Scripture:
Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus.”
Other mentions:
LINK TO SURVEY for the Podcast. Thank you for your time!
Need a step-by-step guide for Spiritual growth in any season? *audio course-- Join us in The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
Link to John Ortberg’s episode.
Praying for you! Thanks for praying for me and this Podcast.
So much love,
Dani
Need a step-by-step Framework for Spiritual growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com
Need prayer or want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> [email protected]
To get in touch on Social Media -> Facebook and Instagram

23 min
June 07, 202243. Struggle w/ Being Hard On Yourself? Ever Use Scripture As A Weapon Against Yourself? Galatians 5. Fruit Of The Spirit.
Hi there!
So many of us can be hard on ourselves when we don’t feel joy, love, hope, patience, gentleness, self control, etc…
In today’s episode we are digging into how to deal with barriers that keep us from experiencing the Fruit of the Spirit from Galatians 5.
Scripture can be so powerful and usher in so much change in our hearts and minds. At times, it can also be used as a ‘diagnostic tool’ to help us figure out what is going on inside of us. So that we can navigate and find more of the amazing things Jesus has for us to experience.
The 3 barriers to experiencing the Fruit of the Spirit that we dig into today are:
Harmful things that have been done to us
Things we have done that we regret
Grief
I hope this episode encourages and empowers you!
I also share a hilarious story about my parents and the motorhome they owned for less than a month.
So grateful to be with you on this journey!
Enjoy today’s episode and if you need prayer, please email us at [email protected]
I also mentioned Episode #38 - My conversation with Therapist Hannah Warren.
May the power of the Holy Spirit bless and sustain you, no matter what you are walking through.
Much love,
Dani
-->Need a step-by-step Spiritual Formation guide for growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
-->To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com
-->Need prayer or want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> [email protected]
-->To get in touch on Social Media -> Facebook and Instagram
-->Struggling with the “shitty committee” in your head and all of those negative thoughts that are controlling you at times? Here’s some FREE Biblical Affirmations practice that can help: https://mailchi.mp/danisumner/biblicalaffirmations
32 min
June 03, 2022 42. QUICK ENCOURAGEMENT. Feeling Like A Failure? Or Struggling w/ Finding Meaning and/or Purpose? Finding Peace In The Present Moment. Psalm 34, Inspiring & Empowering Quote by Thomas Edison
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Hi friend!
This is a short one to encourage you if/when you ever feel like a failure in any part of your life. There’s hope. I have found it helpful to look at things that didn’t work out in life as lessons and experiences, not ultimately as failures. Easier said than done, I know! But if we can begin that practice—It helps free up so much heart space for us to walk in more peace and joy! There's so much grace for all of us.
I hope today’s quote, song and scripture inspires you.
Quote of the week:
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Thomas A. Edison
Song of the week:
“Survivor” Zach Williams // YouTube // Spotify // iTunes //
Inspiring Scripture:
Proverbs 18:14 “the human spirit can endure sickness, but a crushed spirit who can bear?”
Psalm 34:18 “the Lord is close to the broken hearted. And saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
I’m here for you and cheering you on. If you need prayer or want to get in touch please email me at [email protected]
I love hearing from you!
Much love,
Dani
Need a step-by-step Framework for Spiritual growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com
Need prayer or want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> [email protected]
To get in touch on Social Media -> Facebook and Instagram

