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Black Marriage Therapy episodes

September 26, 2024 Sexual Empowerment in Marriage with Goody Howard MPH, MSW
In this episode, we dive into pleasure, sexual empowerment, and confidence with the incredible Goody Howard MPH, MSW. Goody is a world-renowned sexologist, educator, and consultant who has dedicated her life to empowering others through sexual exploration, education, and awareness. From hosting sexual skill workshops to creating sex-positive professional development opportunities, Goody layers her focus on pleasure with her engaging and energetic presentation style. Today, we’ll be discussing the journey to sexual liberation, how confidence in the bedroom translates to other areas of life, and practical tips to empower your sex life within marriage.
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37 min
September 12, 2024 This is Killing your Marriage: Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
There are moments in our relationships where communication breaks down, and things can start to feel overwhelming. In today's episode, we explore a concept from Dr. John Gottman’s research that can help explain why. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse represent four harmful communication patterns that, when left unchecked, can lead to the downfall of a marriage. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling—these destructive behaviors don’t just harm the relationship; they destroy connection and intimacy. But there is hope! In this episode, we’ll not only discuss these patterns but also explore antidotes to help you turn things around and strengthen your marriage.
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21 min
August 29, 2024Understanding Personal Values and Their Impact on Your Marriage
Today, we’re diving into the critical role of understanding personal values in marriage. Understanding your values isn't just about recognizing what's important to you—it’s fundamentally about how these values shape your beliefs, decisions, and behaviors within your relationship.
In this episode, we will explore:
What Values Are: Gain a clear understanding of what values are and how they shape your beliefs, decisions, and behaviors within your marriage.

The Consequences of Not Understanding Your Values: Discover what can go wrong when you don't understand your values and how this can lead to conflicts, inconsistent behaviors, and weakened boundaries in your relationship.

How to Identify Your Personal Values: Learn practical steps to identify your own values, including self-reflection, assessments, and feedback from loved ones.

Respect and Acceptance in Marriage: Understand the importance of respecting and accepting both your own values and your spouse’s values, and how to creatively navigate differences to strengthen your relationship.
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24 min
August 15, 2024Healing Men's Relationship to Anger
Everything has a good side right, but what’s the good side to anger? Today, we learn how to express anger in healthy ways to become better at using it rather than bottling it up, or hurting those around us.
You will learn:
The purpose of anger as an emotion and it’s biological & societal roots.
Effective strategies for men to manage their anger in the moment and beyond?
Guidance on how couples can rebuild trust after conflict.

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55 min
August 01, 2024How to Manage your Emotions in Marriage
In this episode, we’re exploring the vital role of emotional intelligence (EI) in marriage. Emotional intelligence isn't just about managing other people's feelings or being overly aware of their emotions—it's fundamentally about understanding and managing your own emotions effectively. We’ll look into how EI starts with you, its importance in improving communication and conflict resolution, and how to develop and apply it in your relationship.
In this episode, you will gain:
A Clear Understanding of Emotional Intelligence: Learn what EI is, how it impacts your ability to manage your own emotions, and how it affects your interactions with others.

Insights into Common Toxic Emotional Behaviors: Discover the most common toxic ways people handle emotions and how these can negatively impact your marriage.

Practical Tips for Developing and Applying EI: Get actionable advice on how to build emotional intelligence, apply it in your daily life, and enhance your relationship with your partner.
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41 min
July 18, 2024Taking Care of Aging Parents
Today, we are diving into a topic that we have never discussed before on the show: caretaking and its effect on marriage. Caretaking can involve caring for someone who is physically or mentally ill, be it a parent, relative, or spouse. Recently, we've been thrust into the caretaking role with our ailing parents, and we're navigating this new stage of life while sharing our experiences, how we deal with it individually and as a couple, and offering tips that have helped us manage this challenging phase.
You will receive:
Coping strategies for managing the stress of caretaking.

Encouragement & Acknowledgment for those who are experiencing caretaking in their marriage.

Instruction on how to discuss caretaking responsibilities with others.
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33 min
July 04, 2024 Issues w/ Trust: Candid Conversations
In today's episode, we have a candid conversation about the ups and downs of marriage, focusing on growth, trust, and emotional capacity. We take an unfiltered look into our marriage, discussing our struggles and how we navigate them. Inspired by prominent voices in the black marriage community, we emphasize the importance of sharing both the highs and the lows to provide a realistic view of marital life.
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John Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Kevin and Melissa Fredricks: Marriage be Hard
Beleaf in Fatherhood: How Married Are You?
Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist
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37 min
June 20, 2024 The Affects of Porn in Marriage
In this episode, I address what I. believe is the result of long term porn use in relationships. While some argue it can enhance sexual experiences, others say it breeds discontent, and an inability to connect intimately with one's partner. I will be drawing insights from my personal experiences and those of members in my recovery group who claim shattered marriages, career losses and even deeper dives into other forms of addiction.
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24 min
June 06, 2024 How to Accept Your Spouse for Who They Are
Did you know that 69% of marital conflicts will not be resolved why because these conflicts stem from fundamental differences between the the two individuals in the relationship. These problem are less about the bills, family, or sex but more about how the individual sees and responds to these issues. Lets talk about it, in this episode we will discuss where natural differences come from, how to accept your spouse as a whole person good and bad, our experience and how learning this helped our marriage.
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25 min
May 23, 2024 Men vs Women: More Alike Than Different
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In this episode, we talk about the sometimes controversial topic of gender differences and similarities in the context of marriage. We discuss how men and women, especially in the Black community, are more alike than we often think. We address the stereotypes spread by the media and common social beliefs, highlighting the need for critical thinking and self-education to strengthen and support marriages.
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27 min

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