Beauty in the Break

Let’s flip the script on the old "letter to your younger self" exercise! Instead Foster and Cesar channel letters from their older, wiser selves, offering radical self-compassion, body acceptance, and personal growth wisdom that most of us spend a lifetime trying to find. From Cesar's quiet battle with his self-worth and inner critic, to Foster's vision of a barefoot, witchy life in Topanga full of drum circles and lemongrass tea, this episode is a tender, funny, and deeply human meditation on what it means to live fully – and if you've ever wondered whether your life is becoming what it was always meant to be, this one is for you. 

In this episode they explore: 

• The 3-step process Cesar uses to tame his inner critic 
• What does it actually mean to be fully in your body?
• The life hack for spotting a beautiful moment before it becomes a memory

If this episode spoke to you, you will love Stop Caring What People Think: The Art of Giving Less Fucks. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

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Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com, supporting college enrollment.

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Happy PRIDE 🌈 from all the queer and questioning folks here at Beauty in the Break!! In this episode, Foster and Cesar sit down with actor and wedding planner Katie Hall for a raw, hilarious, and deeply moving conversation about her journey of queer self-discovery. After 16 years with her husband and two kids, Katie has found what it truly means to live authentically. This pride-worthy episode is a must-listen for anyone questioning their sexuality, navigating a late-in-life exploration, or sitting with the courage it takes to choose yourself, even when everything looks fine on paper. Katie's story is the definition of finding beauty in the breaking: a thousand quiet whispers that grew too loud to ignore, and a life that is finally, fully her own.

In this episode they explore:

• Did Tiktok know Katie was gay before she did?
• Why "coming out" isn't the right term for everyone
• What it feels like to be fully in your body for the first time

Katie Hall

• her short film SH(OUT) is in festivals now!
• IG: @theplantbasedboo
• IG: @bestdayeverla_events
• Get her “gayer by the minute” shirt at for the feels co 

Catch Katie on our Soup & Stories Episodes Part 1 and Part 2! You can also watch the episodes on YouTube (and see Katie’s rad shirt!). 

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

Editor: Bessie Fong

Special Guest: Katie Hall

This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates

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An inside look: a LIVE on-air coaching session. Foster and Cesar built a relationship on their own terms, and now they spill all the sticky parts of opening their relationship with the help of relationship coach and non-monogamy educator Ally Iseman. This is a rare, real-time look at what navigating consensual non-monogamy actually feels like from the inside. Ally guides them through the emotional terrain of being in an open relationship, giving practical tools and anchor behaviors along the way. For anyone in a non-monogamous OR monogamous relationship, this episode is a masterclass in conscious partnership and emotional intelligence. 

In this episode they explore: 

• What happens when one partner is sexually active outside the relationship, and the other isn't?
• Foster’s deep fear of disappointing Cesar
• The difference between equality and equity in a relationship — and why it matters
• A new practice that Foster and Cesar put to use right away

Ally Iseman, CRC: 

• What is your relationship style? Take the quiz! 
• Passport 2 Pleasure
• IG: @allyiseman or @passport2pleasure

Listen to Part 1 of our conversation with Ally Iseman here: Opening Your Relationship the Right Way with Ally Iseman (Pt. 1). You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

Editor: Bessie Fong

Special Guest: Ally Iseman, CRC

This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com, supporting college enrollment.

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Is jealousy actually good for your relationship? Foster and Cesar sit down with relationship coach and non-monogamy educator Ally Iseman, for a candid conversation about opening their relationship and the practice of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) or consensual non-monogamy (CNM) – wait, what’s the difference?? Turns out there’s a skill set behind building conscious partnerships. Ally offers a compassionate framework that challenges the inherited scripts most of us never questioned. Whether you're polyamorous, monogamous, or simply curious about what healthy relationships can look like, this conversation is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and the courage it takes to truly know yourself.

In this episode they explore: 

• Is jealousy actually good for your relationship?
• The one question to ask before you open your relationship
• How to stay emotionally connected to your partner while exploring non-monogamy
• The four types of jealousy and what each one is trying to tell you

Ally Iseman, CRC: 

• What is your relationship style? Take the quiz! 
• Passport 2 Pleasure
• IG: @allyiseman or @passport2pleasure

If this episode spoke to you, you will love Curiosity Over Conflict: How to Heal Relationships with JJ Brake (Pt. 1) where an expert couples therapist helps with common relationship conflicts. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

Editor: Bessie Fong

Special Guest: Ally Iseman, CRC

This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates

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Do you struggle with receiving compliments? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving and receiving compliments. Why do we have such a hard time accepting praise? And what’s the difference between physical and character-based compliments? Together they unpack how authentic affirmation strengthens relationships and how rejecting a compliment is like rejecting a gift. Foster and Cesar also dive into masculine and feminine energy dynamics in how they exchange words of affirmation. They each share their favorite compliments and how to truly make someone’s day. 

In this episode they explore: 

• Why rejecting a compliment is the same as rejecting the person giving it
• Why physical compliments are the least interesting thing to give (and why)
• What happens when you compliment someone on their effort vs. their appearance
• How masculine and feminine energy shows up differently in giving compliments

If this episode spoke to you, you will love Stop Caring What People Think: The Art of Giving Less Fucks. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com, supporting college enrollment.

