On this week’s episode of Enneagram IRL, we meet with Brian Lee. Brian is a pastor, coach, and speaker. As a survivor of spiritual abuse and religious trauma, he has spent his time since leaving vocational ministry in 2021 working to provide recovery and resources for fellow victims and survivors. In 2023, he created and founded Broken to Beloved, a nonprofit organization that exists to help other victims and survivors through its Annual Summit and seasonal Cohorts, while also providing trauma awareness and safeguarding practices to pastors, leaders an​​d churches.

🔗 Connect with Brian Lee

💻 https://www.brokentobeloved.org/

📷 Instagram: @brokentobeloved

🔗 Connect with Steph!

💻 https://ninetypes.co/

📷 Instagram: @ninetypesco

🎥Youtube: @stephbarronhall

Here are the key takeaways:

• Noticing Type One patterns growing up
• Feeling like a mistake can lead to losing everything
• The Enneagram versus other systems of personality
• Knowing what to do when trauma happens
• What is Broken to Beloved?
• Talking Spiritual Bypass (neglecting psych work) and Toxic Positivity
• How does Brian’s type show up?
• Accessing the arrows to 4 and 7
• Shifting Type One patterns and moving toward transformation 
• Working with shame and “worm theology”
• Discussing Brian’s Social Type One experience with the inner critic
• “One” by Sleeping At Last — “grace requires nothing of me.”
• Words for other Type Ones on this inner work journey
• How to connect with Brian

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Tiny Traumas by Meg Arroll 
• Internal Family Systems
• “One” by Sleeping At Last
• As Long as You Need: Permission to Grieve by J. S. Park
• It's Not You by Ramani Durvasula PhD

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! 

Want to keep learning about the Enneagram? Grab Steph’s new book, Enneagram in Real Life! Find the book, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold.