Janet Walsh-Adams is a neurodivergent PhD candidate at Deakin University, researching a pattern that many autistic people have noticed for years: autistic adults may be more likely to pursue consensual non-monogamy (CNM). We talk about what CNM is (and what it isn't) and how stigma — not the relationship style itself — often creates the biggest risks.

Janet shares personal context alongside early findings from her work, including how autism, ADHD, gender diversity, and LGBTQIA+ identity can overlap with relationship structures like CNM, polyamory, kink/BDSM, and relationship anarchy. We also dig into what clinicians still need to learn (and unlearn) about autistic intimacy, and what Janet hopes her research will change — especially when it comes to safety and autonomy.

Topics explored include:

• What consensual non-monogamy actually means (polyamory, monogamish, swinging, and more)
• Why autistic people are so often miscast as uninterested in intimacy and where myths like these come from
• Autism + ADHD overlap, AuDHD, sensation seeking, and more
• Gender diversity and LGBTQIA+ culture as key factors in relationship styles
• Which group reports higher infidelity — autistics or neurotypicals?
• Why breakups in non-monogamous relationships aren't "proof they don't work"

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If you'd like to know more about topics discussed in this episode, check out:

"Sexuality, Gender, and Autism" by K. Cooke et al. (chapter in The Palgrave Encyclopedia of Disability edited by Gabriel Bennett and Emma Goodall)

Theme music: "Everything Feels New" by Evgeny Bardyuzha.

All episodes written and produced by Kristen Hovet.

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