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Who would you be if society never got its hands on you? In this expansive conversation, writer, actor, and host of the hilarious podcast Tell Me Something Messy Brandon Kyle Goodman joins Foster and Cesar to discuss ‘disruptive curiosity’, destigmatizing sex, and choosing to be child-free in a society that expects parenthood. Brandon opens up about their new journey on Lexapro, the healing power of talking openly about sex while working on Big Mouth, and the profound decision to not have children despite years of assuming they would. Brandon is both hilarious and wise, as they break down how to live authentically, build community, and break generational cycles by asking the questions no one else wants you to ask, like… aren’t all sports super gay?? 

In this episode they explore: 

• Why Brandon tried on heels to discover what was truly theirs vs. what was inherited
• The moment Brandon realized: "I don't want kids" (and how that broke a generational cycle)
• The difference between wanting to have kids and wanting to be a parent
• Why raising a mixed-race child as a gay couple required questions they couldn't answer

Brandon Kyle Goodman: 

• Listen to their podcast Tell Me Something Messy
• Subscribe to their Substack
• IG: @brandonkylegoodman

Also mentioned: 

• Pamela Samuelson’s Sex Ed class for tweens/teens & Take Back The Speculum: EMBODYWORK

If this episode spoke to you, you will love From Homeless to The Oscars: Dedrick Bonner on Resilience. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review. It really helps!

Reach out to the show! Send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

Editor: Bessie Fong 

Special Guest: Brandon Kyle Goodman

This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates

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Why do we care so much about what other people think? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving less fucks, as a source of freedom from needing to control how others perceive you. Despite a world steeped in people-pleasing, our biological fear of being ostracized by the tribe no longer serves us in the age of social media and cancel culture. They ask the question: is it possible to incrementally build the muscle of caring less? They reveal how to balance kindness and truth, why you can't control how someone receives your message, and the power of giving less fucks as a soil bed for boldness and creativity.

In this episode they explore: 

• The real work: not giving a fuck without anger 
• Why caring what people think is a biological fear that no longer serves us
• How Foster incrementally desensitized herself to being seen
• Cesar's "back pocket fucklessness" and when to access it
• How posting daily on TikTok made the flops stop mattering

If this episode spoke to you, you will love How to Keep Creating When Your Inner Critic Says You’re Worthless. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com, supporting college enrollment.

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Advocate for yourself! Clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Molly Burrets discovered a brain tumor after years of doctors dismissing symptoms. This taught her about self-advocacy, meeting herself at rock bottom, and then asking for help. With 19 years of couples therapy experience, Dr. Molly reveals insights on resentment in relationships, the mental load women carry, dating wisdom, and why knowing your worth is the foundation for everything, from advocating in the medical system to building partnerships that actually work.

In this episode they explore: 

• The exact words to say that make doctors legally required to investigate your concerns
• How "having it all" was really just "doing it all" with no peace or ease
• The hidden truth about resentment
• Why you should never marry someone you wouldn't go into business with
• What Dr. Molly uses to make the invisible labor visible 
• The dating advice no one talks about

Dr. Molly Burrets: 

• Connect with Dr. Molly
• Listen to her podcast Kissing Frogs
• IG: @drmollyburrets

Also mentioned:

• Eve Rodsky’s book Fair Play

If this episode spoke to you, you will love Curiosity Over Conflict: How to Heal Relationships with JJ Brake. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

Special Guest: Dr. Molly Burrets

This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates

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Are you feeling burned out and buried under everything you're carrying? Foster opens up about losing herself in her workload, sacrificing personal joy for potential collective success, and how that pattern affected both her relationship with Cesar and her own vibrancy. They discuss the gendered nature of caretaking and burden-carrying and how women especially take on too much. This conversation is for anyone who feels gray inside from carrying too much, has lost touch with what brings them joy, or needs permission to disappoint others for the sake of finding themselves again.

In this episode they explore: 

• Why Foster disappeared from the vibrancy of her own relationship
• The waiter metaphor that perfectly explains burnout (and why you can't accept help)
• How sacrificing current joy for potential future success steals your life
• The gendered reality of who carries the burden
• Why "let me know if you need anything" doesn't actually help
• How to actually help someone who's carrying too much

Also mentioned: 

• Loonshots by Safi Bahcall

If this episode spoke to you, you will love Why It’s Never Equal where we explore gender roles and invisible labor. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com, supporting college enrollment.

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Struggling with creative block or self-doubt as an artist? In this episode, Foster breaks open her creative process behind writing and publishing Afternoon Abundance in just 9 months, from blank page to published book. Cesar explores the double-edged sword of being a creative person and the battle between inspiration and self-doubt. They lay out the three pillars every artist needs: time for nothing (unstructured creative time), "this too is honey" (transforming experiences into art), and the create-reflect-recreate cycle. Taking inspiration from Andrea Gibson and Elizabeth Gilbert, they explore how to overcome creative fear, why discomfort is essential for artistic growth, and the audacity required to keep creating when no one's waiting for you to succeed. This conversation is for anyone struggling with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, waiting for permission, or battling their inner critic while trying to bring something new into the world.

In this episode they explore: 

• The three pillars every creative person needs (including "time for nothing")
• What "this too is honey" means for transforming experiences into art
• The habit that made sitting down to a blank page less terrifying
• Why no fuck's left to give is actually the secret to unstoppable creativity

Also referenced: 

• Episode 24: What Depression Really Feels Like
• Episode 9: Finding Laughter in Life & Death with Jennica Schwartzman
• Episode 3: Foster’s Loss (losing her son Wilde)
• The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.

If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps!

Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. 

Cesar Cardona:

• Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter
• Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website 
• Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and Spotify

Foster Wilson:

• Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance
• Learn about her postpartum services
• Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village

Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster Wilson

Executive Producer: Glenn Milley

This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates

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