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This week were talking all about duty sex and consent! Thank you to our guests that joined us, it's so encouraging to hear other voices out there with a heart to share this hopeful message of what healthy sex looks like in marriage.

Links to things mentioned:

Andrew Bauman: his book The Sexually Healthy Man
Benjamin Young's Twitter Thread
Benjamin Young's ministry Guard the Gift
The Great Sex Rescue
Our Previous Podcast on Marital Rape and Consent

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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This week Sheila and Rebecca are digging deep into just how bad some of the advice out there is for Christians dealing with porn use in their marriage. We need to talk about this better, everyone!

Thank you to Michael John Cusick for stopping by to help give us an even better look at what healing and recovery can look like for the many people struggling with pornography.

Links to things mentioned:

Our Porn series in April (read the first; the rest are linked from there)
Our Porn Habits Podcast: How most porn use predates the marriage (my response to Focus on the Family telling women that men watch porn because their wives don't have sex enough)
Michael John Cusick Website, Podcast, and book: Surfing for God, about discovering the divine desire beneath the sexual struggle

Restoring the Soul
Restoring the Soul podcast

Andrew Bauman, author of The Sexually Healthy Man

The Great Sex Rescue

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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And we're back with a new 'Start Your Engines' episode! The whole team is practically here today, as Sheila, Keith, Joanna, AND Rebecca all join in to discuss this all too common teaching that 'ALL men will struggle with lust!'

Links to things mentioned:

The Great Sex Rescue
Twitter thread we read

Blog posts:

• Noticing is Not Lusting
• 12 Things Churches Can Do to Help Men Overcome Lust
• Why Bouncing Your Eyes Doesn't Honor Women
• Keith's epic post on lust

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Joining us on the podcast this week is Ruth Everhart, author of the book 'The #MeToo Reckoning'. We hope you find today's podcast a helpful step in the larger conversation in how we need to handle and address sexual assault situations in the church.

Links to things mentioned:

 Last spring we had a number of posts and podcasts on the problem with the gatekeeping message--namely that it can hinder arousal. Some of them are: Arousal: The missing piece podcast; And the let's bring back making out post.

Why Unconditional Respect isn't a thing: Our podcast where we looked at the survey question that was used to justify the claim that men choose respect while women choose love. 

9 Signs of Grooming Behaviour you need to understand

Ruth Everhart's post on The #MeToo Reckoning
Ruth Everhart's book The #MeToo Reckoning

Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire
The Great Sex Rescue

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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This week we are joined by author Rachel Joy Welcher, as we discuss all things purity culture - and where it went wrong! We so appreciate Rachel joining us and giving her insight!

Links to things mentioned:

Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire
The Great Sex Rescue
Rachel's book: Talking Back to Purity Culture
Rachel's Twitter
Why arousal can be difficult for women if they don't understand the sexual progression
More information on women and porn
Rebecca's book: Why I Didn't Rebel

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• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Welcome back! We are excited as we begin our rebranding process from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum to… *drumroll* Bare Marriage! Listen in as we discuss what led to this new name choice and our thoughts on how we see 2021 going, as we focus on a Jesus-centered marriage!

Links to things mentioned:

Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire
The Great Sex Rescue 
Sheila's post on the Harvard Study
More info on the Harvard Grand Survey
The article on 'Mediocre Leaders'
Our response to Emerson Eggrichs

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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2020 has been a wild year for everyone. As we close off this year, we want to reiterate how much we appreciate everyone who has taken the time to read the blog, listen to the podcast, buy the books, buy the courses and just be a part of our TLHV family. We hope you've enjoyed learning lots along with us this year, and we can't wait for the release of our book in March as we enter a new era on To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, (and hopefully a more joyful era at that!)

Links to things mentioned:
 
Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall's book
Dr. Cythina Long Westfall
Marg Mowczko

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Another week, another episode of the TLHV podcast! A special thank-you to our guest Dr. Westfall for helping shed more light and give new perspectives on a passage in scripture that we read so often! We hope you enjoyed today's episode, and while we know we got pretty technical with some context and vocabulary, we believe it is very important that we look at these topics as clearly as possible to gain the best understanding.

Links to things mentioned: 

Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire
Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall's book
Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall
The Great Sex Rescue
Psychology Today article

 To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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We always love tackling tough subjects on the To Love, Honor, and Vacuum Podcast and we hope you enjoyed our passionate discussion today.

Links to things mentioned:

4 Stages of Porn Recovery
The Bell-curve Modesty Rule
The Whole Story
The Great Sex Rescue
Andrew Bauman's website

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Alright, gentlemen, we're here again for another Start Your Engines episode! Thank you to Andrew Bauman for joining us today for this important conversation and being a great voice advocating for emotional health.
We apologize for the slightly muffled audio, we did our best to clean it up, and we appreciate your grace with us as we begin to invite guests onto the show and work out new technical challenges.

Links to things mentioned:

Andrew J Bauman's Surveys
Andrew J Bauman's Website
Books by Andrew J Bauman

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.