Becoming You Again

Have you ever noticed what you say to yourself when you make a mistake, or when you child gets mad at you, or when your ex texts you something nasty? Do you notice that you're kind and loving and compassionate with yourself? My guess is, you're like most of us who do the exact opposite of that, and instead become our own worst enemy, flinging self criticism and judgement around until we feel horrible and believe that we're a failure in every way. 

In today's episode I'm going to teach you the art of self compassion by breaking it down into the self compassion triad. By learning to be self compassionate, you'll be reprogramming your brain away from the self criticism default, to a new kinder version of you. 

In today's episode you'll learn:

1. What self compassion is.
2. How to evaluate your level of self compassion and a 24-hour challenge to bring that awareness into your consciousness.
3. The self compassion triad, and how you can begin to implement each part of the triad into your own life. 

To schedule your free consult with me click here.

To join the WAITLIST for the Becoming You Again Program click here.

Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.

For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/the-art-of-self-compassion

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.

Bitterness toward your ex may feel justified for a little while. The problem is, when you carry the bitterness around it makes you feel bad. Feeling bitterness toward your ex isn't making him want to apologize, change or be different in some way. All it's doing is making you feel terrible.

So what can you do to drop the bitterness toward your ex? Listen in as I help Becky understand why she hasn't been able to let go of the bitterness yet and what she can change to drop the bitterness she's carrying around. 

For more info on how to work one on one with me go to: https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

Conscious thinking is when you become aware of the thoughts that your brain is offering you on autopilot and you intentionally decide whether or not you want to continue to choose to think that way or decide to think something different. Conscious thinking is a skill that can serve you in any challenge or difficult circumstance that you're facing in your life. 

In this episode I'll be teaching you what conscious thinking is, why it's important for you to becoming a conscious thinker and how doing so will open you up to taking full control over your ultimate freedom, your inner self. 

In this episode you will learn:

1.  The true power behind conscious thinking and why learning to do this can change everything about your divorce experience.
2. What most people think conscious thinking is and the differences between mind management and toxic positivity.  
3. You will be given several different examples of unconscious thinking and conscious thinking blueprints and how each creates different feelings and actions which creates the overall experience in our lives. These are real examples from my own experience and my clients who have been coached by me. 
4. How you can get more help learning this skill so you too can change your divorce experience. 

To schedule your free consult with me click here.

To join the FREE monthly group coaching and support call click here.

Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.

For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/conscious-thinking-about-your-divorce

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.

Being sick as a divorced single mom can feel stressful and overwhelming. We judge ourselves for being sick, for not being the mom we usually are, for making the kids be less structured, for needing to take a break, for not having a partner and more.

This needs to stop and I'm helping Carrie see why in today's short episode. Listen in as I help her change the narrative around being sick. 

For more info on how to work one on one with me go to: https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

Transactional self love is when you withhold love for yourself until you meet certain requirements to be "worthy" of kindness, compassion and love for yourself. You're more likely doing this and don't even realize it.

Transactional self love can sound like, I'll think you're pretty once your hair is dyed and you look more like that person on Instagram, or I'll think you're beautiful once you can fit into a certain size, or I'll think you're accomplished and have a purpose once you graduate from school and get that amazing job. And so you withhold liking yourself, being nice to yourself, loving yourself until those certain criteria are met. 

In this episode I'll be talking about transactional self love, the three reasons why we've adopted this kind of self love, why it's not only affecting our relationship with ourselves but all of the relationships in our lives and what we can do to let go of the transactional self love and instead adopt unconditional self love. 

What you'll learn in today's episode:

1. The best show you need to be watching that is an example of unconditional self love.
2.  What transactional self love looks like in your life.
3. Why transactional self love is so detrimental to your relationships, including the relationship with yourself.
4. The three reasons you've adopted transactional self love.
5. How to start to adopt unconditional self love and let go of the transactional self love you've been using. 

To schedule your free consult with me click here.

Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.

For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/transactional-self-love

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.

How often do you feel like you're carrying the weight of the world (yours and your kids) on your shoulders? How many times have you bit your tongue around your kids so you don't 'bad-mouth' their dad to them - only to find out that he's being trash talking you every chance he gets? How many days a week do you go to bed feeling exhausted, hopeless and powerless in your own life?

If this is happening to over and over again, then today's podcast episode will set you free. I'm answering Sheila's question about why she's constantly feeling exhausted, frustrated and powerless in her own life, and what she can do immediately to change that.  

