This is my second of three episodes about toileting and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy).

This episode is focused on what to do if your child has challenges with:

1 - Wiping

2 - Accidents

3 - Holding and constipation

4 - Pooping outside the toilet

5 - Peeing outside the toilet

Of course, I'm talking through taking a PDA/nervous system approach to helping your child or teen with these challenges. If you want to take a deeper dive into understanding why your PDA child or teen has these challenges, please check out my previous podcast episode (Ep. 142).

Also, in this episode I mention the decision making process I teach parents who are trying to decide when they should change their child or teen's diaper if doing so causes activation. If you want to learn more about making such decisions (or others), I teach how to do so in my free masterclass: School, Screens and Siblings, Oh My! Here's a link to where you can sign up for it for free:

https://at-peace-parents-podcast.captivate.fm/sssoh

xo,

Casey

This is my first of three episodes about toileting and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy).

This episode is focused on how to think about toileting over the long term with your PDA child or teen. Specifically, I talk through:

1 - Your questions in the following categories: wiping, holding and constipation, potty training, going outside the toilet, and accidents

2 - Logic and root cause of toileting struggles through the PDA lens

3 - What a stickiest basic need is and whether or not your child is in burnout

4 - 5 things to try in your home now

5 - Tracking progress so you can see clearly if this approach is helping your child

I hope it’s a helpful episode for you.

Xo,

Casey

PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

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In this episode I spoke with a mom of a 4-year-old PDAer (Pathological Demand Avoidant) and a 10-month-old baby living in an apartment in Scotland.

She had just learned about PDA one month ago and had already made huge and brave changes in her home and parenting to support he son.

We discussed:

- How to start making a parenting paradigm shift if you are new to PDA.

- The importance of an experimental mindset as you are trying out new ways of supporting and accommodating your PDA child.

- How to pick your priorities for boundaries in the home. In this case we focused on safety around the baby, bedtime, and bathing once a week.

- How nervous system activation is cumulative over time (months and years) for PDA children and teens, which means we don't have to be perfect with accommodations, just consistent.

This episode is from the show we stream live on Fridays on our social media, "Parenting PDA Your Way." I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

With love,

Casey

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Sorcha Rice is an occupational therapist and the clinical manager of Neurodiversity Ireland, who I met at their 1st conference last year. She identifies as AuDHD and PDA and spoke with me about how she understands and experiences PDA, what her childhood and teen years were like before she was diagnosed, going through burnout and recovery, how she manages her nervous system now, and some of the practices she incorporates to support her PDA occupational therapy clients.

It was wonderful to connect with Sorcha and hear her insights and so much of her story!

I hope you enjoy it too.

Xoxo,

Casey

PS - You can find more about Sorcha on instagram at both @ot_sorcharice and @neurodiversityireland

And in our conversation she also recommended a resource for other OTs - Kim Barthel.

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Want to check out our special "Try Before You Buy" offer for the Paradigm Shift Program. Use the link below to learn more and join the program waitlist to get access to the offer.

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In this episode I speak with a mom of a six-year-old PDAer who wouldn't eat or drink and was extremely dysregulated during a holiday because of a loose tooth.

We discussed:

1 - how internal demands and losses of autonomy like losing a tooth matter as much as external demands.

2 - the importance of understanding PDA as a fluctuating nervous system disability.

3 - creative ideas for deepening accommodations the next time there is a loose tooth.

I hope you find the episode helpful. It's from the show we stream live on our social media on Fridays, Parenting PDA Your Way.

xo,

Casey

Here's part 2 of my episode on the 10 hardest lessons I learned in 2025. They include:

6 - Your PDA child can go into burnout even if you're fully accommodating them.

7 - Burnout can feel like you are making no progress, especially with an internalizer.

8 - Screens can be a wonderful thing.

9 - Your kids will surprise you.

10 - Spirituality sustained me.

xoxo,

Casey

Happy New Year! I'm kicking off 2026 by sharing the 10 hardest lessons I learned parenting my PDAers (often the hard way) in 2025.

The first five are in this episode:

1 - There are some things in life you can't outsource

2 - The key to sanity is accepting constraints and finding agency within them

3 - Doubt about PDA is the antidote to dogma

4 - The importance of trusting yourself in the face of judgement

5 - Burnout with trauma is different than burnout without trauma

xo,

Casey

In this episode I talk with a mom about her 7-year-old daughter - with PDA, ADHD and anxiety - about when she might help her build her frustration tolerance, and when she likely cannot.

We also dive in on a specific challenge she was facing when her both her daughters need support at the same time.

The conversation is from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our Facebook, Instagram and YouTube most Fridays at 1pm ET.

I hope you find it helpful!

xo,

Casey

In this episode I speak with a mom of a PDA 14-year-old who regulates himself by wrestling his father after school each day, which causes Mom lots of anxiety. Together we use my cost-benefit decision making tool to weigh her options and she then decides a new strategy to try.

We talked about the option of her leaving the house while the wrestling happens. And we talked through letting go of control of her husband's decision making around wrestling and care for his own back.

I hope this episode is helpful for you. It's from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our Instagram, Facebook and YouTube most Fridays at 1pm ET.

xo,

Casey

In this episode I speak with a mother of a PDA teen about:

• Setting boundaries when other kids are involved
• Making decisions in public when you are being judged
• Helping young siblings understand the PDA threat response.

The episode is from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live most Fridays on our Instagram, Facebook, YouTube accounts.

xoxo,

Casey