In this candid episode, I talk with Ralph Brewer—author, YouTuber, and founder of @DadStartingOver and @RealHelpForMen—for an eye-opening and deeply personal conversation about marriage, attachment styles and the realities of sexless marriages. BOOK A SESSION ▶▶▶https://laurahow.com/online-coaching-sessions/

🔥 TOPICS WE COVER:

• Ralph’s personal story of betrayal, divorce, and rebuilding

• Why so many men feel alone and anxious in modern relationships

• What really lies beneath the "dead bedroom" issue

• The avoidant/anxious dynamic that keeps couples stuck

• How unresolved childhood wounds shape our romantic choices

• Tips for men on how to prevent (or repair) a sexless marriage

• Why sex matters so much for emotional health and connection

• The role of therapy, boundaries, and hard conversations in healing

• The importance of modelling connection for our children

💡 Ralph’s Message to Men:

Sex is the symptom, not the cause. If you want to heal your relationship, you have to start by healing yourself. That journey starts with awareness, connection, and accountability.

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• FREE Dead Bedroom Fix video course

• FREE eBook: The Dead Bedroom Fix

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📚 Ralph’s Book: The Dead Bedroom Fix - https://amzn.to/44T9B3p

💻 Ralph’s Platforms: DadStartingOver.com | Help4Men.com

Whether you’re fighting for your marriage or just trying to feel like yourself again, this is a space for real talk, real growth, and real love.

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🔗 Watch Next:

👉 The Sexless Marriage Anger Trap: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mN-9ra4AATs

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⌚️ Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro & Tech Issues

05:25 - Fatherhood & Modelling Love

21:07 - Childhood Trauma

27:32 - Fixing the Relationship

36:45 - The Dead Bedroom Fix

36:57 - Sex & Emotional Connection

46:08 - Ultimatums & Tough Decisions

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