On today's episode Talon and I discuss strategies to stop splitting behavior as well as read listener responses to how ya'll are managing your splitting behavior. Enjoy! 

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In this week's new episode of Bold Beautiful Borderline we meet Dr. Smith, who shares about how he feels medicine has lost its mind. What does this mean? It means that primary care is failing people with severe mental health issues. In our episode he proposes strategies to get medicine back on track to best support individuals in need of mental healthcare.  

Dr. Smith, MD recently published the book Has Medicine Lost Its Mind: https://amzn.to/4aTpola 

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In today's episode you meet Tami Ward who talks with us about her experience with BPD, being misdiagnosed Bipolar, parenting challenges, and going the distance in her marriage. Tami is a therapist and Reiki provider who is excited to share her wisdom. Thank you Tami for joining us! 

Tami Ward can be found at: https://www.anchoredinhoperi.com/about-5-1 

Tami's books can be bought here: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Tami-Ward-LMHC/author/B0F4Q1L43X?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1780858554&sr=1-1&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=85ddfeab-ad55-49a2-bd8a-ff11dcdb1055

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Splitting is so highly demonized in BPD. So, like, what even is it?? 

Splitting is a defense mechanism in which a person has difficulty holding both positive and negative feelings about themselves, others, or situations at the same time. Instead, people or experiences may be viewed in extreme, “all-or-nothing” ways — for example, someone may be seen as completely caring and safe one moment, then completely hurtful or uncaring after a conflict or disappointment.

Splitting often happens during periods of emotional stress, fear of abandonment, rejection, shame, or interpersonal conflict. The shift in perception is usually tied to intense emotions rather than manipulation or intentional behavior. For the person experiencing it, the feelings and interpretations can feel very real and urgent in the moment.

In this episode Talon and I review splitting and talk about recent examples in our lives. 

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Hi ya'll! Welcome to another DBT skill bonus episode celebrating Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month. This skill is called GIVE FAST and it is an interpersonal effectiveness skill. It stands for: 

G - Be gentle

I - Act interested

V - Validate

E - Easy manner

F - Be fair

A - No apologies

S - Stick to your values

T - be truthful 

Here's an overview: https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/fast.php

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Hi ya'll. More men! Today you meet Seth who shares openly about his diagnosis, being raised in a "cult church", parenting his child differently, and practicing as much self-kindness as he experiences self-hate. Thank you Seth for sharing your journey on the podcast! 

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Recovering from invalidation is an interpersonal effectiveness skill in DBT. 

In Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), “recovering from invalidation” refers to recognizing when another person dismisses, minimizes, ignores, or misunderstands your emotions and then responding effectively instead of spiraling into shame, self-doubt, or emotional dysregulation. The skill involves grounding yourself in the understanding that your emotions and experiences can still be real and meaningful even if another person does not validate them, while also using interpersonal effectiveness skills to communicate needs, maintain self-respect, and decide how to respond in the relationship. 

Here's the DBT pages on this skill: https://eymtherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/recovering-from-invalidation.pdf

Dr. Kristen Neff self-compassion information here: https://self-compassion.org/

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More stories from men with BPD today! Clark is here to share his story with Borderline Personality Disorder. He's experienced prison, getting sober, parenting, and is about to embark on a new therapy journey. Thank you Clark for sharing your story! 

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Happy BPD month ya'll! Each week I'm reviewing a DBT skill as a bonus episode and this week it's DBT Wise Mind. In Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), “wise mind” is the state where your emotional understanding and logical thinking work together.

DBT describes three “states of mind”:

• Emotion mind: driven mainly by feelings, urges, or moods
  Example: “I’m furious, so I’m quitting immediately.”
• Reasonable mind: driven mainly by logic, facts, and analysis
  Example: “Statistically, staying is safer financially.”
• Wise mind: the balanced middle ground that includes both emotion and reason
  Example: “I’m genuinely unhappy here, but I don’t need to make a decision tonight. I can plan a thoughtful next step.”

Let's get into it! 

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I was recently asked in a voicemail to host more cis men on the podcast and so here we go! Meet Charles as he talks his experience with BPD, treatment, suicide attempts, and working towards recovery. Charles thank you so much for your time and wisdom! 

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