ADHD reWired

In this episode, Javier Amor joins Eric from New York City! Javier is a real-estate broker and is also an Alumni Community member of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups. Today, Javier shares his journey through chronic pain, managing Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), and self-advocacy. You'll also hear how a curious mindset and the power of questions changed Javier's life, and also how asking better questions led to saving his father's life. Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:01:55] Javier shares why he wanted to learn the skill of asking better questions [00:05:29] "It starts with questioning myself." [00:05:51] "How can I communicate to the doctors to make them think without being confrontational?" [00:10:56] The power of the pause, and "Is this going to be constructive, or is it going to 'defeat'?" [00:11:28] Using cues and the "point of performance" to act on new knowledge [00:17:52] Javier talks about managing chronic pain [00:19:08] Javier shares how he prepared himself to see his doctor with what he learned through ArC and the books he's read [00:22:09] Instead of asking x, ask y instead. [00:22:50] Javier speaks about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome [00:25:26] An example of asking curiously vs. telling [00:27:34] "This is my mission." [00:31:28] The importance of asking & advocacy [00:33:26] "I do get stuck, but I don't stay stuck." [00:34:36] "To change self-concept as an adult… takes time." [00:36:43] Eric & Javier share some final thoughts & words of wisdom Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller Book: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work by Marilee G. Adams Instagram: Mrs. Dorender Gray (@dor_the_grayt) Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! Hear all the questions in the full ad-free version of this episode when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon Questions & Topics in this Episode: [00:03:41] "I was wondering if someone knows about an already existing group for business owners who have ADHD." [00:05:02] A listener asks about setting and following through with their intentions as they are in the new phase of life: Retirement. [00:06:57] Our listener and panelists talk about getting more physical activity. [00:11:08] "You're allowed to take some time to transition." - Brendan Mahan [00:13:11] "I am a helper and I sometimes jump into helping-situations without even thinking about it." [00:20:20] Emily, who started their own business, asks about outcome-goals vs. process-goals for their business. [00:25:06] "I've been trying to get into live-streaming, but it still feels like something's missing. [00:27:16] Panelists give tips on energy management and routines. [00:30:22] "Do you have any advice for when we find ourselves frozen in total overwhelm?" [00:38:00] "...I heard you and a podcast guest lament the challenges you both have in grocery stores. Could you explain why this is such a thing for those with ADHD?" [00:43:33] "You mentioned dealing with emotional dysregulation before doing ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Groups. I've only recently started coming to grips with this. Can you say something about this and offer some suggestions in managing emotional dysregulation? [00:49:45] A moment of Dad… Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

In this episode, Eric is joined by Jessica Smith. Jessica was 'accidentally' diagnosed with ADHD at age 25. At age 27, she became a sex worker - specifically an independent webcam model. A combination of creativity, tenacity, and luck helped her to grow a successful business and became one of the top webcam models on her cam site. After spending 5 years in the industry, she unintentionally retired due to social and performance burnout. Jessica attributes a large part of her entrepreneurial success to her ADHD and is now transitioning towards a career in ADHD coaching and streaming video games in her free time! Jessica shares how she was diagnosed with ADHD, her experience in school, her thoughts about her own capabilities, and her view on relationships. You'll also hear how she heard about sex work and her time as a performer, her reasons for leaving the industry, the importance of community for alleviating shame, and her experience in the coaching groups. Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [Timestamps coming soon!] ** Get ad-free episodes and the full conversation of this episode by becoming a Patron at $5 a month or more at adhdrewired.com/Patreon! ** - - - Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens - - - ⭐️ We're starting our 31st season of ADHD reWired's Award Winning Online Coaching & Accountability Groups! It's your last chance to join because we're starting this week - go to coachingrewired.com to get registered!

This week, Eric is joined by Dr. Ryan Sultan, a mental health physician, therapist and researcher at Columbia University. ADHD is a major area of Dr. Sultan's expertise both in his medical practice and in research. In this episode, you'll hear Eric and Dr. Ryan discuss why it's important to treat ADHD, the nuances of research, his reasons for getting into the ADHD space, and whether or not ADHD is underdiagnosed or overdiagnosed. Find out more about Dr. Ryan Sultan at https://www.integrativepsych.nyc/experts/dr-ryan-sultan & Find more available psychiatrists and other professionals for adult ADHD in the New York and New York City area at https://www.integrativepsych.nyc/resources/adult-adhd-psychiatrists-in-nyc Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:01:17] What drove Dr. Ryan to become interested in the ADHD space? [00:03:14] How does Dr. Ryan respond to other medical professionals who say ADHD is overdiagnosed or doesn't believe ADHD is real? [00:05:00] Eric and Dr. Ryan talk about the missing statistics of girls and women being diagnosed with ADHD. [00:06:10] What happens when we don't treat ADHD? [00:07:40] What does it mean to treat ADHD, and what treatment is most effective? [00:11:31] A discussion on Eric and Dr. Ryan's experience with ADHD medication. [00:13:55] What does research say about addiction and ADHD medication? [00:22:12] Dr. Ryan talks about coming out about his ADHD, his journey with his diagnosis, self-esteem, academics, and healing. [00:25:29] How did Dr. Ryan get through med school? [00:27:30] A conversation about the nuances of research, headlines, and TikTok. [00:36:05] What is Dr. Ryan studying now? [00:37:55] Have there been any changes in the diagnostic picture with regards to who is seeking an ADHD evaluation and treatment? [00:40:15] Eric and Dr. Ryan share their observations about ADHD and autism. [00:43:25] Eric has an ADHD moment, then Dr. Ryan asks about tele-health. [00:46:37] Dr. Ryan shares some final thoughts. Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

