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In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Dr. Ross Greene, clinical psychologist and creator of the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) model, to unpack why traditional rewards and punishments often make behavior worse — not better. We dive deep into why "because I said so" stops working, what your child's frustration is actually communicating, and how to shift from authoritarian control to collaborative leadership that builds trust, accountability, and critical thinking.
If you've ever thought, "Why is this not working anymore?" this episode will give you a radically different lens — and practical tools you can use immediately.
Timeline Summary
[0:00] Why power struggles are so common in parenting
[2:00] Introducing Dr. Ross Greene and the CPS model
[6:17] Why rewards and punishments don't solve the real problem
[8:33] Concerning behavior as a frustration response
[12:04] The 3-step collaborative problem-solving process explained
[16:19] Real-life example: solving teeth brushing battles with a 3-year-old
[30:56] Curfew conflict and how to navigate teenage resistance
[37:16] How collaborative parenting builds critical thinking
[41:56] Why authoritarian parenting may cause long-term harm
[47:06] Developmental variability — why every child is different
[49:23] Why noncompliance is informative, not defiance
[56:31] Accountability through collaboration — not punishment
Five Key Takeaways
Links & Resources
Closing Remark
If this episode challenged how you think about discipline, accountability, and leadership at home, don't just sit on it — put it into practice. Try the empathy step tonight. Lead with curiosity. Solve one unsolved problem.
If this conversation impacted you, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. The way we parent today shapes the leaders of tomorrow.
From my heart to yours — go out and live legendary.
By Larry Hagner4.8
15001,500 ratings
In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Dr. Ross Greene, clinical psychologist and creator of the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) model, to unpack why traditional rewards and punishments often make behavior worse — not better. We dive deep into why "because I said so" stops working, what your child's frustration is actually communicating, and how to shift from authoritarian control to collaborative leadership that builds trust, accountability, and critical thinking.
If you've ever thought, "Why is this not working anymore?" this episode will give you a radically different lens — and practical tools you can use immediately.
Timeline Summary
[0:00] Why power struggles are so common in parenting
[2:00] Introducing Dr. Ross Greene and the CPS model
[6:17] Why rewards and punishments don't solve the real problem
[8:33] Concerning behavior as a frustration response
[12:04] The 3-step collaborative problem-solving process explained
[16:19] Real-life example: solving teeth brushing battles with a 3-year-old
[30:56] Curfew conflict and how to navigate teenage resistance
[37:16] How collaborative parenting builds critical thinking
[41:56] Why authoritarian parenting may cause long-term harm
[47:06] Developmental variability — why every child is different
[49:23] Why noncompliance is informative, not defiance
[56:31] Accountability through collaboration — not punishment
Five Key Takeaways
Links & Resources
Closing Remark
If this episode challenged how you think about discipline, accountability, and leadership at home, don't just sit on it — put it into practice. Try the empathy step tonight. Lead with curiosity. Solve one unsolved problem.
If this conversation impacted you, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. The way we parent today shapes the leaders of tomorrow.
From my heart to yours — go out and live legendary.

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