Coach Lee

By Coach LeeSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Education Self-Improvement Relationships Sexuality

Coach Lee episodes

July 03, 2021 No Contact and the Power of Time On Your Ex
Coach Lee explains how no contact and the power of time work on your ex to help you get them back after a breakup.
Just like a cake in the oven, time to bake is part of the recipe. Turning up the heat won't cook the cake faster - it will just destroy it.
Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/
Videos Mentioned In This One:
Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact
Is Your Ex Over You?
The FriendZone and Your Ex
Why Is My Ex So Cruel?
No Contact and Marriage
Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You
SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1
Watch the video version of this podcast at: No Contact and the Power of Time
On Life Coach Hub at: No Contact and Time's Power After A Breakup
No Contact and the Power of Time: Understanding the Healing Process
Delving into the concept of 'No Contact' and its interplay with time can offer profound insights into the healing and reconciliation process post-breakup. This approach, frequently discussed in my relationship coaching sessions and videos, draws an analogy to baking a cake, where time is a crucial ingredient that cannot be rushed or bypassed.
The Role of Time in Cooling Off and Reflection
In situations where a breakup was fueled by intense arguments and hurtful exchanges, time acts as a cooling agent. It allows both parties to step back, reflect, and potentially recognize that the relationship might be worth salvaging. This cooling-off period is essential to dissipate the anger and hurt that could have clouded judgment during the heat of the moment.
Time Helps in Affirming the Breakup Decision
Most breakups are not impulsive decisions but are the culmination of prolonged periods of doubt and dissatisfaction. Your ex likely grappled with their feelings for weeks or months before deciding to end the relationship. This period of contemplation means that your ex will also need time post-breakup to be sure about their decision to leave. They might need to experience life without you to truly understand whether the breakup was the right choice.
The Importance of Experiencing the Breakup
It’s vital for your ex to genuinely experience the breakup. This means feeling the absence of your presence and companionship. If you continue to stay in contact, it alleviates their sense of loss, making it easier for them to move on without truly understanding the gravity of their decision. No contact, therefore, is not just about staying silent; it's about letting your ex feel the weight of their choice.
The Healing Power of Missing and Longing
Missing someone can be a powerful catalyst for change. When your ex starts to miss you, it brings into sharp focus the value you added to their life. This realization often comes only when there is a significant gap in communication, reinforcing the idea that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'. The time apart allows your ex to reflect on the relationship with a clearer, more appreciative perspective.
Reunion: The Culmination of Time Apart
When the time comes for a potential reunion, the emotions and memories associated with your absence can be overwhelming for your ex. If you have focused on self-improvement during the no contact period, this reunion becomes even more impactful. It's a moment where the accumulated feelings of longing and realization come to the fore, often leading to a renewed appreciation and desire for the relationship.
Moving Slowly Post-Reunion
Once a reunion is on the horizon, it's crucial to approach it with caution and patience. Jumping back into the relationship too quickly can lead to 'buyer's remorse'. Instead, moving slowly and allowing the relationship to rebuild gradually on a new, more solid foundation is the key to long-term success.
Conclusion
Time, in conjunction with the no contact rule, serves as a powerful tool in the post-breakup healing process. It allows both parties to coo
19 min
July 03, 2021 Should I Write A Closure Letter To My Ex?
In this podcast, I want to answer the question, "Should you write a closure letter to your ex?"
What I'm referring to is a hand-written letter (or email) in which you express your feelings, apologize for your contributions to the breakup, and tell your ex that because they haven't come back to you at this point, you are moving on. Some call it a "goodbye letter to an ex."
What you had in mind might be slightly different or could not include all of what I mentioned.
Determining if you should send such a letter doesn't require all of the traits I mentioned above.
So should you write it?
I'll answer in this podcast.
See the accompanying article: Should I Write A Closure Letter To My Ex
Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/
Videos Mentioned In This One:
The No Contact Rule
What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact?
Help! My Ex Says There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together!
Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact
Should You Seek Closure From Your Ex?
SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1
Crafting a Closure Letter to an Ex: A Strategic Approach
In the complex landscape of relationship recovery, the idea of writing a closure or goodbye letter to an ex-partner often emerges as a contentious topic. Many people grapple with the decision, hoping to find a way to either move on or reignite a spark that once existed. This deliberation is not only common among those who reach out to me through various channels but also a frequent subject of discussion during coaching calls.
The True Intentions Behind a Closure Letter
The fundamental question to ask before sending a closure letter is: What is the true intention behind it? While many claim to seek closure, a deep introspection often reveals a desire to use the letter as a means to re-enter their ex's life. This hidden agenda, masked as a quest for closure, could potentially be a disguised attempt to rekindle the relationship.
The Illusion of Closure
Seeking closure from an ex-partner, especially in the form of a letter, can sometimes be an act of self-deception. It's crucial to understand that closure is a personal journey, not necessarily contingent on an ex's validation or response. By expecting a definitive answer from an ex, one might be inadvertently prolonging the healing process and avoiding the acceptance of the current reality.
The Dilemma of Waiting
