Crystal Paine Show

I am beyond excited about today's guest! Bri McCoy is here, and we are diving into her brand new book The Cook’s Book: Recipes for Keeps & Essential Techniques to Master Everyday Cooking! It's not just the delicious recipes that make this book special but also the joy and confidence it brings to the kitchen. If you have ever felt overwhelmed in the kitchen, struggled to find joy in cooking, or simply want to simplify your mealtime, this episode is definitely a must-listen for you!

Bri shares her story of transitioning from someone who avoided cooking to embracing it with enthusiasm, and she talks about the importance of learning cooking skills and techniques and how they unlocked her joy in the kitchen. Bri's book is all about teaching these skills and complementing them with easy-to-follow recipes, and she emphasizes that cooking doesn't have to be about perfection; rather, it's about confidence and enjoying flavorful meals. She also discusses the challenges of building community when moving frequently due to her husband's military service and shares her experiences and how she prioritizes connection despite the inevitable goodbyes.

Again, if you have ever felt daunted by the kitchen or wondered how to build deeper connections with others, join us for this episode as we explore the joy of cooking and the power of community. Bri's journey and her book offer hope and practical tips for anyone seeking to bring more joy and connection into their lives through cooking and shared meals. Get ready to be inspired and discover a newfound love for the kitchen!

In This Episode

[0:35] - Today’s episode is a conversation with Bri McCoy, author of The Cook’s Book!

[1:04] - Bri shares a little bit of insight about herself.

[3:38] - How did Bri go so long without learning how to cook?

[4:47] - Bri explains that she wrote her book as an ultimate kitchen resource for beginners.

[5:31] - Learn how Bri came to fall in love with cooking.

[7:48] - Bri recommends beginning with simple recipes.

[9:11] - Bri discusses how sharing a meal helped reveal vulnerabilities and foster connections.

[10:44] - Moving every three years forces Bri to build a community very quickly.

[13:19] - Bri emphasizes teaching and reinforcing cooking skills via her recipes.

[14:33] - Bri acknowledges the difference between simple and bland.

[16:20] - Bri values deep friendships despite relocating every three years.

[18:41] - Hear about how Bri really hates goodbyes.

[20:27] - Bri discusses realizing the importance of cherishing friendships before distance.

[22:35] - Bri reveals what she most hopes people will get out of her book.

[24:00] - Cooking confidence grew for Bri when she rescued her burning chicken.

[25:26] - What would Bri say to her younger self if she could?

[28:09] - I agree with Bri that we should own our abilities without needing to be the best at them.

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

Books

The Cook’s Book: Recipes for Keeps & Essential Techniques to Master Everyday Cooking by Bri McCoy

Social Media

Crystal Paine on Instagram

Crystal Paine on Twitter

Crystal Paine on Goodreads

Money Saving Mom

Money Saving Mom on Facebook

Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group

[email protected]

I am so excited to welcome Paul Angone back to the show, who was first on back in episode 127! Paul joins me today to talk about his book Listen to Your Day, delving into the concept of paying attention in the digital age and sharing how he’s transformed and improved his own relationship with his phone.

We discuss the challenges of maintaining healthy relationships with loved ones and strangers in a digital world full of distractions, highlighting how parents are often juggling the demands of family and work. We touch upon the growing concern around the relationship between children and social media, and we talk about the importance of being present and attentive to loved ones. Paul also shares some practical tips for doing so, such as asking meaningful questions, starting the day with intention, and making eye contact with people rather than constantly looking down at our phones.

Paul encourages us to build deeper connections with people, not just with loved ones but with strangers that we come across in the grocery store as well, and he suggests starting the day off with a simple question: “What do I want to focus on today?” This, he argues, can really help set the tone for a more intentional approach to life.

This was such a wonderful conversation, and I strongly encourage you to read Paul’s book titled Listen to Your Day! I love it so much that I have had to limit how many pages I read each day so that I don’t tear through it too quickly! Between listening to this captivating conversation with him and reading his book, you’re sure to walk away with a much deeper understanding of how to cultivate a more meaningful life!

In This Episode

[0:35] - Today’s conversation is with Paul Angone, author of Listen to Your Day!

[2:18] - Paul discusses the origin of the book.

[4:33] - Paul navigates parenting and work while avoiding smartphone distractions.

[7:09] - I question the impact of phones, acknowledging their problems despite their usefulness.

[8:05] - Paul highlights parallels between his creative journey and the duality of smartphones.

[10:54] - Paul emphasizes the need for intentionality in managing phone usage.

[13:31] - I discuss my own personal experience with social media addiction.

[15:23] - We must address social media's impact and model healthy phone use for kids.

[18:07] - Paul argues for promoting presence, modeling healthy habits, and engaging with kids.

[19:53] - I point out how social media can fill a void in our hearts sometimes, offering validation.

