In this episode of Beyond What Hurts Us, Kristen and Leslie take a fresh look at the early 2000s dating advice phenomenon He's Just Not That Into You. While the book was intended to empower women to recognize when a man isn't invested, we discuss why its message falls short in today's dating landscape.

We explore how the book places all the emphasis on whether he is interested—without ever asking if she is. It also ignores the emotional complexity of relationships, failing to acknowledge the very real grief that can come with the end of a relationship or even a situationship.

At the heart of our conversation is a call for a more compassionate and nuanced approach to dating—one that prioritizes mutual respect, emotional honesty, and treating others the way we want to be treated. Whether you're navigating dating disappointments or seeking healthier connections, this episode offers hope, guidance, and a much-needed reframe.

This week on Beyond What Hurts Us, Kristen and Leslie dive into the complexities of relationships, exploring themes of abandonment, emotional literacy, and the art of mindful loving. From discussing the power of movement and embracing our "wild woman" to unpacking the five A's of healthy relationships—attention, affection, acceptance, appreciation, and allowing—we reflect on what it means to truly show up for ourselves and others.

We share personal stories, insights from books like The Women Who Run With Wolves and How to Be an Adult in Relationships, and practical tips for navigating abandonment wounds and fostering connection. Join us as we lean into curiosity, embrace vulnerability, and begin to redefine how we engage in relationships with a deeper sense of awareness and intention.

In this episode, Kristen and Leslie are joined by Brandy Cunningham to explore the intersection of recovery and personal choice. Together, they dive into the complexities of addiction, the structure of programs like AA, and the nuanced process of reclaiming agency after trauma. Brandy shares her experiences navigating recovery, challenging norms, and forging a unique path toward healing. Whether you're in recovery, supporting someone who is, or curious about the journey, this conversation offers fresh perspectives and actionable insights.

As the calendar turns to a fresh page, Kristen and Leslie embark on a reflective journey to set intentions for the year ahead. Together, they discuss the rituals of closing out the old year, choosing a "word of the year," and pulling a tarot card to explore its deeper meaning. Tune in for an inspiring conversation filled with personal insights, growth, and practical tips to embrace a "New Year, New Me" mindset.

In this episode, Kristen and Leslie dive into the profound work of uncovering core beliefs and patterns that shape our lives, especially in relationships. Leslie leads Kristen to reflect on her experiences with perfectionism, over-functioning, and self-reliance, tracing their roots back to childhood. Through an open discussion on Internal Family Systems (IFS) and EMDR therapy, Kristen and Leslie explore how deeply ingrained beliefs—like "I can only rely on myself"—manifest in adulthood and relationships. Together, they process what it means to observe yourself, acknowledge emotional needs, and move toward healing from the inside out.

Do you ever feel paralyzed by the pressure to be perfect? To be honest, this episode almost didn't make it to air because the audio isn't flawless. But in the spirit of embracing imperfection, Kristen and Leslie decided to share it anyway. Together, they dive into the roots of perfectionist panic—that overwhelming fear of falling short or making mistakes—and how it impacts our mental health, relationships, and creativity.

Leslie offers insights through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), helping us understand the parts of ourselves that drive perfectionism, where they come from, and why they often mean well but hold us back. Kristen and Leslie explore how to approach these parts with curiosity and compassion, showing how perfectionism develops as a protective mechanism and how we can begin to let it go.

This episode is a testament to growth over perfection. Tune in to discover how letting go of unrealistic expectations can lead to a life that's not perfect but full of joy, progress, and authenticity.

In this week's episode, Kristen and Leslie explore the idea that healing often lies in the balance between extremes. Why do polarized emotions or opinions keep us stuck, and how can embracing the "shades of gray" in tough situations help us move forward? By finding the middle ground, we open ourselves to growth, understanding, and deeper healing. Join us as we discuss how balance is not about compromise but about clarity and peace.

In this episode, Kristen and Leslie confront the difficult reality of discovering abusive behavior in people we once admired and explore the red flags we might have missed or dismissed. We discuss the emotional impact of shattered perceptions, why we sometimes ignore warning signs, and how to rebuild trust in our own judgment. This conversation is about learning to recognize and believe red flags, setting healthier boundaries, and finding resilience to move forward with clarity and self-assurance.

In this episode, Kristen and Leslie explore how curiosity and asking questions can shift our perspectives, even on seemingly simple things like sports. Why do we get so emotionally invested in whether "our team" wins or loses? By examining these reactions, we uncover the layers of identity, connection, and loyalty that play into our intense feelings for sports teams. Join us as we discuss how understanding these emotional ties can help us grow in empathy and self-awareness, and even heal our approach to relationships and community.

In this heartfelt episode, Kristen and Leslie sit down with Chelsea Ohlemiller, author of Now That She's Gone, a deeply personal memoir chronicling her journey through grief after losing her mother. Chelsea shares the profound lessons learned from her mother's life, her grief, and how she's found healing through preserving her legacy. Join us as we discuss the impact of love, loss, and how embracing a loved one's memory can offer comfort and a path toward peace.