At a Total Loss

Amy is a certified life and grief coach. After losing beautiful Lauren at 39.5 weeks and River at 14 weeks, she combined her own experiences with stillbirth, weeks, miscarriage and pregnancy after loss with powerful mindset tools to help moms find themselves again after baby loss. This conversation is raw and real covering all emotions that grief entails.  Her message of how we're all so different yet so similar in grief, how we should grieve how we need to, and that there is hope and light waiting for us when we are ready, is an intensely important message for all.

Amy has a podcast to help other Loss Moms and here are her links:

Links: smoothstonescoaching.com

Podcast: Smooth Stones

Instagram: @amy.smoothstonescoaching

Facebook: Smooth Stones Coaching

Moria's beautiful baby, Noah, was born still March 9, 2021.  Moria radiates energy, hope and positivity in her experiences after loss.  Her ministry, Mother of Wilde, creates beautiful prints of babies lost and her relationship with the Lord is a huge part of her journey.

We talk about hope vs hopeless, digging yourself out of suffering, God's calling for us, being a light, and most importantly our beautiful boys and what they've taught us.

This episode speaks to those who are in need of light, those who question their relationship with their faith, those wanting inspiration on how to honor their babies, and also, anyone who just needs to hear beautiful words from a Loss Mom herself. 

Follow Moria on Instagram: @motherofwilde

Her website: https://www.motherofwilde.com/

In this episode, Katherine talks with her sister Kristina.  They discuss the viewpoint and perspective of the support person of a Loss Parent.  Trying to help a Loss Mom after the death of their baby doesn't come with an instruction manual, yet Kristina did a good job of navigating this horrible tragedy to support her sister. She describes where she got her direction from, what it took to stay close, how she managed to keep showing up and all the things that she did to never give up on Katherine.  This is an insightful perspective for anyone looking for direction on how to help a Loss Mom or parent. Because, helping the person closest to the parents suffering will directly help the Loss Mom. 

If you'd like to reach out to Kristina, find her Instagram here: @kristinaafitz

Erica talks about her beautiful daughter, Verity, who died just 13 days after her birth.  She opens up about what happened to her and what happened next after her preventable death.  We talk about survival mode, intention vs impact, bills bills bills, trauma response, treatment from healthcare professionals, triggers, and so much more.  Her wicked personality and her desire to help others is awesome to listen to.  Verity is definitely so proud of her momma!

Things mentioned in this episode:

Erica's Instagram Profile: @travelingwithgrief

Book: Bittersweet by Susan Cain https://susancain.net/book/bittersweet/

Movie: Return to Zero

Helpful IG page: Real Life Midwife

**Trigger Warning:  baby in the background around 29:50 mark** Megan's daughter, Grace, died at 38 weeks and was born still on June 6, 2020.  Megan opens up about her heartbreak and about how she coped after the death of her first child.  She speaks about her switch in mindset, and how she actively tried to reposition her outlook to a more positive one while choosing better ways of handling grief and sadness.  She also discusses her relationship with fitness and how it changed after Grace.  

You can follow or message Megan on her Instagram @meganbutler28

Domenique is a big voice in the Stillbirth and Baby Loss community.  She has been an inspiration to so many as she openly speaks about her experiences after her son TJ was born still in May 29, 2017.  Domenique talks about finally getting answers to what happened to him as well as her unapologetic way of grieving.  She is also a champion for change, teaming up with several organizations to help prevent stillbirth from happening. Her insight is knowledgeable, insightful, inspirational and compassionate.  This is one episode you do not want to miss!

Domenique mentions several helpful links and contact information throughout the Episode:

How to get in touch with Domenique:  @stillbirthmamafightingforlight

Push for Empowered Pregnancy: @pushpregnancy

Still Counts Campaign: @stillcountsorg

Count the Kicks: @countthekicksus

PushPregnancy.com

Dr Harvey Kliman- Placenta specialist at Yale University

And as always, find me on Instagram: @thekatherinelazar

Kelsey's first born son Patrick was stillborn May 10, 2019.  We discuss genetic blood disorders that cause clots and the medication that is needed to maintain. Kelsey speaks beautifully about how to separate the sadness and the happiness in the loss of her baby.  She expresses that we are the biggest advocates for our children and how losing them is now part of our lives.

Kelsey loves to hear from Loss Moms.  She can be followed on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/kelsey.heslin/

When Katherine's son Brody died, her world shattered.  She had no idea what to do with this level of grief.  Katherine decided that she needed help surviving while still honoring her son so she reached out to other Loss Moms to try to understand what was happening.  Here she found support, motivation, inspiration, hope and even some laughs.  She thought, hell, if these conversations helped her so much, maybe they could help others.   So she documented conversations with Loss Moms.  Here, she explains what to expect on the At a Total Loss Podcast...

Katherine would love to hear your story.  Go to www.katherinelazar.com to submit a request

Liz's first son, Harrison, was born still on October 20, 2021.  Liz talks about the changes she's making in her workplace to receive recognition for bereavement and stillbirth rather than if she had a living child.  She does things with a senes of humor and strong outlook on how to handle grief and who she is now. Follow Liz and bother her with questions! Go to her instagram: @lizmeyers19