It can’t always be about Taylor—but on Becoming You, sometimes it has to be. Especially when she sings, “When I said I don’t believe in marriage, that was a lie.”

Because what other lies do we tell about love? And what do they reveal about how we live, decide, and grow?

In this week’s episode, host Suzy Welch tackles the ever-complicated terrain of dating, marriage, and divorce with cultural icon Lindsey Metselaar, whose long-running hit podcast We Met at Acme has made her an expert on modern relationships. Together, they dive into questions like: Who wants a romantic relationship more, men or women? Can sex save a marriage? What if he hates your family? And which professions are most—and least—interested in marriage?

It’s lively, honest, and sometimes raw. But beneath the laughter and stories runs a deeper question at the heart of Becoming You: How do we make choices about love that actually serve the lives we want to build?

Along the way, Suzy shares new data from Becoming You Labs about the state of Belovedness—the value that measures our desire for intimate partnership. The results will likely surprise you.

Because the lies we tell about love can be convincing. But the truth about who we are—and what we want—is waiting. Just press play.

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What would you prefer to hear in life — a soft lie that makes you feel good but leaves you in the dark about something you’d be better off knowing, or straight-up honesty that may sting at first, but ultimately sets you straight? Let’s be real; it’s not even a choice. Everyone wants to know.

And yet…so many of us struggle with how to tell the truth. Like, really tell it, no fudging around the edges. We worry about seeming mean. We fear getting yelled at. Or we just don’t have the words we think we need.

In this blocking-and-tackling episode of Becoming You, host Suzy Welch has the antidote. It’s the OILS technique, a four-part system which she explains and then demonstrates — twice! — with the help of her daughter, Sophia, one of the podcast’s most popular returning guests. 

Becoming You is, at its heart, a podcast about discovering who you are and then crafting the journey to your purpose. But that path, Suzy notes, can only happen with truth-telling conversations. This episode takes on the “how” of them with a technique that’s simple, effective, and immediately applicable. You could, in fact, use it today. 

Tune in to listen, laugh, and learn. Telling the truth — your truth — may never be quite the same. 

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Two percent. For job-seekers and hiring managers alike, that’s the number. The line in the sand. All you have to do is decide whether you want to be in it, or not. The consequences for your career, or your company, couldn’t be bigger.

On this week’s podcast, your host Suzy Welch dives into the research behind that number, reported in her Wall Street Journal op-ed and gathered at Becoming You Labs. In short: Only 2% of Gen Z hold the three values hiring managers want most: achievement, learning, and the love of work for work’s sake.

And yes, the responses to this finding have been…let’s just say, “opinionated.” Suzy reads and responds to some of the most heated comments and explores what all this means for careers, companies, and the tough choices we face when values clash. Tune in to answer the question for yourself, where do you land? And what your answer might mean for your future.

Finally, hear Suzy’s very personal reflections about how she is processing the firestorm around her Wall Street Journal piece. Without doubt, there’s been an avalanche of support. But there have been unsparing attacks in equal measure. Spoiler alert, Joan of Arc is invoked.

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What if you’ve done it? You know, created the life of your dreams – fully living what you want to do, can do, and should do. It all sounds great (because, well, living your purpose tends to be that), but then what? How do you push beyond your dream life? In this special episode of Becoming You, host Suzy Welch sits down with the one and only Kate Bartlett – content creator extraordinaire and now NYU Stern MBA student – to reveal what’s next for her, after having created the life she’s always wanted.   

This isn’t just a conversation about the future. It’s about pausing to ask: am I living in alignment with my values right now? Kate recently took the Becoming You Values Bridge assessment, and Suzy walks her through the results – which prompt a slew of a-ha moments, and hold a few surprises to boot. Learn about them all, and learn about yourself along the way, in this intimate and inspiring episode of Becoming You.

Find Kate Bartlett: 

On Instagram @katee.bartlett

On TikTok @katebartlett 

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Nobody hates romantic love, but not everybody loves romantic love the same amount.

That’s what makes romantic love a value. Because we get to choose how much of a role it plays in our life. For some of us, it drives all of our actions and decisions, from where we work to where we live to what we do every weekend. For others of us, being in a relationship is a “nice to have” not a “need to have” thing. Our partner matters – if we have one – but they aren’t the center of our existence.

Cue the scary music!

In this week’s podcast, our host Suzy Welch makes a momentous announcement, and with it, shares news about how we can all learn more about our own, personal level of love as a value. That’s information that matters for us individually as we search for our purpose in life, and it's information that could change how we relate to those around us. 