The concept of waiting indefinitely for an ex to return is a precarious position to be in. It's vital to set a personal timeline, a point beyond which you allow yourself the freedom to move forward, emotionally open to new possibilities. This approach doesn't negate the residual feelings for an ex but rather acknowledges the need to live a life not entirely hinged on their potential return.
The No Contact Rule: A Double-Edged Sword
No contact is a strategic choice often employed post-breakup. However, sending a closure letter can contradict this approach, potentially undermining its effectiveness. If the letter is perceived as a backdoor to re-establishing contact, it might dilute the impact of the no contact period, giving the ex-partner an impression of your continued availability and thereby reducing their incentive to truly comprehend the loss of the relationship.
Closure as Self-Generated
Real closure comes from within, not from the responses (or lack thereof) of an ex. It's about reaching a point of self-realization and acceptance, where the need for an external affirmation diminishes. This internal closure allows for personal growth and the ability to move forward, irrespective of an ex's actions or decisions.
When is a Closure Letter Appropriate?
There are instances where sending a closure letter might be beneficial, especially when it's seen as a final step of letting go, without expectations of rekindling the relationship. If approached with honesty and clarity, and
20 min
July 03, 2021 How Does An Ex Come Back and Why?
In this podcast, Coach Lee walks you through your ex's journey back to you. He discusses why and how an ex comes back to you after they broke up with you. Watch the video version of this podcast at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iooao52p_X8
Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/
If you benefited from this video, you can leave Coach Lee a quick tip at https://myexbackcoach.com/tip-jar/
Videos Mentioned In This One:
The No Contact Rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQR5Wefd-Uc
What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TCKTPQCuEg&t=767s
Help! My Ex Says There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lsTdeq3pWo&t=415s
SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1
20 min
July 03, 2021 How Does An Ex Come Back and Why?
In this video, Coach Lee walks you through your ex's journey back to you. He discusses why and how an ex comes back to you after they broke up with you.
Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/
See the accompanying article: How does an ex come back after a breakup
Videos Mentioned In This One:
The No Contact Rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQR5Wefd-Uc
What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TCKTPQCuEg
Also see: My Ex Says There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together!
SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1
Also see: Understanding Your Ex's Journey Back to You: Insights into how an ex comes back and the Reconciliation Process
Discussing the intricate journey of an ex-partner back into a relationship is a topic that resonates deeply with many who have experienced breakups. It's crucial to understand the mental and emotional processes your ex undergoes post-breakup, especially if there's a desire for reconciliation. This journey, often obscured by the lack of contact and further complicated by the temptation to monitor their social media, is a path laden with various stages and realizations.
The Relief Stage: A Deceptive BeginningInitially, your ex might exhibit signs of relief. This is one of the stages of a breakup for an ex. This phase, particularly painful to witness if you're still in close proximity, is often misunderstood. They seem happy, liberated even, but this is just the beginning. Their sense of relief stems from overcoming the hurdle of the breakup itself, not from the loss of the relationship. It's a temporary phase where they feel they've escaped a challenging situation.
The Adjustment Phase: Realization Sets InAs they start adjusting to life without you, the reality of the breakup begins to sink in. This period is marked by loneliness and a dawning realization that life isn’t as rosy as they anticipated. Memories of the relationship, both good and bad, start to resurface, leading them to question their decision.
The Duration of Each StageIt's important to note that there's no set timeline for these stages. The relief phase could be brief or extended, but it's typically shorter than anticipated. Human emotions and reactions are not mathematical equations; they vary greatly from person to person.
The Importance of No ContactThe strategy of the no contact rule plays a pivotal role in this journey. By maintaining distance, you allow your ex to experience the full impact of the breakup. It's crucial for them to understand what life without you truly feels like. This realization is often the catalyst for them to start missing you and reconsider their decision.
The Curiosity and Testing Phase: Tentative ReconnectionsWhen your ex begins to miss you, they enter the testing phase. This is a critical period where they might reach out, albeit in a cautious and casual manner. They're testing the waters, unsure of your reaction and their own feelings. It’s a phase marked by uncertainty and a reevaluation of their decision to break up.
Rebuilding Attraction and TrustIf your ex reaches out, this is not the time for grand gestures or intense emotional discussions. Instead, it’s about rebuilding attraction and trust through gradual, positive interactions. Avoid the urge to rehash past issues initially; focus on establishing a new, healthier dynamic.
The Final Phase: Reuniting and ReflectingThe journey culminates in a reunion, but the work doesn't end there. Both partners need to reflect on what led to the breakup and make concerted efforts to address these issues. It’s about understanding, adapting, and ensuring that past mistakes aren’t repeated.
ConclusionUnderstanding your ex's journey back to you involves recognizing the various emotional stages they navigate post-breakup. From initial relief to eventual reconsideration and reaching out, e
20 min
July 03, 2021 Does No Contact Work For Marriage To Get A Husband Or Wife Back?
Does the No Contact Rule work for marriages that are separated and headed toward divorce? Can no contact get your husband or wife back if they have left you or want a separation or divorce? Coach Lee explains a modified form of the No Contact Rule that works for marriage and also goes over details of behavior and expectations for interacting with your spouse (or separated spouse).