[21:40] - Paul emphasizes the importance of paying attention to relationships in our daily lives.

[23:42] - Building connections through questions and engagement fosters trust and love.

[26:06] - Maintaining eye contact and meaningful interactions for just seven seconds matters.

[27:28] - Paul points out that we should avoid missing out on “not so chance encounters.”

[29:20] - Noticing small details in conversations can lead to deeper connections.

[30:35] - Learn how Paul has improved his relationship with his phone.

[34:06] - Paul’s book provides a framework to discover priorities and start the day with intention.

[35:37] - Start your day off by asking yourself what you want to focus on that day.

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

The Crystal Paine Show - 127. Living Out Your Calling (instead of being limited by lies)

Books

Listen to Your Day by Paul Angone

Social Media

Crystal Paine on Instagram

Crystal Paine on Twitter

Crystal Paine on Goodreads

Money Saving Mom

Money Saving Mom on Facebook

Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group

[email protected]

We are talking all about transitions this week on the podcast because we have experienced many of them recently just in the last week alone! Listen as we dive into a whirlwind week of transitions in our lives. From Kathrynne embarking on her college journey and stepping into adulthood to David starting preschool, it has truly been a rollercoaster of emotions!

We share the joys and challenges of these significant life changes and how we are adapting our family schedule to accommodate these shifts. Join us as we discuss the importance of embracing transitions, the power of community, and the unexpected blessings that come with watching our children take flight into new adventures!

I also reveal how a simple question from Jesse saved my sanity during this hectic week. You won’t want to miss this episode full of real-life stories and insights into navigating transitions with grace and hope!

In This Episode

[0:35] – It has been one really full week!

[1:27] – Learn why recording this podcast was delayed so many times.

[4:06] – Another fiasco this week was Kierstyn cutting her own hair!

[11:14] – Hear about yet another delay that happened this morning.

[12:41] – I have been reading The Worry-Free Parent by Sissy Goff.

[14:07] – Learn what has been saving my life this week!

[15:37] – Thinking about time management, I saved a lot of time by ordering groceries online.

[17:40] – The first of four big transitions is Kathrynne starting college!

[21:59] – Live in the present and don’t fear the future.

[22:47] – Jesse also emphasizes the joy of celebrating Kathrynne’s transition into adulthood.

[23:59] – Kathrynne was worried about not knowing anyone at college but has been very social.

[25:36] – It’s so important to prioritize community over household projects when transitioning.

[27:55] – Another transition this week was David starting preschool!

[30:52] – Hear how our lives have changed because of David being in preschool.

[33:18] – I am excited to homeschool our kids, spending mornings offline, and prioritizing family.

[35:19] – We have also been getting up much earlier, even on weekends!

• The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff
• Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine
• 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom
• Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
• MoneySavingMom.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com

Step into a very candid conversation today as I am so thrilled to welcome Tricia Goyer to the show! Tricia is an accomplished author who's been a part of my life for a long time, and our talk delves into her journey as an author, her unique family dynamics, and the importance of nurturing healthy relationships with our children. We reminisce about our past experiences speaking on adoption and foster care, which deeply influenced my path.

Tricia shares some incredibly valuable insights from her latest book, Before You Meet Your Future Husband: 30 Questions to Ask Yourself and 30 Heartfelt Prayers, co-authored with Robin Jones Gunn, and if you’re thinking, Well, I am already married, so I don’t need this book, I strongly encourage you to still at least stick around for this conversation because there is so much value that can help people across generations!

Tricia and I emphasize the significance of self-discovery, fostering personal growth, and building strong values before entering a relationship. We also explore the art of parenting teenagers, a journey that requires a balance of grace and guidance. Tricia’s stories reveal the transformation that comes from understanding and connecting with teens' emotional needs. Through shared experiences, Trisha and I emphasize the power of empathy, understanding, and focusing on positive connections, even amidst life's complexities, so join us in discovering how nurturing relationships with our children can truly make a difference!

In This Episode

[0:35] - Welcome Tricia Goyer to the podcast!

[2:33] - Tricia provides us with some background information about herself.

[4:13] - Tricia turned to foster care adoption, eventually expanding their family to seven children.

[7:23] - Learn what inspired Tricia’s book Calming Angry Kids.

[9:50] - Tricia reflects on doubt felt amidst directed trauma from adopted older girls.

[11:40] - Tricia emphasizes the importance of self-discovery before getting into a relationship.

[14:23] - Parents should start having these conversations with their kids around 12 or 13.

[17:05] - Tricia argues that kids are listening even when it seems like they’re not engaged.

[19:54] - ​​I point out the importance of engaging in children's interests.

[21:19] - Tricia highlights the significance of recognizing hormones and emotions in teenagers.

[23:05] - All behavior is a form of communication.

