In episode 11, Kayla Lords answers a question from a listener about pubic hair in a D/s relationship, whether it’s a normal expectation of Dominants, and if it’s okay for a submissive to make the same request of their Dominant. Waxing, shaving, or keeping the bush, the answer to what’s normal is that it all comes down to personal preference.

From this episode:

* A follower suggestion! Feel free to send in your own questions or topic suggestions.

* Kayla waxes her pussy – because she prefers it that and because John Brownstone does, too.

* Going bare has plenty of benefits.

* Hair or bare, it’s all about personal preference

* Shaving causes itchy stubble quicker than waxing but it doesn’t freak people out as much as wax.

* Don’t think being hairless is “typical” just because you saw it in porn.

* Pubic hair can be a negotiated term in a D/s relationship.

* Submissives can ask their Dominant to shave or wax – but be prepared to accept the answer, even if it’s “No.”

* There are no ugly pussies – so don’t let that be a reason that stops you.

* For the guys, going hairless can make you look an inch bigger.

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Full Transcript:

You’re listening to Loving BDSM podcast: episode 11. Today, let’s talk about the hair down there! Hey, everybody. Kayla Lords here. Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast. If this is your first time listening, glad to have you! If you’re back for another week, welcome back! Loving BDSM is produced every Friday for your kinky pleasure and education and show notes are found at kaylalords.com. Come back often and feel free to add the podcast to your favorite RSS feed or iTunes. If you love what you hear, we’d love a good review on iTunes to help other kinksters find us! You can follow me on Twitter @KaylaLords or stalk John Brownstone at southernsirsplace.com. All links are in the show notes. Now, let’s get into the show.

I got an email from a friend, follower, reader, and fellow submissive and she had both a question and a topic suggestion so yay for that. Consider this proof that I really will consider and use your suggestions. Anyway, she asked about going bare “down there” – you know, on the pussy, the lady garden, or the vajayjay if you prefer.

Her Dominant wanted her to be bare, and she wondered if that was normal, and if it was okay to expect him to go bare. And she asked how John Brownstone and I handle it.

Well, let’s start with me, and then I’ll get into what’s “normal.”

Yes, I keep the pussy smooth and hairless. Every few weeks I make an appointment and get a full Brazilian wax. Full means front, back, slit, ass, NO landing strip, NO hair anywhere.

Yes, part of our agreement when we got together is that I would keep myself smooth and clean for him.

But you have to understand something. That was exactly a hardship for me. I’ve been getting waxed on a regular basis since before I met him. Hell, since before I met my first Dominant. I like being hairless down there. It’s completely a personal preference, and there is no right answer to whether or not you should be willing to either wax or shave.

I wax because I only get stubbly and itchy after about 3 weeks or so. I refuse to shave because two-day stubble sucks. Again, personal preference. My waxes were so important to both of us that we included it in our budget each month. No really, on our household budget spreadsheet – yes, we have one – Wax is a line item.

Some of you cringe at the thought. Not at the no-hair thing but the whole hot wax spread across sensitive bits and hair being pulled out at the roots in those same soft parts. I get it.