This week, Eric is joined by Brittany Berger, the founder of WorkBrighter.co, a digital media company and community that helps disabled, chronically-ill, mentally-ill, and neurodivergent creatives better balance between work, play, and rest, so they can burnout less. She started Work Brighter after 5 years working at a high-stress startup that prioritized hustle, growth, and scaling over health. As a "multiply-disabled" human, her body eventually had enough of the constant burnout cycle. Now that Brittany has escaped hustle culture, she spends her time helping others like her to find balance for themselves, advocating for disability justice, and dancing - always dancing! Find out more at https://workbrighter.co or at Brittany's Instagram @workbrighter Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:18] Eric and Brittany talk about workaholism, overachieving, and burning out. [00:05:11] Brittany shares her inner dialogue after making the decision to create the life she wanted to transition towards. [00:06:29] Accepting being not a part of hustle culture. [00:07:56] Brittany talks about the "why" behind starting WorkBrighter. [00:10:30] Eric and Brittany talk about exploring autism. [00:21:38] What is Spoon Theory? [00:23:54] A discussion on time and energy management. [00:24:51] "Eat that frog!" [00:28:27] A conversation about deep work [00:31:10] The importance of thinking of our time as being flexible. [00:37:47] How did Brittany start to change her life to better suit her needs? [00:40:59] Brittany shares more strategies she's put into place to let her Work Brighter. [00:42:14] A discussion on managing email and batching tasks. [00:49:39] Brittany gives a closing thought. Resources & Honorable Mentions: Article: What is ARFID? Article: The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino Book: Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time by Brian Tracy Book: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World - Cal Newport Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

Registration for our 31st season of ADHD reWired's award winning online video-based coaching and accountability groups is happening now! 2023 is just around the corner, so if you're done with feeling overwhelmed and want to launch into the new year with new and shiny tools made for your ADHD brain so you can live with intention and create actionable steps to finally get started on the things that matter to you, then this is the group you've been looking for. Go to coachingrewired.com to add your name to our interest list and find the dates for our upcoming registration events! Registration is by invitation only, and spots are filling up fast! coachingreWired.com

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A! And get the full ad-free version of this episode when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! Questions & Topics in this Episode: [00:02:12] How have you learned how to accept your ADHD? [00:11:56] How do you keep yourself from comparing your progress and productivity with that of your neurotypical colleagues, especially those who are high-achieving? [00:26:54] I'm considering going back to college part-time and I'm having a hard time not getting freaked out about papers and exams. I just need to know how to figure out how to do it differently from my last two failed attempts. [00:34:09] How do you protect your sleep? [00:42:30] I would like some suggestions on how we manage expectations for those who don't understand us [as people with ADHD]. What would you say to somebody who has no idea what ADHD is about? [00:55:13] A listener asks about managing PMDD and having ADHD. [00:59:14] Any tips on things to look for or do first before finding an insurance provider? Resources & Honorable Mentions: Episode: 356: Mastermind Session with Natalie - PMDD and ADHD Website: Sari Solden Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

This week, Eric is joined by Rahti Gorfien of Creative Calling Coaching! Rahti has coached independent creative professionals, including actors, writers, artists, filmmakers, and tech developers, who are scattered and overwhelmed. She helps her clients break the cycle of isolation, irregular income, and irregular hours, by taking a more structured and entrepreneurial approach to their careers based on their unique strengths and neurological makeup. In this episode, you'll hear about Rahti's journey with mental health, the impact of teams in her life, and how she started a yoga practice and her interest in cooking. You'll also hear about trauma, the 5 success-stopping emotions, being confronted by meaning-making, and wise closing words from Rahti. Find out more about Rahti at https://creativecallingcoaching.com/ Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:04] Rahti talks about how she knew she had to be a performer. [00:07:26] Rahti shares how her journey into coaching started. "Company is stronger than will, and I realized I was trying to do it alone." [00:11:03] Eric and Rahti dive into bipolar and mental health. [00:19:13] The 5 core emotions. "Emotions are the harbingers of what we think, of what we believe." -Rahti [00:22:50] Rahti shares why she is now grateful for her trauma. [00:23:57] The Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted - Brene Brown [00:27:43] Rahti gives a different perspective about being the hero in our lives. [00:29:21] "Emotions are also wise, and they are also convincing liars." -Eric [00:32:29] Where does envy come from in terms of the 5 emotions? [00:35:41] Thoughts on Enoughness [00:43:42] Eric and Rahti share their experiences with boredom. [00:45:51] Is boredom the birthplace of creativity? [00:49:41] Rahti and Eric recap the 5 success-stopping emotions and talk about fear. [00:57:30] Rahti shares about her book, coming in summer of 2023! Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Wishcraft: How to Get What You Really Want by Barbara Sher Quick Read: Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted - Brené Brown Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens Registration for the Winter season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups is happening now! Go to coachingrewired.com to learn more and get started so you can join us in January 2023!