[24:00] - The new book resonated with a diverse range of readers, which surprised Tricia.

[26:19] - Tricia reflects on having been a teen mom herself.

[29:11] - Tricia has written over 80 books!

[30:15] - Tricia points out that her calling also benefits her kids.

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

Books

Before You Meet Your Future Husband: 30 Questions to Ask Yourself and 30 Heartfelt Prayers by Tricia Goyer and Robin Jones Gunn

Calming Angry Kids: Help and Hope for Parents in the Whirlwind by Tricia Goyer

Praying for Your Future Husband: Preparing Your Heart for His by Tricia Goyer and Robin Jones Gunn

Kisses from Katie: A Story of Relentless Love and Redemption by Katie Davis Majors

Social Media

Crystal Paine on Instagram

Crystal Paine on Twitter

Crystal Paine on Goodreads

Money Saving Mom

Money Saving Mom on Facebook

Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group

[email protected]

Get ready for an episode of the show that I have been looking forward to for so long! I am joined today by the incredible Alli Worthington, author of the recently released book Remaining You While Raising Them: The Secret Art of Confident Motherhood. Believe me, if you're seeking empowerment and practical guidance in navigating the challenging waters of parenting, this episode is an absolute must-listen!

In our conversation, Alli opens up about her journey as a mother to five boys and a stepdaughter, offering relatable stories that will resonate deeply with so many mothers. From tackling the pervasive grip of mom guilt to disassembling the myth of perfection that tends to be perpetuated by social media, we delve into many of the challenges and pressures that mothers face today, including the hesitation to ask for help when it's needed.

We also explore Alli's refreshing concept of slacker parenting (which Jesse and I have discussed on the show before), encouraging us to focus on what truly matters and shed the unrealistic expectations that often weigh us down. Listen in to discover actionable steps to prioritize self-care, cultivate emotional health, and empower your children to become responsible adults!

In This Episode

[0:35] - I am chatting with Alli Worthington today!

[1:44] - Alli gives us some background information about herself.

[3:03] - Alli reveals why she was initially hesitant to write a book about family.

[5:18] - I share a relatable experience about my own struggle with mom guilt.

[7:13] - Alli emphasizes the importance of teaching kids self-sufficiency.

[9:20] - Alli defines slacker parenting.

[12:12] - Human connection matters most to kids, not perfect meals.

[13:37] - Emotional health encompasses mental, spiritual, and relational well-being.

[15:55] - I emphasize a part of Alli’s book about there being no such thing as perfect parenting.

[16:55] - Alli points out what managing emotional health looks like for mothers.

[18:33] - Alli argues that women often feel like they can’t ask for help.

[21:30] - If someone can complete a task at 75% of your ability, it’s worth letting them help.

[23:42] - How can moms find the balance between helping their kids without enabling them?

[26:00] - Teenage responsibility requires fostering independence and avoiding over-parenting.

[28:24] - I share how college orientation advised me to send my daughter with a medicine box.

[30:13] - Alli wishes she’d known about self-care and rejecting unrealistic parenting sooner.

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

The Crystal Paine Show - 208. Slacker Parenting (AKA How to spend less time micromanaging and more time enjoying your kids)

Books

Remaining You While Raising Them: The Secret Art of Confident Motherhood by Alli Worthington

Social Media

Crystal Paine on Instagram

Crystal Paine on Twitter

Crystal Paine on Goodreads

Money Saving Mom

Money Saving Mom on Facebook

Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group

[email protected]

In this episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I dive deep into the topic of how love is worth the risk. We share how recent experiences have challenged us to embrace the vulnerability of loving wholeheartedly. Whether it's fostering a child and facing the heart-wrenching goodbyes, navigating friendships with the potential for hurt, or parenting in a way that opens our hearts to the unknowns of the future, we've discovered that to truly love is to take a risk... but it is worth the risk.

We also discuss the importance of living in the moment, savoring each day, and recognizing that the uncertainties of tomorrow shouldn't deter us from loving fully today. Join us as we explore the significance of opening our hearts, being vulnerable, and choosing to love in a way that echoes the unconditional love we receive from God. It's a reminder that even though love comes with its challenges, it's a risk that is absolutely always worth taking!

In This Episode

[0:35] - We’re talking today about how loving comes with risks but is still worth it!

[1:49] - I reflect on recent events like our daughter's freshman year of college and a vacation.

[4:00] - We talk about how baseball tryouts for Silas have been character-building for him.

[6:37] - Despite relinquishing control as a parent, I still sometimes want control over outcomes.

[7:19] - I reflect on changed perspectives from navigating travel baseball.

[10:02] - Jesse has had more time to read and mentions two books he started.

[11:16] - Hear how Mayhem Nation has been saving my life.

[14:16] - Jesse highlights the difference between CrossFit Games and everyday activities.

