We end this episode with some very heartfelt news that we hope you will support.

"I have found myself in a great relationship for four years but I'm wanting to amp it up in the bedroom a little. I'm finding it hard to voice what I want since we've kinda just done our thing for the last four years with no issues, and I also don't know what I want. I'm just wanting to take control of my pleasure a little more but I also don't want to hurt my man's feelings or confuse him."

"I’m a gay man who’s very recently single. All of my friends are telling me that now is the time I should be jumping on dicks left right and centre. I signed up to Grindr and was FLOODED. However, whilst I am interested, my issue lies with the effort required. Why would I drain my energy when I can get my nut myself in less time it takes to get to their place? With a four year relationship where sex was so easy to get, I don’t know how to hype myself up to actually meet anyone. Do you have any recommendations or should I just self-love for the foreseeable future? It seems like the work is not worth the reward."

"I absolutely adore my friends. I think they are the most stunning, intelligent, incredible humans! However, I don’t seem to be able to give myself this same love. I genuinely really struggle to do anything other than compare myself to them. 

On our last couple of nights out, we’ve all been having the best time, absolutely knee deep in vinos and I’ve found myself telling anyone who will listen how amazing my friends are, how hot they are and how lucky I am to have them. But in my head all I’m wanting them to say is, “but you're gorgeous too gal” and then get disappointed if they don’t. It’s fucked! Why am I doing this? Any tips on how to learn to love yourself?"

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