This week, Eric is joined by Chris Wang, the cofounder and CEO of Shimmer, an ADHD startup offering bite-sized coaching to individuals with ADHD! Chris is an entrepreneur, social-impact advocate, angel investor, growth consultant, and forever tinkerer. She believes strongly that business should be used as a force for good, and that positive impact not only isn't the enemy of profit, but is a catalyst. This thesis underpins every decision she makes, especially when it comes to the communities she is a part of and cares the most about, the communities including LGBTQ+, AAPI (Asian-American Pacific Islander), women, non-binary, and neurodiversity - especially with ADHD. Find out more about Shimmer at https://www.shimmer.care Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:26] Chris talks about getting prepared for the show [00:03:20] Eric asks Chris about her story launching Shimmer [00:04:12] Chris shares her experience as a kid and where the messages of "being a kid" came from [00:07:19] Eric asks Chris about a "failure" from a previous business venture [00:08:18] "I have the learning, it's on a sticky note!" -Chris [00:10:14] Where did Chris learn all of the skills she has now that's led to personal growth and building a business? [00:11:33] Eric pokes Chris's brain: "How did you figure out what you needed to figure out?" [00:15:09] Chris shares her journey with feedback and how it's been used to improve Shimmer [00:23:14] Chris walks us through different types of feedback sessions, inspired by https://thefoundercoach.com [00:26:53] What kind of person does it take to engage in vulnerable and courageous conversation? [00:28:36] Chris shares an example of the language used when engaging in a feedback session [00:33:28] "Sometimes feedback stings." Chris talks about dealing with the sting of feedback. [00:37:50] How do you get back up from negative or critical feedback? [00:42:51] Chris shares more about what Shimmer is all about [00:50:23] What is Chris most excited about with Shimmer? [00:54:49] "What are you nerding-out about lately" and the importance of having something fun to do outside of business [00:59:58] Chris gives listeners her final thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Tool: Notion (also an editor's favorite!) Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens

This week, Eric is joined by Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh, also known as Dr. D, a family-medicine physician, clinic medical director, and chief medical officer. Dr. D is also the founder of OverAchieve Life Coaching. Prior to discovering coaching, Diana typically had 200 charts open and a "graveyard" of unfinished projects. Now, she's on a mission to empower healthcare professionals to create simple systems that support their zone-of-genius and reclaim their freedom of time as her clients learn to leave work at work. She is happily married with two children and enjoys travel, painting, Zumba, yoga nidra meditation, and exploring different cultures! In this episode, you'll hear Eric and Dr. Diana talk about her struggles through medical school, the pressures she experienced, and what led to her ADHD diagnosis. Then, you'll hear discussions on the importance of self-care, how we can advocate for ourselves and how we communicate, and putting ourselves first. Find more from Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh at https://www.adhd-lifecoach.com Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:03:59] "You need to stop putting your clients and patients first!" What does Dr. Diana mean? [00:05:14] Dr. Diana talks about living in self-neglect. [00:09:00] Eric and Dr. Diana discuss the statistics of life-expectancy for those of us with ADHD. [00:10:08] Dr. Diana shares her ADHD story. [00:11:59] How did Dr. Diana get through medical school before her ADHD diagnosis? [00:14:37] Dr. Diana shares the catalyst that led to her diagnosis and how her cultural background and upbringing implanted the ideas to "just work hard" and "do whatever it takes." [00:22:16] Dr. Diana shares more about the pressure of being the first person in her family to pursue further education. [00:23.29] How does Dr. Diana set up her environment for the most success? What has coaching taught her? [00:26.19] How does Dr. Diana communicate with her patients? [00:28:12] Eric and Dr. Diana discuss their thoughts about ADHD as a gift. [00:31:50] Eric and Dr. Diana talk about boundaries and how she has conversations around her own boundaries. [00:35:36] "Boundaries from a place of love and a place of compassion." [00:39:35] "How do we leave work at work?" [00:45:12] What does Dr. Diana recommend patients say to their doctors if they encounter a physician that doesn't believe in ADHD, believes that ADHD is something that is 'grown-out-of', etc.? [00:48:31] Dr. Diana shares her definition of success and shares some words of wisdom for listeners. Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: adhdessentials.com with Brendan Mahan hackingyouradhd.com with Will Curb adhddiversified.ca with MJ Siemens