So we allllll wonder, "Why do I end up with people who abuse me and relationships that sink me?"

Answer: How long've you got for this discussion?

Well, as relationally traumatized fuckers, this is the focus of the show for the foreseeable future... So I hope you're ready for a long ride and a lot of depressing observations, drawn from peer-reviewed and personal research that - trust me - just won't quit. TMFRs is about to get relational, reflective, and romantic... with the same mix of smart and snark, less of the hypervigilant-intellectual perfectionism trauma response.

Today, casually talking: The danger of "connection," the brain reprogramming outcome of infatuation, the role of parts activation in attachment, automatic early patterning re-enactments.... how we all need to start seeing "expectations" as wildly unhealthy, if not outright mental abuse.

Welcome to a bonus cut of the full Shit Relationship episode! Get all the long-winded reports and research episodes rn at patreon.com, search "traumatized motherfuckers."