What happens when a pastor discovers he's been missing his wife emotionally for years—not from lack of love, but from lack of tools?In this powerful conversation, Dr. Glenn Hill sits down with Friedemann Pache, a Connection Codes certified coach from Germany, to discuss his transformation from emotional shutdown to vulnerable connection. Friedemann shares the raw truth about his 18-year marriage, his journey through pastoral ministry where he learned to ignore his body's signals, and the moment he realized he didn't know how to share emotions despite wanting deep connection with his wife, Katarina.

This episode reveals:

• How childhood patterns of "keeping yourself shut" create loneliness in marriage
• Why most men struggle with emotional language (and the simple tool that changes everything)
• The surprising way shame can be your ally, not your enemy
• How Friedemann's 50-year-married parents did the Core Emotion Wheel for the first time—and what happened when decades of unspoken pain finally found words
• Practical steps for bringing emotional health to your church, family, and community

Keywords: emotional health, marriage advice, pastoral burnout, emotional intimacy, relationship transformation, men and emotions, communication in marriage, emotional vocabulary, vulnerability in leadership, mental health for pastors, marriage counseling, emotional connection tools, overcoming loneliness in marriage, healthy relationships, faith and mental health

What You'll Learn:

• The difference between being present and being emotionally present
• How to create safety for yourself with your own emotions
• Why your body holds emotion and what happens when you ignore it
• The four-step process for deeper connection (even after 50 years of marriage)
• How to introduce emotional health tools to resistant family members or church communities

Featured Guest: Friedemann Pache is a Connection Codes certified coach based in Lüneburg, Germany. After 16 years in pastoral ministry, he now helps German-speaking individuals and couples discover emotional health and authentic connection. He's married to Katarina for 18 years, father to two teenagers, and is passionate about bringing the Connection Codes methodology to Europe.

Resources Mentioned:

• Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
• Book a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches
• Connect with Friedemann: [email protected] | www.c-momente.de
• Connection Codes Programs: Foundations Masterclass, Clarity Reset, Late Night- School of Connection Coaching Certification

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