Do we have the authority to keep other kids off their own devices in our home?
A listener wrote in to ask:
"How have you all handled other kids' devices in your home? My 9-year-old daughter has neighborhood friends come over most days. There is an 11-year-old with an iPhone and little to no restrictions on its use. Is it overstepping to say that if another kid's device comes in, it has to stay on our kitchen table until they leave?" 
Margaret says that it's totally within your control to decide how devices are used in your own house. Have a basket where phones and tablets can be placed at the beginning of a playdate. Or allow their use only in the areas of the house where you can monitor their use.
Don't feel bad about keeping a hard line, even if you get comments or eyerolls from kids. You'll feel much better if you don't have to constantly worry about what kids might be doing on their devices in your house—because that really is your responsibility.

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Ask Margaret: How Do I Handle Devices on Playdates?

When you're a parent, every day brings a "fresh hell" to deal with. In other words, there's always something. Think of us as your funny mom friends who are here to remind you: you're not alone, and it won't always be this hard.
We're Amy and Margaret, both busy moms of three kids, but with completely different parenting styles. Margaret is a laid-back to the max; Amy never met a spreadsheet or an organizational system she didn't like.
In each episode of "What Fresh Hell" we offer lots of laughs, but also practical advice, parenting strategies, and tips to empower you in your role as a mom. We explore self-help techniques, as well as ways to prioritize your own needs, combat stress, and despite the invisible workload we all deal with, find joy amidst the chaos of motherhood.
If you've ever wondered "why is my kid..." then one of us has probably been there, and we're here to tell you what we've learned along the way.
We unpack the behaviors and developmental stages of toddlers, tweens, and teenagers, providing insights into their actions and equipping you with effective parenting strategies.
We offer our best parenting tips and skills we've learned. We debate the techniques and studies that are everywhere for parents these days, and get to the bottom of what works best to raise happy, healthy, fairly well-behaved kids, while fostering a positive parent-child relationship.
If you're the default parent in your household, whether you're a busy mom juggling multiple pickups and dropoffs, or a first-time parent seeking guidance, this podcast is your trusted resource. Join our community of supportive mom friends laughing in the face of motherhood!  
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How can a step-parent gain the trust of her kids as she becomes part of their family? Cameron Normand, founder of Stepfamily Solutions, discusses her own experience as a stepmom and offers some helpful takeaways for navigating stepfamily dynamics.
Cameron and Margaret discuss:

The biggest misconception about stepfamily life

Cameron's top piece of advice for new stepmoms

How to deal with a stepchild or ex-spouse who is less than accepting


Here's where you can find Cameron:

stepfamilysolutions.com

@stepfamilysolutions on FB, IG, and TikTok

Listen to Cameron's podcast "The Stepmom Diaries"


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Fresh Take: Cameron Normand of "Stepfamily Solutions"

When we explain to our partners and families that we need them to pitch in around the house, we sometimes hear back that the real problem is our too-high standards. That if we actually think "doing the laundry" means FOLDING the laundry, instead of leaving it in the dryer, that that is just too high a bar.
Eve Rodsky, author of FAIR PLAY, suggests that partners establish a "minimum standard of care" for household duties. But how does that get set? And is that really all it takes?
In this episode Amy and Margaret discuss:

How to use "community standards" to determine minimum standards of care

The tired old idea that women have impossible standards

Why it might be your system that's the problem, and not your partner


Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Sheila Wray Gregoire for Bare Marriage: EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: HOW DO WE DECIDE WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE?


Listen to our Fresh Take with Eve Rodsky

Eve Rodsky's FAIR PLAY: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780525541943


Leslie Goldman for The Cut: The Marriages Hanging On by a $19 Deck of Cards


Buy Lyz Lenz's book THIS AMERICAN EX-WIFE: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780593241127



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Do We Need to Lower Our Standards?

This month, we're doing a deep dive series into mom guilt—why it's so pervasive and what we can do about it. You can find the playlist with all of the episodes in the series here. 
Dr. Pooja Lakshmin, MD is a psychiatrist and author specializing in women's mental health. She is a frequent contributor to The New York Times and the founder of Gemma, the first digital education platform dedicated exclusively to women’s mental health. Dr. Lakshmin is most passionate about empowering women and sees her clinical work as a perinatal psychiatrist as an extension of this mission.
In this episode we discuss mom guilt, stress, self-care, the anxiety of this ongoing pandemic moment, and how we can reclaim ourselves amidst it all. 
You can find Pooja on Instagram @poojalakshmin and at her website: poojalakshmin.com

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DEEP DIVE: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin on Burnout and Mom Guilt

Are female friendships really more complicated than male friendships? Does that make our friendships more valuable?
Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator on the science of women’s platonic connections. In her new book FIGHTING FOR OUR FRIENDSHIPS, Danielle explains what makes female friendship strong as well as tips for making and keeping great friends. 
In this interview, Danielle and Amy discuss:

The three central affinities that bring women together: secrecy, symmetry, and support

How to compassionately approach friends who are flaky

Scripts for navigating common issues in friendships


Here's where you can find Danielle:

www.betterfemalefriendships.com

@daniellebayardjackson on IG

@thefriendshipexpert on TikTok

Listen to the "Friend Forward" podcast

Buy FIGHTING FOR OUR FRIENDSHIPS: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780306830617



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Fresh Take: Danielle Bayard Jackson on "Fighting for our Friendships"

This month, we take the Myers-Briggs personality test live on air—Margaret answers with her first instinct and Amy parses every question within an inch of its life. The results will and will not surprise you...

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Ask Margaret: How Do I Handle Devices on Playdates?

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