Kayla Lords hosts episode 33 and discusses a personal problem that probably affects other kinksters – she’s not able to do some of her favorite kinky things because she’s out of shape.

In this episode:

* Kayla’s new book, Kinky Love Notes, is now out and available for purchase!

* A few disclaimers about body weight, physical fitness, and being fat: Fat bodies are beautiful. You can be healthy and still be overweight. Few of us will ever have the perfect body we imagine, and that’s okay.

* Sometimes kinky fun can’t happen because of physical limitations. You either modify what you’re doing, suffer through the discomfort or pain, and stop doing it completely.

* Kayla and John Brownstone modify kneeling positions and sexual positions all the time. There’s nothing wrong with modifications.

* After a bit weight gain over the past few years, Kayla’s issues are less about her appearance and more about what she can’t do anymore: certain rope bondage, sexual positions, even getting rough is more difficult.

* Once the motivation changed from losing weight or looking good to being stronger and more fit for kinky fuckery, Kayla made changes: eating healthier, starting new exercise programs.

* Kayla believes she’s not the only one who wants to get into shape for kinky fuckery. Frankly, vanilla or kinky, lots of people want to lose weight for all kinds of reasons.

* She went looking for an online group that was kink-friendly and would help with motivation. Not finding one that was a good fit, she created her own on Google+.

* Fit for Kink: a place for motivation, advice, to share successes, and to ask questions. Kinky and kink-friendly fitness/weight loss professionals are encouraged to join.

* Ultimately, it would be nice to have a resource for people to reach out with specific questions about how to become fitter or more flexible in order to get into kinky positions or try new things.

* This group is not a place to pick up your next hook up. It’s safe place for the kinky or kink-friendly among us to find support and motivation.

Links from the show:

Kinky Love Notes: Bookshop ♥ Amazon ♥ Smashwords ♥ iBooks ♥ Barnes & Noble

Make Fat Cry Challenge

Discussing Kayla’s weight in What Negotiations Can Sound Like

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