At a Total Loss

Ashton and I connect to talk about her beautiful daughter Sage who died at full term due to a cord accident.  Ashton is no stranger to heartbreak & struggles & she opens up about her first miscarriage that set the foundation for how she would go on to cope with the death of Sage.  This conversation has so many nuggets of wisdom, insight, advice & hopeful examples of forward movement. What you're hearing is 2 people openly & honestly discussing their experiences with tragedy & trauma while putting in tons of hard work in order to live a life of purpose where grief & gratitude coexist.  REAL TALK.

Ashton is a certified transformational life coach and mentor for impact driven entrepreneurs and high performers. She will help you go from surviving to thriving. Her mission is to support you in creating your version of success and fulfillment.

You can find her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/ashtoncantou/

Check out here website: https://www.ashtoncantou.com/

Her blog: https://www.ashtoncantou.com/blog

https://www.ashtoncantou.com/copy-of-confidence-catalyst-2

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief follow me!...

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Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

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My girl Sydney and I discuss her life after the death of her first son Adam on Valentine's Day 2021. Her story is open and very honest, personally what I dig most about her.  She talks about how much blame she has on her Doctors and, sadly, on herself & how she coped with that. We go into pregnancy after loss and what that was like giving birth to her rainbow baby.  She is super honest about gender disappointment and processing the opposite sex of her baby that died...And then we start talking about all the other kinds of stuff! Mediums, and spirit babies, and signs from our children, and all the cool stuff that comforts us. Check this one out and have an open mind and an open heart...

To connect with Sydney, find her on IG @Sydney.mcclain

Book we discuss: Spirit Babies

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

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Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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I sit down with my husband, Brody's father, Michael to discuss Brody's 1st Birthday and what this year has been like. He is very open and candid with his experiences with grief, coping, and dealing with me. We go IN on the dynamics between Loss Parents and how we are so different.  

Michael is open to discussing any and all things about loss with other Loss Dads.  You can find him on IG @lazar.michael

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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Local to Atlanta:

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Katie and I talk about her beautiful daughter Makenna, who was born early and lived for 4 days in the NICU.  Katie discusses very openly her experiences with her birth and the days to follow.  She is feisty as hell, and I love how open she is about her grief and the ways she honors Makenna.

We talk a lot in this podcast.  Everything from the love for our babies, to poor treatment from doctors, to grief and even fake online Loss Moms (yes that's a thing)...

Words will never be enough to explain the love I have for my daughter. Makenna dying didn't stop me from being her mom and loving her just as any other parent would love their child. She is my light.

Katie created Rainbows for Makenna.  A non-profit that provides comfort boxes for parents suffering loss. You can shop here: https://www.rainbowsformakenna.com/

And find Katie on IG: https://www.instagram.com/rainbowsformakenna/

NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma.  I am not a doctor or a therapist.  Im just a loss mom giving you a front row seat as to what I've experienced.

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

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Email: [email protected]

Website: https://katherinelazar.com/

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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Ally learned of her daughter Noelle's life limiting diagnosis, Ebstein's Anomaly, during a follow up anatomy scan.  Ally discusses what it was like to live with hope & fear while navigating a pregnancy with so much unknown. Although she only lived 62 minutes on Earth, Noelle's memory lives on in her parent's lives and heart. Ally now uses her spare time to promote Noelle's legacy and advocate and spread awareness to neonatal death, and Congenital Heart Defect (CHD) Awareness.  

Ally is a light in a very dark place & she chooses to tell her daughter's story to help others suffering the same situation. 

Below are some links that are helpful and relevant to what we talked about during the podcast:

Ebstein’s Anomaly: https://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/e/ebstein

https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/JAHA.120.016684

https://academic.oup.com/ejcts/article/45/3/549/441522

https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/CIRCULATIONAHA.115.015839

Comfort care Birth Planning: https://www.perinatalhospice.org/birth-planning

Little Angel Gowns: https://www.facebook.com/littleangelgowns/

Phoenix Children’s Hospital: https://www.phoenixchildrens.org/centers-programs/center-heart-care

Ronald McDonald House: https://rmhc.org

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NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

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Sarah talks with me about her first born son, Nathaniel, who she and her wife Amy conceived through IVF.  His precious life ended traumatically with severe early-onset preeclampsia, placental abruption, emergency C-section, a brief NICU stay and death within his mothers’ arms. Sarah took to grieving while trying to find out what happened, and planning for future pregnancy like a full-time job. In the midst of the uncertainty, she found resources that helped answer critical questions. In honor of her son, she created whenmybabydied.com which aims to offer families a centralized resource hub of information and answers for the question no parent ever thought they’d have to find. Sarah and Amy, in the midst of their grief, have entered into pregnancy after loss, as Sarah is now due with Nathanials sibling.  This comes with many more challenges that we discuss as well.