So, what’s love got to do with it? Just about everything. Tune in this week for a brand new look at an emotion that never gets old. 

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Much of the time, Becoming You finds itself getting, well, a little existential, because what is existential if not the question, “What should I do with my life?” But eventually, you have to take your answer to that question – or your vague idea of one – and get an actual day job with it. And thus, today’s episode of the pod is about the blocking and tackling of interviewing well. So well, in fact, that you get an offer.

Welcome to another installment in our “Career Confidential” series, in which Suzy debates, discusses, and dissects the world of work with her big-hearted, no-BS Becoming You colleague, Dustin Lui, who, even at age 27, is a veteran of the job market, with literally hundreds of interviews under his belt. In a feisty 24 minutes, Dustin and Suzy compare best interviewing practices – and worst – and lay down a primer for getting you from knowing your purpose to landing the job that helps you live it.

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We’re all supposed to love change. To embrace the journey. To lean into transformation. 

But what happens when we do? We grow, and with growth comes all sorts of a-ha moments, some wonderful, yes, but others that bring us to our knees before they bring us to our senses.

In this deeply personal solo episode of Becoming You, our host Suzy Welch recounts the four powerful lessons she learned on the road to her PhD, which she was awarded this May at the University of Bristol in England. Each lesson is shared with the hopes of resonance with you, as you walk your own path toward reinvention and renewal. Some may soften your heart, others may make you laugh, and the last will surely surprise you. It surprised Suzy herself.

Becoming You is a podcast about finding out who we are and then turning that discovery into reality. Join us this week as Suzy explores what that process has meant to her, in ways that may very well mean something to you too.

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Welcome to the second—and final—part of Becoming You’s special series on the secret life of your life coach. Or, precisely, on what your life coach is thinking, info that’s integral to Becoming You’s purpose to be the podcast that helps you think more deeply about yours.

In Episode 64: Your Life Coach Has One Question for You. Do You Know the Answer?, our host Dr. Suzy Welch—professor of management practice at NYU Stern and author of the Becoming You book—presented five powerful questions, crowd-sourced from top life coaches in the Becoming You Certification Program at the NYU Stern | Initiative on Purpose and Flourishing. This week, you’ll hear four more. Each one is as sharp as a paring knife (without the ouch), designed to open your heart and mind, and maybe even bring healing to your soul and inspiration to your career.

Tune in to hear the coaches open up about their questions, explain why they use them, and listen as Suzy breaks down how they work—and what they reveal about you.

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This week on Becoming You—the podcast that yearns to help you answer “What should I do with my life?”—a special mailbag episode tackles four listener questions, but looms the largest: “Life is already so hard,” it goes, “and careers are so complicated and relentless—why would anyone choose to have a child these days?”

Typically, Becoming You’s host Suzy Welch is all about helping you hear your own inner voice; she is, as she likes to say, a “values agnostic.” This time is different, and through unflinching, deeply personal stories and a perspective that may challenge your assumptions, she confronts one of the biggest decisions of a lifetime head on and heart first. You may not agree with where she lands, but you will most likely be moved by how she got there.

Also on the pod this week: Suzy answers a listener who wonders if it’s OK to be “working for the money” and the money only, and another listener who wonders how candid she should be in her job interviews about wanting work-life balance. A final listener challenges Suzy on the hot topic of whether “manifesting” is BS…or brilliant.

In the end, this week’s episode isn’t just about motherhood or money—it’s about navigating the defining questions we all face on the road to becoming ourselves.

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Every day, we make decisions—big, small, and everything in between, each one shaping our careers and relationships, and sometimes even the course of our entire lives. And yet, most of us were never taught how to actually make a decision. Instead, we accept the conventional wisdom: "Just trust your gut." Too bad that advice is only right half the time. Yep, research shows that gut has a 50% hit rate. So why not just go toss a coin? Or wait -- there's a better way, and it's so easy too. All you have to do it...press play. Because in this episode, Suzy breaks the simple decision-making system that changed her life when everything was falling apart, and then put it into success overdrive when things turned around. It’s called 10-10-10, and it’s not about quick fixes or perfect choices—it’s about clarity, confidence, values (of course!) and making peace with the decisions that define us. 

Becoming You is a methodology for finding our purpose. For answering the question, "What should I do with my life?" In this quick and powerful episode, learn how good decision-making can help turn Becoming You's findings into reality. And as a bonus, find out how 10-10-10 was born one very long, very humiliating day in Hawaii when Suzy's kids themselves decided to go for broke. [Repeat from February 2025.]

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