Code4Couples

-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings author, Adam Davis, back to talk about his newest devotional book Bulletproof Marriage, which he co-wrote with Lt. Col. Dave Grossman, to help LE couples avoid pitfalls.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        Bulletproof Marriage: https://www.amazon.com/Bulletproof-Marriage-Devotional-Adam-Davis/dp/1424557593/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1544632540&sr=8-1&keywords=bulletproof+marriage+adam+davis

-        Lt. Col. Dave Grossman: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dave_Grossman_(author)

-        Dr. John and Julie Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/

-        Adam Davis Contact and Social Media:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theofficialadamdavis/

Website: https://www.theadamdavis.com/

Instagram: @theofficialadamdavis

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, was asked by a fellow LEO wife to talk about the importance of knowing what quality time means to us in our relationships.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        The 3 Conflicts of Quality Time: 1. After doing a time inventory – what is taking up your time? 2. What does quality time mean to you personally? 3. Hypervigilance.

-        The 3 Solutions of Quality Time: 1. Talk with each other about quality time and see if there is a common interest. 2. Find the most optimum engaging time. 3. Schedule that time together.

-        Intimacy Ops Plan “Bringin’ on the Heat!” Freebie: https://www.code4couples.com/freebie

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses the possible underlying complaints behind nags or even controlling remarks and how to get curious about those in order to discuss them with your significant other in a healthy manor.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        Bulletproof Marriage by Adam Davis: https://books.google.com/books/about/Bulletproof_Marriage.html?id=ZJN2swEACAAJ

-        Nag definition: annoy or irritate (a person) with persistent fault-finding or continuous urging

-        Previous “Control” Podcast: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-31-control-vs-capitulation

-        Control definition: the power to influence or direct people's behavior or the course of events

-        Criticism: the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes

-        Our 2 responsibilities: being curious about our stuff and being curious about our partner’s stuff

-        Complaint: a statement that a situation is unsatisfactory or unacceptable

-        Soft Start Up Podcast: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-19-the-hardest-easiest-way-to-communicate

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-         Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about critical incident anniversaries and how they impact our first responder spouses and how we can help them walk through that.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        Dallas Shooting: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2016_shooting_of_Dallas_police_officers

-        National Law Enforcement Officer Memorial Website: http://www.nleomf.com/

-        Elizabeth Kubler-Ross Stages of Grief: shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance; https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_model

-        Spouses’ to-do list: Notice and mention the behavior, listen, make space, let them talk to their peers.

-        First responder to-do list: let your spouse in, talk with a buddy, get involved with something.

-        CISM: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Critical_incident_stress_management

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with fellow LEO wife, Rebecca from Proud Police Wife blog! Find out what Rebecca has been up to as she paves the way for other law enforcement spouses and builds a community.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        Rebecca’s Links:

Website: www.proudpolicewife.com

 Police Wife Network: https://proudpolicewife.thinkific.com/courses/proud-police-wife-network

 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/proudpolicewif

 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/proudpwife/

-         Police One: https://www.policeone.com/

-         Corie Weathers: www.corieweathers.com/

-         Bless the Badge: http://blessthebadge.com/

-         Wives on Duty Ministries: https://www.facebook.com/wivesondutyministries/

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about how staying connected through shifts and schedules is hard but gives some steps to get reconnected and to stay intimate with your partner.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        IACP: www.theiacp.org/

-        Reconnecting Steps: 1. Check in with yourself 2. Take the other person’s temperature 3. Take care of immediate needs 4. Schedule time to talk and connect 5. Get ready to share.

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with former female law enforcement officer, Autumn Clifford, who created the Lady Sheepdog movement. She gives insight into what it was like to be a female in a very male dominant career as well as discusses some of the impacts that has on LEO relationships.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        War on Cops Podcast: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-32-hard-week-war-on-cops

-        On Combat Book: https://www.amazon.com/Combat-Psychology-Physiology-Deadly-Conflict/dp/0964920549

-        Lady Sheepdog Academy: https://autumnclifford.clickfunnels.com/sales-page20099815

-        Autumn’s Instagram: @theladysheepdog

-        Autumn’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/autumnlclifford/

-        Sheepdog Nation Podcast: http://podcast.thesheepdognation.com/

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings up a very controversial topic of the war on cops and how that impacts the police as a population and their families.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        The War on Cops by Heather Mac Donald: https://www.amazon.com/War-Cops-Attack-Order-Everyone/dp/1594038759

-        Aspects of Change in Policing: Community Policing and Social Media

-        “The Assailant Study - Mindsets and Behaviors: http://www.mcsheriffs.com/pdf/news/vale_study_final.pdf

-        Commonalities of Assailants – 1. Desire to kill law enforcement, 2. Felt they were going to lose their freedom.

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about how control can be perceived very differently in relationships, especially with first responders.  

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        Control Versus Capitulation: Perception, Need, Unhealthy Signs

-        Are You Controlling or Not: 1. Do you make a request or demand? 2. Are you stating any feelings? 3. State Your Need. 4. Be Ready to Compromise.

-        If You’re Capitulating: 1. Get Curious. 2. Don’t Personalize. 3. Gently Confront.

-        Sponge Podcast: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell

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-        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, is joined by her Darling Husband again to discuss Col. Jeff Cooper’s Awareness Color Code and how that pertains to first responders and also their spouses.

-        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck”

-        Col. Jeff Cooper’s Colors: https://www.bsr-inc.com/awareness-color-code-chart/

-        OODA Loop Podcast: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-4-does-your-leo-ooda

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