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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about situations we face in our first responder relationships when we may be shut out or shut down by our partner when trying to connect with them.

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-        Dr. John Gottman “Stonewalling”: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-stonewalling/

-        “Invisible Armor” Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-48-invisible-armor

-        “Love Maps” Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-22-cleaning-your-relationship-house

-        Gottman Love Maps: https://www.gottman.com/blog/build-love-maps/

-        Hypervigilance: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypervigilance

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses the impacts of trying to create intimacy and connection with our partners while keeping an invisible armor on.

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-        Podcasts with Dr. Dean Aslina: 1. http://code4couples.libsyn.com/understanding-your-mate-interview-with-dr-dean-aslinia-sex-therapist   2. http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-26-understanding-your-mate-interview-with-dr-dean-aslinia-sex-therapist-continued

-        Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/

-        Dr. John and Julie Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/

-        “Into Me You See” Aspects of Intimacy: Vulnerability and Empathy

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with Dr. Stephanie Conn, licensed psychologist and former police officer, to talk about resiliency and her book Increasing Resilience in Police and Emergency Personnel: Strengthening Your Mental Armor.

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-        Dr. Stephanie Conn’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Increasing-Resilience-Police-Emergency-Personnel/dp/113864367X/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=stephanie+conn+book&qid=1556128706&s=gateway&sr=8-1-fkmrnull

-        Dr. Gillmartin’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=gilmartin+book&qid=1556130599&s=gateway&sr=8-1

-        Contact Dr. Stephanie Conn: https://firstresponderpsychology.com/

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, connects with That Peer Support Couple, Javier and Cathy Bustos! Javier and Cathy share their critical incidences while they were both in law enforcement and how that affected their marriage.

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-        Bill Blackwood Law Enforcement Management Institute of Texas: http://www.lemitonline.org/

-        Law Enforcement Today Articles: https://www.lawenforcementtoday.com/?s=cathy+bustos

-        Police One: https://www.policeone.com/

-        Dr. Gilmartin: http://emotionalsurvival.com/about.htm

-        5 Love Languages: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

-        Patrick Shaver “Officer Involved”: http://www.officerinvolvedproject.com/

-        EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/

-        Start a Peer Support Program: https://www.policeone.com/health-fitness/articles/480389006-How-to-launch-a-successful-peer-support-program/

-        You Tell on Yourself: https://www.lawenforcementtoday.com/tell/

-        Blue Help: https://bluehelp.org/

-        Back the Blue Denton: https://www.backingthebluedenton.com/

-        Shawn Thomas First Responder Conferences: https://1stresponderconferences.org/

-        PCIS: http://www.lemitonline.org/programs/?mode=view&item=21

-        Cathy and Javier Contact Info: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cathyandjavi/ ; Twitter - https://twitter.com/PeerLlc ; Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cathyandjavi/ ; Email: [email protected]

-        COPLINE: http://www.copline.org/

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses the difficult topic of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or Post Traumatic Stress. She breaks down what qualifies a person to be diagnosed with PTSD and gives examples of warning signs to look for if a first responder has been affected by a critical incident and may be suffering from PTSD.

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-        Criterion for Diagnosis: Criterion A – Direct/Indirect Exposure; Criterion B – Nightmares, flashbacks, distress after triggers; Criterion C – Thoughts, feelings, or external reminders; Criterion D – Inability to recall key features of the trauma, negative thoughts about oneself or the world, exaggerated blame, negative affect, decreased interest in activities, isolation; Criterion E – alterations and arousal in reactivity; Criterion F – last one month or more; Criterion G – a change in functional significance; Criterion H – exclusion criteria.

-        Contributing Factors to Impeding Your Brain to Process Event: personalization of the event and their own trauma.

-        “Typical” behavior after critical incident: don’t close eyes, show emotions, be quiet, and talk to others

-        What to watch for: hopelessness, personalization and blame, magical thinking, blame on somebody else, increase in numbing activity, and isolation.

-        What to do if you see this: tell them what you see different about behavior, and ask open-ended questions.

-        EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/

-        Code 9 Project Podcast: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-17-bringing-ptsd-into-the-light

-        Bringin’ on the Heat: https://www.code4couples.com/freebie

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, interviews fellow therapist, Brittainy Wagner, about trauma and how that impacts us as individuals and as couples.

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-        Tidemark Therapy in Denison, Texas - https://www.tidemarktherapy.com/

-        Trauma Aspects: Emotional, Physical, Neglect/Betrayal, Events (death, natural disasters, health-related)

-        Three Way of Trauma Spillover: Angry Distance, Romantic, and Social

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with fellow LEO couple Asst. Chief John and Stephanie Oldham to discuss how they navigated through the challenges that we tend to face being in a first responder relationship.

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-        IACP Conference: https://www.theiacpconference.org/attend/past-conferences/

-        Gottman Training: https://www.gottman.com/professionals/training/

-        The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work book: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797

-        Gottman Cards App: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/

-        Bringing Baby Home: https://www.gottman.com/professionals/training/bringing-baby-home/

-        John and Steph Oldham Contact Info: [email protected]

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, chats with fellow law enforcement officer wife, Lisa Grenfell, about wellness and how it pertains to your personal life and your relationship with your first responder.

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-        WELCOA’s 7 Components of Wellness: Health, Resiliency, Meaning, Safety, Connection, Achievement, and Growth - https://www.welcoa.org/blog/definition-of-wellness/

-        Dr. Gilmartin - https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403

-        Vic Strecher books about Purpose - https://www.amazon.com/Life-Purpose-Matters-Changes-Everything/dp/0062409603

https://www.amazon.com/Purpose-Victor-J-Strecher/dp/1940594014/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1547062676&sr=1-2&keywords=vic+strecher

-        Episode 34: Reconnecting - http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-34-reconnecting

-        Lisa Grenfell Instagram: @lmgrennie

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about the dangers of the USTA syndrome and how to help prevent this from happening in your relationship.

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-        USTA Syndrome – stuff we ‘used to” do

-        Dr. Kevin Gilmartin - https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403

-        Cure for USTA – proactive mindset, get in control, find a hobby, and connect with others.

-        Intimacy Ops Plan “Bringin’ on the Heat!” Freebie: https://www.code4couples.com/freebie

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, created a fun and humorous list of why having a first responder spouse during the holidays can be quite enjoyable!

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-        First Responder Holiday List: 1. Traditions 2. Night Shift 3. Package Stealers 4. Get Out of Going to Parties 5. Shopping

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