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•  Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with Kim Williamson, owner of First Responder Family Wellness Center, mental health professional, and fellow LEO wife, to talk about personal PTSI (PTSD), secondary traumatic stress, the impact on Officer involved incidents on the spouse, and the practice of resilience for law enforcement officers, first responders, and their families.
• Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”
• EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/
• Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493
• Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org
• Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience
• OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury
• Kim’s Contact Info:
  • https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com
  • Email: [email protected]
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• Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings on Dr. Amy Fortney Parks to discuss the impact that this pandemic is having on our children and the anxieties that go along with that.
• Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”
• The Three Phases of Psychological Response to Crisis: Emergency, Regression, and Recovery
• Amy’s Contact Info:

Text “WISEHELP” to 66866

 www.thewisefamily.com

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• Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, and her Darling Husband celebrated 20 years of marriage and wanted to share their first responder relationship tips they have learned over the years.
• Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”
• Top 10 Tips: 1. Be Adaptable 2. Habits and Reactions 3. Boundaries are Important 4. Enjoy Your Time Off 5. State What You Need 6. Stand In Each Other’s Shoes 7. What You See May Not Be What’s Going On 8.Take Ownership of Your Actions and Ask For Forgiveness 9. Be Willing to Have Difficult Conversations 10. It’s Okay If They’re Not Okay
• “Eggshells and Living Big” Podcast: https://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-63-eggshells-and-living-big
• “Divorce Myth” Podcast: https://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-60-the-divorce-myth
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• Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about the effects this pandemic is having on our minds, bodies, and relationships with our first responders.
• Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”
• Brene Brown- brenebrown.com
• Aspects of Brain Reactions: Fight or Flight, Grief, Cognitive Dissidence, and Past Trauma
• Bessel Van de Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/
• The Body Keeps Score Book - https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
• 7 Aspects of Trauma – Lack of Predictability, Immobility, Loss of Connection, Numbing, Loss of Sense of Time and Sequence, Loss of Safety, and Loss of Sense of Purpose
• Solutions – Schedule/Routine, Plan Events, Move Your Body, Make a Dream Board, Play, Connection, Choose Mindfulness Over Numbing, Make Time for Privacy, Physical Touch, Be kind and Gentle
• Previous Podcasts about Breathing:

http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-57-yoga-for-first-responders

http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-58-responding-with-resilience-kate-pieper

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*Bonus Podcast* In this episode of Blue Line Lifestyle, host Kelli Lowe and three of her First Responder Spouse sisters: Rebecca, Cyndi, and Allison have a Conversation of Unity, sharing tips for spouses and to help families move forward during this trying time as the world deals with the trauma of COVID-19 (Coronavirus 19). 

• Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses how to get rid of the feeling of walking on eggshells in your relationship while applying the idea of living BIG.
• Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”
• Ellen Kirschman - https://ellenkirschman.com/
• Cooper’s Colors: https://www.bsr-inc.com/awareness-color-code-chart/
• Cooper’s Colors Podcast Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell
• Brene Brown Rising Strong: https://www.amazon.com/Rising-Strong-Ability-Transforms-Parent/dp/081298580X
• Brene Brown Quote: “What boundaries do I need to set and follow to work and act from a place of integrity, so that I extend the greatest generosity when it comes to interpreting others intentions and actions?”
• Living BIG: Boundaries, Integrity, Generosity or Generous explanation
• Sponge Story Podcast Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell
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• Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings on one of her friends, Dr. Jodie Elder, to discuss different attachment styles and how that impacts our connection with our spouses.
• Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”
• Reactions to Attachment Threats: Criticism and Withdraw
• Attachment Styles: Dismissive, Pre-Occupied, and Fearful
• Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/
• How to Move Towards Secure Attachment: Manage Your Own Stuff and Perception of Our Partner
• Jodie’s Handout: https://www.dropbox.com/s/aljt01jzka94i3u/Dr.%20Jodie%20Elder%20Attachment%20and%20Connection.pdf?dl=0
• Jodie’s Contact Info: [email protected]
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• Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with her Darling Husband and chats about his 5 takeaways from Dr. Gilmartin’s Book Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement.
• Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”
• Kevin Gilmartin’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403
• Darling Husband’s 5 Takeaways: The Job, The Whole Job, and Nothing but The Job. 2. Dealing with Hypervigilance. 3. The Burn Out. 4. What Officers Actually Control. 5. Police Work Isn’t 24/7.
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• Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, does the research to myth bust the divorce rate among law enforcement couples and hopes to give some peace of mind.
• Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”
• First Responder Mental Health Conference: https://www.backingthebluedenton.com/
• Podcast Episode with That Peer Support Couple: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-46-that-peer-support-couple
• Podcast Episode with Dr. Stephanie Conn: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-47-the-importance-of-resilience
• Stephanie Conn’s Book - https://www.amazon.com/Increasing-Resilience-Police-Emergency-Personnel/dp/1138643688
• Jeff Shannon Police One: https://www.policeone.com/off-duty/articles/p1-first-person-the-myths-and-realities-of-cops-and-divorce-GjJKRRC3Pzzi8H0W/
• Factors of Divorce Rate Trending Down: couples waiting to get married and co-habitation without nuptials
• Shawn McCoy and Michael Aamodt Study: https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/A-Comparison-of-Law-Enforcement-Divorce-Rates-with-McCoy-Aamodt/499077004f2e743a7c7d88237a8eb51a7684077d
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