There is no dearth of relationship quizzes out there that will help you determine how you attach. But does how you were loved as a child shape how you love as an adult? Is this all bullshit? And if not, can your attachment style be changed? Eleanor takes these questions out for a spin with a few people who have thought a lot about how we attach.

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