Who Cares - two simple words that are the antidote to your fear of being too much.

Should I really have posted about that multiple times? 
Should I really have worn that crazy outfit? 
Should I really have sent that text?

WHO CARES. 

I discovered this about a month ago and started saying it to my friends whenever I caught them in a doubt spiral, but it took me a minute to fully embody it for myself. In this episode I break down why it's such an essential reframe for a lot of us who have a deep seated fear of being too much. I share my process of leaning into this mentality, why and how it works, and an (embarrassing) story from my childhood that I realize now was the beginning of shrinking myself away from the spotlight. 

No one super successful, with big main character energy got to where they are by playing it safe or doing and being less. So when it comes to your creativity - do the most. Be extra. You have nothing to lose, literally who tf cares!!!

x,

A

Links:
Listen to Paradox!
Celebrity Energy
The Crime of Outshining Others

Anyone who ever achieved anything started somewhere. An idea was born at a kitchen table, a song was played to a room of five people, a first video ever was posted on youtube, a lamp was made out of vase and bowl scraps in a second bedroom (re: Ceramicah). No one knows what the answers are before they start. Starting is how you get the answers, and everyone has to be a beginner before they can be an expert. But I think it's easy for us to forget that because we are constantly comparing our beginning to someone else's middle. Especially those of us who switched career paths or are trying something new/taking something we've always been interested in seriously for the first time in our lives. It's vulnerable and daunting. But the unknown is also exciting, it means anything can happen. In this episode I riff on the idea that everybody starts somewhere, sending a message to myself (and anyone else who needs to hear it) that we really can get over our fears and just do it.

x,

Alex 


@alexandra.cadiz
@attunedpodcast

I have always been notoriously bad at protecting my energy. I’ve lived most of my life as a people pleaser so in the past I’ve given away my time and energy like it’s nothing. But the older I get the more it hits me that time is finite and energy is sacred. We have a limited amount, so we need to protect it. 

This episode is a crash course in how to protect your energy. It’s a break down of the most important things I’ve learned after burning myself out so hard that I had no choice but to learn them. I cover everything from understanding your own limits and how to graciously turn down an invite, to realizing when things are out of your control and not your weight to carry.  This is an episode I will keep coming back to in the future when I need it and I hope it can be that for you too. 

x, 

A

@alexandra.cadiz
@attunedpodcast

I really believe confidence is a muscle that we can build, and the more we practice it, the more it will grow. A big goal of mine for 2023 is to work on my outward confidence and how I present in the world. I want to be able to walk into a room with my head held high and own the space that I take up. Not be afraid to let people see me and put myself first with ease and grace. I know this is much easier said than done and a lot of us struggle with our confidence on a daily basis, so in this episode I break down five actionable things we can start doing right now to boost our self esteem and the way we present in the world.

x,

A  

@alexandra.cadiz
@attunedpodcast

A year ago today Micah and I were in Mérida for our wedding. It was a week long affair with multiple events leading up to the big day and contained some of the most unforgettable moments we've ever have. However, it didn't come without its own set of anxiety and emotions.

Anyone who has planned a wedding (especially in a pandemic) knows that it can be a  rollercoaster. For us there were many unexpected twists and turns including rain, multiple injuries, important guests not being able to make it, last minute vendor changes, etc. So much of wedding culture in media and movies tells you that your wedding is supposed to be the most perfect, amazing, happiest day of your life. But the reality is, planning such  an intimate and significant event can be extremely vulnerable. It's so much pressure mixed with very high expectations and a shit ton of logistics.

I put off making this episode for a while but ultimately thought it was important to share because not enough people talk about this. There were so many moments when I felt crazy and wished I could hear someone else's story to make me feel less alone. So this episode is for anyone who is currently going through the wedding planning process and feeling it too. Please know that you're not alone, and while your wedding should be (and will be!) so amazing and joyful, don't deny any other feelings you have around it too. They are just as valid, completely normal, and in the end it will all be part of the story.

x ,

A

Our Vendors
Venue: Private Haciendas
Planning: Nicoella Events
Photography: Marissa Alves
Dress: Roxanna Moix
Flowers: Floweriize
Rentals: Archive Rentals
Catering: Apoala

View our Photos here.

@alexandra.cadiz
@attunedpodcast

A year ago today Micah and I were in Mérida for our wedding. It was a week long affair with multiple events leading up to the big day and contained some of the most unforgettable moments we've ever have. However, it didn't come without its own set of anxiety and emotions.

