In this episode,

• I give examples of what it means for you to "play it safe" with your woman. 
• Why you play it safe 
• What it sounds like to stop playing it safe, and why this is so important for your connection and sex life!

Do you resonate with this and you're ready to do something about it?
Apply for a Sex Audit. Let's see if we're a good fit to work together. I'd love to help you!

In this episode, I compared me running two miles to your sex life lol. There are distractions, discomforts, doubts, etc. But when you focus on being present with what you want to experience (over and over again), you can quiet the noise.

What if you're not missing the 'technique' to have great sex. What if you just don't have enough practice? 

This is the exact reason why I created Ronan for you. To help you train your mind and arousal so you can have great sex!

And I also have a favor to ask of you...
Would you please leave Ronan a review (even a star rating would be super helpful and takes 2 seconds!) 
This would help Ronan get out there to more men who it can help. Thank you so much!!

In this episode, I give you a list of examples so you can start initiating more non-sexual touch with your wife or girlfriend. This is soo important for your connection (connection is the foundation of a great sex life). 

If you're a man who has an active sex life and feels loved by his woman but struggles with sex due to performance anxiety problems... Then coaching is the best thing for you! It's very common to be in a loving relationship yet still struggle with sex-related challenges. But this does NOT have to be the case.

I can teach you to 

• Trust your body, so performance issues no longer come to mind when you think of sex.
• Change your relationship with sex, so you think differently about it, talk differently about it and feel more relaxed about it.
• Have better sex that pleasures your body and hers. Sex is supposed to be a shared experience between you both, not something one of you 'gives' or 'needs'. Once you understand this perspective, sex feels so much better for you both.

Apply for coaching by applying for a Sex Audit Here.

Hope you enjoy this episode :)

PS.
Did you download Ronan yet? 

In this episode, I'm sharing three more ways to give her more pleasure during sex and these are separate from the tips in Part 1, so if you haven't caught that one yet, go back and listen first :)

I'm Stephanie, sexologist and sex coach for men. I help men overcome performance pressure and have great sex!

Here's what I cover in this episode:

1. Why great sex doesn't have to follow a linear "porn script" as most men learn.

2. Why moving slower and paying attention to the "winning spot" will give your woman more pleasure.

3. What it means to "pay attention to the cumdown"

If you want to learn how to feel pleasure and stay present in your own body during sex instead of stuck in your head, get my app, Ronan:
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ronan/id6760799274

In this episode I'm breaking down 3 things that actually bring most women more pleasure during sex.

1️⃣ Getting her fully turned on before penetration 
2️⃣ Trading the nonstop fast pace for intentional, slower thrusting and why pausing can feel amazing
3️⃣ Letting her grind instead of bounce when she's on top

If you've ever asked her what feels good and received an "I don't know" back, this video will help you both figure it out together.

Also mentioned: Ronan, the app I built to help men understand their own bodies so they can show up better for their partners, especially if you're dealing with premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, ED, porn reliance, or low confidence.

Free week trial available now (only on the app store- for now)

👉 Ronan App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ronan/id6760799274

👉 Submit Ronan feedback: https://stephanieganowski.typeform.com/to/RZx1CtzM

Most people give up too easily and the people around you, the Reddit threads venting, the "this is just normal" advice from doctors and therapists, are actually reinforcing the belief that you're stuck (when you are not!). In this episode, I break down why so much performance anxiety, ED, PE, and delayed ejaculation comes down to one thing: a lack of self-trust.

I share the moment climbing Mount Shasta that taught me what trust actually means, how I let go of "I'm an anxious person" as an identity, and why the language you use with yourself is either working for you or against you. You'll hear real client stories, plus the mindset shift that changes everything: you trained yourself into anxiety, which means you can train yourself into trust.

If you're tired of being in your head, outsourcing your power, and letting the "What-if" thoughts control your sex life, this one's for you!

Ronan App is now live on the App Store. It's built to help you masturbate in a way that actually improves your sex life --> meditations plus an all-new identity piece to shift how you see yourself before you begin. If you're dealing with porn reliance, delayed or premature ejaculation, ED, or you just want to build sexual confidence, start here. First week is free.

Feedback form for Ronan - I would love to hear your thoughts so I can make Ronan the best sex app for men!

Ready for 1:1 coaching to overcome your performance issues and make sex feel easy again?
Apply for a sex audit and we'll hop on a call to see if we're a good fit!

To make changes for yourself and your relationship, it requires acting before you're "ready" so you can build trust in yourself and learn that no matter what happens, you will adapt and be more than ok.

If you don't trust yourself in your relationship it looks like: 

• You not addressing 'elephants in the room' with her and waiting for her to that discussion.
• You asking for her permission, 'letting her' plan things or 'reading her' instead of talking to her directly.
• You waiting for sex to happen or guessing instead of understanding exactly what leads to it happening.

She will not trust you unless you fully trust yourself first. If she cannot trust you, she cannot connect with you. If she cannot connect with you, she will not want to have sex with you.

When you're ready to own that your relationship and sex life is not in a good place and realize there is work to do that you're no longer willing to put to the side-  apply for a Sex Audit. 

When you need sex (or other external things) because it's the only way you can feel a certain way (love, connection, masculinity, feeling seen, appreciation, etc.), you lose trust in yourself and you lose options. Relying on yourself provides you a sense of freedom and ease in your body and in your relationship with your partner. That ease and those options allow you to practice other ways to feel what you want to feel and this is where you build confidence and also more attraction within yourself and your relationship.

Something I want to add that I didn't mention in this episode when I shared my boyfriend's take on this, is how it impacts me as his partner. I feel his ease and his want for sex over his pressure and need for sex. It makes our sex life be something we do to add to our love and connection, not the only source. 

Do you have a specific situation in your relationship you want to be coached on so you have specific actions for moving forward? Whether it's around your delayed ejaculation, ED, premature ejaculation, sex skills, mindset or a situation with your woman where you feel stuck...

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You'll be anonymous and you'll see the questions and coaching I provide other men in Built Daily (which I'm sure you can relate to).

When the sex you're having doesn't go according to plan, most men go quiet, spiral into "woe is me," and wait for their partner to reassure them, instead of taking the lead. In this episode, I break down a recent client breakthrough that shows why that pattern keeps your sex life stuck and what changes this feedback loop.

The real win isn't staying hard or "performing" perfectly. It's how you respond when things don't go ideal. That's the moment that sets a new trajectory and standard, builds your partner's trust, and starts a completely different feedback loop. We get into why this is a pressure problem rather than a sex problem, the difference between chasing relief and feeling calm and grounded, and how showing up with conviction changes how your partner responds to you.

If you're tired of waiting for things to magically go right in your sex life, this one's for you.

Want personalized help with your specific sex challenge?

Check out my new offer, Built Daily: You can submit your question anonymously and get an audio coaching answer with your next step to take. 

Ever turned to your partner at 9:30pm, asked "you wanna…?" and rolled over disappointed when she said no? She didn't reject you... she rejected the way you initiated.

In this episode, I break down the three ways most men initiate sex that almost guarantee a "no". None of them are your fault, you weren't taught this. But once you see which one you fall into, you can stop blaming her (or yourself) and start building the kind of connection that makes sex feel inevitable instead of awkward.

I'll walk you through what real initiation looks like... the small, intentional moments throughout the day, the touch, the eye contact, the way you talk to her like she's your woman and how that completely changes what happens at night. This is about creating the frame and the energy that sex actually lives inside of.

If you want me coaching you on your situation, not just teaching you in general, that's what Built Daily is for. Founding 20 men get $50/month locked in for life:

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