13 min
May 27, 202241. Our Relationship w/ Our Future Self Is So Important. How Jesus Can Use Our Future Self To Help Heal Our Present Self or Our Struggles With Our Past.
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Hello my friend!
Today we are talking about our relationship with our future self! Yes, she/he in the future will thank you for it!
Our relationship with our future self is so important, it’s vital in the transforming of our hearts and minds regarding living well in today, and even making peace with our past. The things that haunt us in the past like shame, can be healed as we pray into and dream about our future self. That’s not to minimize any pain or trauma from your past or even that you are walking through today… it’s ultimately to help usher in the healing our souls are longing for.
4 Steps I dig into to help us along the way:
Take time to practice
Permission to heal
Intentional relationships and influences
Start praying and dreaming
So grateful to be with you on this Spiritual inner healing journey! I’m here for you, cheering YOU on! The world needs YOU!
I also mentioned —>The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework—check it out if you are looking for someone to hold your hand and walk you through some Spiritual Growth and Healing strategies using ancient Christian practices. I’m with you!
He has contentment, joy, peace, encouragement and purpose for you… I am praying for YOU!
If you want to get in touch or need prayer—please email us at [email protected]
MUCH LOVE,
Dani
-->Need a step-by-step Framework for Spiritual growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
-->To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com
-->Need prayer or want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> [email protected]
-->To get in touch on Social Media -> Facebook and Instagram
-->Struggling with the “shitty committee” in your head and all of those negative thoughts that are controlling you at times? Here’s some FREE Biblical Affirmations practice that can help: https://mailchi.mp/danisumner/biblicalaffirmations
29 min
May 26, 202240. Let’s Talk About Insecurity & Embarrassment Around Dealing With Your Past. What’s Been Done To You & What You’ve Done Does NOT Define You. But It Does Impact You. (Navigating Through It All.)
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Hello my friend!
Today’s episode was prompted by a conversation I had last week with my friend and Podcast Coach, Stef Gass. Stef’s amazing!
We had the best conversation about things that keep us from living up to our full potential. We talked about roadblocks like shame and anxiety.
Today, I unpacked my process a bit and I share openly about things that I had to work through, things that haunted me for so long—like sexual abuse and infidelity decades ago before I was married.
I’ve been reflecting all week, and I am sooo grateful how far God has brought me! I used to be riddled with shame and angst about so much.
My life and inner world is so much more peaceful now! :)
The 3 steps I mention are:
Intentionally acknowledging that we are NOT defined by the things that have been done to us, or things that we have done. — HOWEVER, in the same breath, acknowledge that those things do impact us. *To deny the impact, denies our experience, and can be harmful to our healing.
You have permission to process and grieve whatever loss or the impact of your experience in your life.
Don’t buy into the belief (lie) that you’re the ‘only one’ who has experienced this situation, OR that you are too far gone or there’s no hope. Buying into that belief/lie, leads us to isolation and despair, a very dangerous combo.
So grateful to be with you on this Spiritual inner healing journey!
Other Episode Mentioned:
Conversations w/ Therapist Jim Beebe--"Finding Peace When Your World Is Not Peaceful" & Accepting Life on Life's Terms
Enjoy today’s episode and if you need prayer, please email us at [email protected] , you are not alone.
MUCH LOVE,
Dani
-->Need a step-by-step Framework for Spiritual growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
-->To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com
-->Need prayer or want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> [email protected]
-->To get in touch on Social Media -> Facebook and Instagram
-->Struggling with the “shitty committee” in your head and all of those negative thoughts that are controlling you at times? Here’s some FREE Biblical Affirmations practice that can help: https://mailchi.mp/danisumner/biblicalaffirmations
41 min
May 23, 2022 39. QUICK ENCOURAGEMENT. There’s A Difference Between Fault & Responsibility. Psalm 49, Tip For Holding On & Thriving Through Any Season.
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Hello my friend!
Does your heart ever feel like a riddle? If it ever feels difficult at times to unpack what you're feeling or going through--you’re in good company! This week’s scripture talks about how complex our feelings and experiences can be. It's so helpful to know we aren't alone! :)
Quote of the week:
“We must all take responsibility for healing our own traumatic injuries.” Peter Levine
“There’s a difference between fault and responsibility.” Walter Lin
Song of the week:
“Hold On” Bishop Briggs // YouTube // Spotify // iTunes //
Inspiring Scripture:
Psalm 49:4 “I will turn my ear to a proverb; with the harp I will expound my riddle"
Cheering for you!
Enjoy this short episode!
Much love,
Dani
Need a step-by-step Framework for Spiritual growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com
Need prayer or want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> [email protected]
To get in touch on Social Media -> Facebook and Instagram
11 min
May 17, 2022 38. Empowering Conversation w/ Therapist Hannah Warren. 1 Simple Tactic To Help You With Feelings Of Overwhelm, Over thinking, Depression, Anxiety, Fear, Regret, Suffering, Loss, Sadness Or Grief
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Hello my friend!
Today we are talking with Therapist Hannah Warren. I am so excited about this episode and all Hannah is sharing with us!
Hannah brings a wealth of experience, knowledge and her heart is so awesome. We talk about day-to-day functioning in life and her advice is so helpful!
She unpacks her simple, yet profound way to navigate grief, loss, frustration and just day to day emotions like anger or sadness that come up. This content is gold! Hannah has a tool she came up with in her practice she calls “The Highway”. It not only helps us navigate and evaluate where we are, but it also helps us with the process of how to get where we want to go in whatever situation or emotion we are feeling. Trust me, she explains it better than I just tried to! ;)
It’s amazing and so helpful!
Grab a piece of paper to take notes for this one if you can!
Mentions:
Lynn Lyons https://www.lynnlyons.com
Dan Siegel “Brain Model” https://drdansiegel.com/hand-model-of-the-brain/
“The Highway” questions:
What is right now?
What am I responsible for?
If you need prayer, please email us at [email protected]
To get in touch with Hannah, email her at [email protected]
Are you done being fed-up and feeling empty? Ready for a Spiritual growth guide in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework (audio course!-do it at your own pace!)— 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
Much love,
Dani
-->Need a step-by-step Framework for Spiritual growth in any season? Join The Spiritual Intentions Framework- 12 foundational principles to Spiritual Growth when all else fails -> https://www.danisumner.com/spiritualintentionsframework
-->To learn more about Dani -> www.danisumner.com
-->Need prayer or want to get in touch? Contact Us At—> [email protected]
-->To get in touch on Social Media -> Facebook and Instagram
-->Struggling with the “shitty committee” in your head and all of those negative thoughts that are controlling you at times? Here’s some FREE Biblical Affirmations practice that can help: https://mailchi.mp/danisumner/biblicalaffirmations
43 min

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