Anyone who has planned a wedding (especially in a pandemic) knows that it can be a  rollercoaster. For us there were many unexpected twists and turns including rain, multiple injuries, important guests not being able to make it, last minute vendor changes, etc. So much of wedding culture in media and movies tells you that your wedding is supposed to be the most perfect, amazing, happiest day of your life. But the reality is, planning such  an intimate and significant event can be extremely vulnerable. It's so much pressure mixed with very high expectations and a shit ton of logistics.

I put off making this episode for a while but ultimately thought it was important to share because not enough people talk about this. There were so many moments when I felt crazy and wished I could hear someone else's story to make me feel less alone. So this episode is for anyone who is currently going through the wedding planning process and feeling it too. Please know that you're not alone, and while your wedding should be (and will be!) so amazing and joyful, don't deny any other feelings you have around it too. They are just as valid, completely normal, and in the end it will all be part of the story. 

x ,

A
 

Our Vendors
Venue: Private Haciendas
Planning: Nicoella Events
Photography: Marissa Alves
Dress: Roxanna Moix
Flowers: Floweriize
Rentals: Archive Rentals
Catering: Apoala

View our Photos here.

@alexandra.cadiz
@attunedpodcast

Happy Lunar New Year!

I thought I would take this opportunity to share a simple new years practice that I do every January in order to set intentions for the year ahead. I think it's super important to reflect on the previous year and take some time to think about what happened before diving straight into what's next. It helps us connect with what really matters and offers clarity around where we need to focus our attention and maybe need more help/growth. This practice is meant to be super intuitive and led by your feelings, not logic or strategy. It's less about coming up with concrete goals and more about being intentional about how you want to feel in the year ahead and what you need to do to achieve that. I hope this exercise helps you set your own intentions for 2023 and feel motivated to get what you want.

x,

A

@alexandra.cadiz
@attunedpodcast

I’m so tired of this invisible narrative that we have to wait for someone else to say our shit is good before we say it ourselves. That we need external validation in order to believe that our creativity is worthy of being shared with the world. We don’t have to wait, we can give that to ourselves right now. We can be our own best hype person, we can flip the narrative in our head and declare that we’re Good instead of waiting for someone else to. 

I feel like one of the most radical things a person can do is declare their own greatness. It’s not vain, it’s not arrogant. It’s just taboo. The most magnetic people to me are people who have said - damn, I’m really really good at this and the world deserves to see it. Think Lizzo vibes. That shit is magnetic affff and I think we're all capable of doing it for ourselves and building that kind of confidence from within. 

In this episode I hype you up to hype yourself up and I promise you'll walk away feeling reinvigorated to dive into your own creative projects and hit the ground running in the new year.

x,

A

@alexandra.cadiz
@attunedpodcast

At this very moment I feel more in my body and aligned with how I physically show up in the world than I ever have in my life. I used to feel guilty about wanting material things like clothes, makeup jewelry & nice shit. But now I see the physical things I select in my life as a form of self expression. A way to align how I feel inside with my external world. 

When we level up, do the emotional work and start truly loving ourself on the inside, it naturally shows. And being intentional about how we curate our physical world on the outside contributes greatly to embodying that confidence. It is deeply important, not frivolous or vain. 

In this episode I talk about this concept and share my journey to embracing how I express myself on the outside and invest in the material things in my life. This episode is for anyone who has been struggling with their own physical identity and needs that little extra encouragement to go for it and take a risk. xx 

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The creative process is never easy or straightforward, and pursuing multiple creative projects at once can make it even harder. In this episode I talk about the ups and downs I've been going through the past few months with my own projects, two big  reframes that have helped me keep going, and a lot more including...

- How being overwhelmed with the amount of work on your plate can make you feel  disconnected from yourself and the purpose of your creative endeavors

- The fear that if you neglect one creative project or put it on the back burner for a bit it will fall behind and never go anywhere

- The struggle with switching between different parts of your brain when working on multiple projects and giving yourself grace to not be hyper creative & hyper productive all the time

- Normalizing  being at capacity with life and work and not having a lot to give to all your creative projects no matter how important they are to you

- The pressure of timelines we put on ourselves to achieve things by a certain date or age

- Questioning your identity as a creative and the gap between knowing who you are deep down and trying to communicate that to the world

This episode is for anyone struggling with their own creative process and feeling a little stuck or discouraged. I really believe that what is meant for you will always come back to you and you will come back to it, so trust yourself and keep going my loves. xx 

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