In our important relationships at home and at work, we need to respect the needs of others while also sticking up for our own. Dr. Daniel Ellenberg joins us today to explore how we can grow the lasting inner resources that allow us to do just that, and ultimately become both “friendly” and “fearless.”

About Our Guest: Daniel has been a practicing marriage and family therapist for over 30 years, and is the co-founder of Relationships That Work, and the founder and director of Strength With Heart men’s groups.

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Key Topics:

2:25: What does it mean to be friendly and fearless.

5:05: “Fear less.”

6:20: Conflating social and physical fear.

9:25: Bringing more awareness into interpersonal conflict.

11:45: Increasing the space between stimulus and response. 

13:35: Inter- vs. Intra-personal skills.

15:00: Finding the pause. 

19:50: Finding sensitivity, kindness, and warmth in a conflict. 

22:15: Loving at will. 

24:00: Men, anger, and vulnerability.

28:30: Truly showing interest in others. 

31:20: Giving the gift of not fearing others.

33:00: Changing our self-concept.

40:50: A message to our younger self. 

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