Attachment within relationships causes so much pain and worry in relationships. Finding a secure bond can bring peace and safety. However so often in relationships we experience a worry or anxiety. When we have this kind of an experience we move to our learned coping mechanisms. This creates our attachment style. 

Learning how your learned attachment style is impacting your relationship allows you to move out of unconscious response and into conscious response. This more intentional behavior can help us keep the confusion out of our relationships the keep those who are important close.