Here are some great resources that we discuss:

ACOG research:

·         5 attached articles

·         Aspirin for Evidence-Based Preeclampsia Prevention trial: influence of compliance on beneficial effect of aspirin in prevention of preterm preeclampsia: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28888591/

·         Prevention of preeclampsia with aspirin https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32835720/

Harvey Kliman: Reproductive and Placental Research Unit: https://medicine.yale.edu/obgyn/kliman/placenta/pregnancyloss/

Measure the Placenta: https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

Preeclampsia Foundation – Aspirin: https://www.preeclampsia.org/aspirin

Sarah is such a light to speak with and I think so much of what she says will help...To find Sarah on IG: @whenmybabydied

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NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, diagnosing anyone or determining how to handle grief or trauma.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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In this special Christmas episode, I talk with my mom, Brody's Mimi, to hear her perspective on Brody, his death, his life, grief, life after loss and being the mother of a Loss Mom.  I will warn you, there are a lot of tears.  But my mom shares her experiences, her perspective, her spirituality, her faith, her broken heart and all the things that come with being a Loss Gramma.  She had tragedy strike as a kid when her dad died at an early age and just under 2 years ago, her own mother died. Her perspective from someone who has lived a lot of life and what life looks like for her now is incredible to listen to...

For those that wish to reach out to her and connect as a Loss Gramma, you can find her on Instagram @kycakra

I hope this helps for anyone that has someone to talk to that understands, and even for those who don't understand what this is like for everyone involved.

As always, please remember that this is MY experience, my life that I choose to share with you.  You might not resonate with all things that are said.  Nothing is meant to treat, diagnose, or offend anyone. Please use your own judgement about your own grief.

My wish is that this could help someone know that they aren't alone and potentially provide some insight you didn't know you needed.

Merry Christmas to all

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Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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Local to Atlanta:

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Melissa and I talk about her beautiful son Lachlan who died and was stillborn in 2016.  Since then Melissa has become a Pregnancy and Infant Loss Coach, helping others navigate their new world after the late term death of their baby.  Melissa works 1:1 and in groups and will be hosting her first in person retreat next year. She is open, honest, and real about her experiences.  Her honesty and passion for helping others is so inspiring, you'll want to listen to every word she says...

We talk about:

*Life after baby death and stillbirth

*Medical Care in Canada

*Care after the death of our babies

*Living life with grief

*Being outspoken about our loss

*Helping others during their time of need

*Her coaching

*The beauty in seeing people work through the pain on their way to healing

And so much more!...

To find Melissa, check out these links: @healingloading  & @boysin2places

The help centre: PILSC.org

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NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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Local to Atlanta:

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Crystal’s daughter, Sienna Grace, was born just two days before my son, Brody. We connected through shared passion around advocacy for better medical and bereavement care. In this episode, we chat about Sienna’s shocking death during delivery after a healthy pregnancy, and how Crystal and her husband navigate life after loss. Crystal shares the long, painful journey of infertility that finally brought Sienna Grace into their life and how this precious baby girl continues to make an impact.

We dive into talking about personality traits, signs from our babies, setting boundaries, and even our faith in the midst of tragedy. Crystal also shares about the nonprofit organization, Weighted Angels, which helped bring her hope as she left the hospital without her baby. She is now a board member and serves as Secretary and Head of Volunteers for the organization in Virginia.

Crystal also discusses how people have shown support following her daughter’s death and how others can learn to show love to a loss mama too.

For more information about Weighted Angels, please visit weightedangels.com.

You can connect with Crystal on Instagram at @hope_enduring

NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Ad: Scout & Cellar Clean Crafted Wine

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma, or diagnose anyone.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another recording drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

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Faryl and I discuss her beautiful baby, Daphne, and how she has taken on the role of stillbirth, baby loss, and infant death photographer for families in hospitals.  **WARNING: Talk about how a stillborn physically looks and what happens to them.**

We discuss how this affects her grief, her healing, and her recovery from the trauma of losing Daphne. I know her personally here in Atlanta and she has helped me so much.  This episode really gets me.  It's such a sensitive subject when it comes to our baby's photos.  Proceed with caution when you listen...

What we talk about:

*what stillborns physically look like

*her trauma of giving birth at home

*photographing bereaved families

*editing stillborn photos

*turning your pain into purpose

*absolutely insanely mean doctors

and so much more...

To follow Faryl, go to her IG at @faryl_cat 

And her website: www.farylann.com/giving-back

NOTE: These are MY thoughts, experiences and opinions.  By no means am I telling anyone what to do, what's right or wrong, or how to handle grief or trauma.  

This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

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For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Ad: Scout & Cellar Clean Crafted Wine

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/