466 - Developing Self-Esteem and Self-Efficacy
Developing Self-Esteem and Self-Efficacy
Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes
Executive Director, AllCEUs Counseling Continuing Education
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Objectives
• Understand what self esteem and self-efficacy are, why they are important and how to develop them
The Nature of Self-Esteem
• How people feel about theirself in contrast to who people think people “should” be
• The more rejecting people are of theirself, the more
• Distress people experience
• people seek external validation or withdraw
• In order to develop healthy relationships people need to
• Feel good about theirself
• Get in touch with theirself and their true values
• Believe people are a lovable and worthwhile person
• Choose actions in harmony with their true self
The Gift of Mindfulness
• Teaches people to live in the moment
• Not stuck in guilt or resentment of the past
• Not paralyzed by fear of the future
• Putting one foot in front of the other
• Cornerstone of mindfulness is acceptance
• Nonjudgmental
• Letting be
• Patient
• Mindfulness teaches that when people trust theirself and act with awareness and purpose people become more self reliant
Note: The book will give people access to online, recorded versions of several meditations
Impact of Mindlessness
• Ignoring or invalidating how people feel
• Failing to integrate feelings, thoughts, sensations and urges
• Running on autopilot and not making time for the things that are important (getting us closer to our ideal selves)
• Blindly adopting mainstream messages of who/what we should be
• Not in harmony with who we really want to be
• Not achievable or realistic
Developing a Self-Concept and Efficacy
• You are more than your accomplishments or your bank account.
• What do you want to stand for (values)?
• Download a values list and circle the ones that are important to you.
• Identify how you CURRENTLY demonstrate those.
• Identify other ways you could demonstrate those.
• What things do you do that go against your values? (i.e. impatience)
• What could you start doing today to address one of those?
Developing a Self-Concept
• What things are you good at, and what are your accomplishments?
• What traits/values do those accomplishments and strengths represent? Success, courage, determination, creativity, compassion
• How would your friends describe you?
• Loyal, compassionate, caring, honest…
• How do you demonstrate those?
• Self Esteem Acronym (THINK)
Breathing and the Body
• The constant noise often keeps people from addressing the underlying issues of emotional turmoil
• Life becomes focused on treading water
• Forward goals are exchanged for just surviving
• This reduces self-efficacy
• Mindfulness and self-awareness help people quiet their thoughts
• By making contact with the present moment people can:
• Find their strength
• Learn to grow
• Choose how people wish to respond
Activities
• A Deep Full Breath
• Abdominal breathing signals the brain to slow down and relax. “Rest and digest”
• Simply paying attention to breath often causes it to slow down
• Feel the loving touch (their Breath)
• Life begins and ends with breath
• Breathing helps relax the body and move Qi
• Add visual and auditory breathing reminders
Activities cont…
• In and Out
• Do a body scan and yay attention to what their body is trying to tell them
• Inhale and take in positive affirmations
• Make a list of 1-3 affirmations
• Exhale and let go of stress and negative energy
• Envision stress leaving like a wave/cloud/balloon
• Note: This can also be done with bubbles
• Practice noticing points of tension/tightness/heaviness and feel them relax or lo