For more info on how to work one on one with me go to: https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

Often we tell stories from our past in a way where we continue to be the victim and feel victimized. When we do this we feel powerless to make changes in our life now and moving forward. One of the most effective ways to stop feeling like a victim of your past and of your life is to rewrite the stories of your past, and specifically your divorce story. 

This exercise isn't so that you can gaslight yourself into believing that things in your past didn't happen that actually did. Instead it's to help you refocus on your past in a way that serves you and makes you the hero of your story, instead of the victim.  You get to use your past any way you like. So I want you to make it good for YOU. I'll teach you how in today's episode.

What you'll learn in this episode:

1. How rewriting your past stories will help you feel more confident now and moving forward into the future life you want. 
2. What the stories of our past actually are.
3. Why our memories aren't as reliable as we think.
4. How to choose a useful divorce story headline.
5. How to write out the story of your past, separate out the facts, and then rewrite the story so you're the hero. 
6. Why this work will be the most powerful thing you can do for you in creating the future that you want. 

To schedule your free consult with me click here.

Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.

For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/rewriting-your-divorce-story 

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.

Do you have someone in your life that is super critical of you, but they tell you it's because they want you to be the 'best you' you can be? Or maybe you're the one that is extremely self critical - like when you want to lose weight and you 'mess up' and eat some cookies that were off plan - do you constantly beat yourself up to try to motivate change?

Listen in to today's short Friday Flip where I answer anonymous's question about what it means when someone is constantly criticizing us and how to respond moving forward.

For more info on how to work one on one with me go to: https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

The divorce process is a scary, confusing journey. When we are faced with divorce we often don't know what to do, where to find help, what kind of help we'll need, who to trust, etc. Our mind can spin in confusion and indecision about the divorce which ends up shutting us down and keeping us stuck. 

On today's episode I'm talking with Ryan Davies, owning and founder of Utah Divorce Solutions, real estate agent and mortgage broker who works specifically with people going through divorce to help them get the best possible outcome when it comes to the home during a divorce. Ryan opens up about Utah Divorce Solutions, a website devoted specifically to the resources you need as you go through the divorce process. Ryan talks about why he started this organization and how beneficial it will be for people going through a divorce. 

Ryan also offers insight into many aspects of the divorce process from his perspective of working with many clients over the years. 

What you'll learn in this episode: 

1. Who is Ryan Davies and why he started Utah Divorce Solutions.
2. The ins and outs of the real estate and mortgage aspects of divorce.
3. The possibility of moms to be able to keep the home, when you should keep the home and when you shouldn't.
4. The importance of understanding the financial side of divorce and how to use it to your benefit.
5. Helpful information on the division of property specifically when it comes to the real estate aspect of divorce and how having the right people on your side will create a win-win situation for you after divorce.
6. The one piece of advice Ryan would offer anyone going through a divorce.  

For more information about Ryan Davies and Utah Divorce Solutions click here.

To schedule your free consult with me click here.

How often do you get to the end of your day exhausted and overwhelmed because of your life after divorce? Do you know what to do to stop feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted? Has the advice of your friends, family and other divorced acquaintances failed you and you don't know where to turn? Then I have the best news ever because I know exactly how to get your out of overwhelm and how to help you stop feeling exhausted so you can show up in your life excited for the day instead of dreading what's to come. The best place for you to start is to schedule some time to talk to me so I can show you what's really going on and how I can help. Click here to schedule your free discovery session with me. 

Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.

For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/divorce-solutions

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================

Welcome to Friday Flip on the Becoming You Again podcast. Every Friday I take your divorce problems, conundrums and questions and do a quick flip around to empower you to show up as the best you after divorce.

When someone has done something wrong or treated us badly, we want an apology. Society has taught us that an apology is how we show remorse and ask forgiveness all wrapped up in the words, I'm sorry. So it makes sense that we'd want that from the person who is to blame for our hurt.

In today's short episode, I'm helping Noemi understand where her power lies when it comes to feeling like she needs an apology. We can't make someone apologize for something but we can do something for ourselves that is much more powerful and supportive.

For more info on how to work one on one with me go to: https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/

To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. 

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!

If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

======================================

DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR EDUCATIONAL, INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND ARE NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING PSYCHOLOGICAL, COUNSELING OR PROFESSIONAL HEALTHCARE ADVICE. 

=======================================