Watch the video of this podcast at Does No Contact Work for Marriage?
Get more information on Coach Lee's Emergency Marriage Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-marriage-kit/
SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel by clicking this link: http://youtube.com/c/myexbackcoach?app=desktop;sub_confirmation=1
Get Coach Lee's free mini-course on saving a marriage!
The No Contact Rule in Marriage: A Comprehensive Guide
In the realm of marital relationships, particularly those teetering on the brink of separation or divorce, the 'No Contact Rule' often emerges as a topic of significant interest. As someone deeply involved in relationship coaching, I've frequently encountered queries about the effectiveness of this strategy in the context of marriage, as opposed to its typical application in dating scenarios. This discussion aims to shed light on how the No Contact Rule can be adapted and applied effectively in marriages facing potential dissolution.
Understanding the No Contact Rule in Marital Context
The lockdowns of 2020 served as a catalyst, exacerbating existing marital issues. Many couples, previously managing their relationship strains through distractions like work or social outings, found themselves in constant proximity due to lockdowns. This intense togetherness often magnified underlying problems, leading to escalated conflicts and a heightened sense of dissatisfaction.
Intelligent Contact Rule: A Modified Approach
In cases where a spouse is contemplating divorce, it's crucial first to ensure that they are aware of your desire to salvage the marriage. Once this is established, the focus shifts to what I term the 'Intelligent Contact Rule'. This approach, a nuanced version of the No Contact Rule, involves limiting interactions to essential topics like children, finances, or shared responsibilities. It's not about emotional pleas or attempts to reverse their decision but about maintaining necessary, non-confrontational contact.
The Strategy of Intelligent Contact
Necessary InteractionsThe essence of Intelligent Contact lies in engaging with your spouse only when it's unavoidable. This restraint allows them to feel in control of their decisions and less pressured, reducing the likelihood of them further distancing themselves.
Observing Changes in DynamicsOver time, this approach often leads to a softening in the spouse's attitude. They might start initiating conversations about non-essential topics or express curiosity about your life. These are positive signs, indicating a gradual rekindling of interest.
Face-to-Face InteractionsWhen the opportunity for in-person meetings arises, it's important to keep discussions light and positive. Avoid delving into relationship issues or past conflicts. Instead, focus on shared interests and positive experiences.
Progressing Towards Reconciliation
Avoiding NegativityDiscipline yourself to steer clear of negative topics or confrontational discussions. This period should be about healing and rediscovering the joy in your relationship, reminiscent of the early days of your courtship.
Listening and UnderstandingWhen deeper conversations do occur, listen empathetically. Avoid the urge to argue or defend. Your goal is to understand their perspective and validate their feelings.
Planting Seeds of ImprovementAs your spouse becomes more open, subtly introduce ideas for improving the relationship. Avoid pushing for immediate answers; instead, plant seeds that can grow over time.
Legal Considerations
Consulting a LawyerIf divorce is a possibility, it's prudent to consult a lawyer to understand your rights and
20 min
July 01, 2021 How To Deal With Anxiety After A Breakup
This is how to deal with anxiety after a breakup or separation from your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse, especially if you want your ex back. Coach Lee guides you through lowering your anxiety and panic following a breakup or separation.
Watch the video version of this podcast at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWnTUZd1XBE
Subscribe to Coach Lee on YouTube at YouTube.com/myexbackcoach
Get information on Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at MyExBackCoach.com.
23 min
July 01, 2021 Should You Let Your Ex Know That You're Hurting?
Coach Lee explains how you can know if your ex is confused after breaking up with you. Confusion can be a great sign if you are wanting to get back together with them because it means that they are doubting the breakup. If your ex is confused, there are things they will do that reveal that doubt. Get Info on Coach Lee’s Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/. Subscribe on YouTube as well!
15 min
June 28, 2021 Law of Attraction To Get An Ex Back
Coach Lee explains how the Law of Attraction can help you get your ex back among other things. Lee explains how the Law of Attraction is leveraged with certain types of attitudes, behaviors, and traits while it is stifled by others. He also explains how you can use the Law of Attraction to become more attractive to your ex and others. Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

Watch the accompanying video of this podcast at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mnqg3K1ggbE
18 min
June 11, 2021 Music To Help Anxiety and Nervousness
Music to help anxiety and calm nervousness. This calming and relaxing music can help you if you are experiencing anxiety caused by life, anticipation, worry, concerns, a breakup, dread, or other difficulties. The sounds and tones of this music help calm your brain waves, soothe your stomach, and comfort your mind if you are struggling with anxiety.
1 hr
June 04, 2021 Attachment Styles, Breakups, and the No Contact Rule
Coach Lee discusses attachment styles after a breakup and how someone's attachment style could respond to the No Contact Rule. How do secure attachment styles respond to the No Contact Rule? How to avoidant attachment styles respond to the No Contact Rule? How to anxious attachment styles respond to the No Contact Rule? Watch the video of this podcast at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMkoRelH-U0
28 min

About Coach Lee

From the publisher's feed

Coach Lee is a world-renown relationship coach who helps people get an ex back after a breakup, save a marriage, and become more attractive.

Lee has coached people in relationships since…