[15:28] - I give a personal example of love coming with risk.

[17:05] - I elaborate upon the pain of having to say goodbye to a child -- twice.

[21:41] - Fostering can be unpredictable, and foster parents have to be able to adapt to change.

[22:31] - I reflect on the risk of opening my heart and how being vulnerable is worth the risk.

[25:15] - God gives us beautiful opportunities to show love and receive love ourselves.

[25:54] - Whatever your situation, I encourage you to open your hands and your heart.

• Crystal Paine
• The Crystal Paine Show - 213. Every Woman a Theologian (with Phylicia Masonheimer)
• Mayhem Nation
• Stop Calling Me Beautiful: Finding Soul-Deep Strength in a Skin-Deep World by Phylicia Masonheimer
• The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff
• Dead Fall: A Thriller (The Scot Harvath Series Book 22) by Brad Thor
• Three Felonies A Day: How the Feds Target the Innocent by Harvey Silvergate and Alan M. Dershowitz
• Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine
• 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom
• Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
• MoneySavingMom.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com

We don't have many repeat guests on the podcast, but I was so happy to have Lisa Whittle back in the studio to talk about her new book God Knows: When Your Worries and Whys Need More Than Temporary Relief!

This book is all about finding rest and comfort in God, and I just really love how Lisa's heart points people to Jesus through her work. Lisa and I dive deep into her trilogy of books, Jesus Over Everything, The Hard Good, and now God Knows, which, together, offer a full picture of living a spiritual life.

Lisa's insights on trust, faith, and finding rest in God are incredibly powerful and practical. They aren’t just theoretical; they give you actual ways to practice resting in God in your everyday life, and I strongly encourage you to grab copies of her books! The newest book especially will allow you to soak up what it means to live with those two simple words: God knows.

In This Episode

[00:35] - Welcome back to the show, Lisa Whittle!

[3:04] - Lisa used to love giving opinions but has learned the value in pointing towards Jesus.

[6:06] - Lisa discusses her trilogy of books.

[8:48] – Getting priorities in order and working through personal issues can enhance rest.

[10:22] - Why is rest so important, according to Lisa?

[14:04] - Lisa addresses some of the things people look to for pain relief.

[17:21] - Hear about what Lisa calls the “thin line” between healthy and unhealthy behaviors.

[20:32] - I point out how I really appreciate how practical the book is.

[21:29] - Lisa expresses the profound impact that writing the book has had on her life.

[24:52] - Embracing the idea of "God knows" has transformed me for the better.

[29:38] – Lisa offers advice to listeners, encouraging them to avoid complicating the process.

[32:23] – I wrap up, emphasizing the importance of opening up our hands and releasing control.

• Crystal Paine
• The Crystal Paine Show - 138. How to Keep Going When Life Is Hard (with Lisa Whittle)
• Jesus Over Everything: Uncomplicating the Daily Struggle to Put Jesus First by Lisa Whittle
• The Hard Good: Showing Up for God to Work in You When You Want to Shut Down by Lisa Whittle
• God Knows: When Your Worries and Whys Need More Than Temporary Relief by Lisa Whittle
• Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine
• 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom
• Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
• MoneySavingMom.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com

I’m so honored to have Sissy Goff back in the studio to discuss her new book, The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too. When Sissy was here a couple years ago for her book Raising Worry Free Girls, the response was phenomenal, and to this day, I still hear from so many parents who were deeply impacted by that book!

A counselor for over 30 years who helps families through her counseling practice, Sissy joins me today to discuss her new book, The Worry-Free Parent. I highly recommend this book if you have ever struggled with feeling like you aren’t doing enough as a parent or stressing over the present and the future for your kids.

In this episode, Sissy shares how so many kids today are dealing with anxiety that actually stems from their parents’ own anxiety. She gives practical tools parents can implement immediately to help them feel less uptight, scared, or stressed about how they might be messing up their kids or missing the mark as a parent.

I especially appreciated how honest she was about how trying to bubble wrap and protect our kids from struggle is actually a way we end up hurting our kids and making life harder for them in the long run.

She shares how anxiety in both parents and kids can stem from intrusive thoughts becoming stuck in a “loop rollercoaster” in our minds. In our conversation, I ask her to walk us through calming techniques to help shift us out of that loop. We talk about what it looks like to get to the root of where our worry and fear is coming from and what to do about it.

This is another powerful episode that you don’t want to miss!

[00:35] – Sissy Goff returns to the podcast today!

[4:04] – A suggestion from Sissy’s editor prompted her to write two books.

[8:55] – It’s normal for parents to worry, but anxiety is when intrusive thoughts become stuck and take control.

[13:49] – Parents should realize that many times their anxiety stems from wanting the best for their kids.

[15:04] – What it looks like to practice deep breathing and grounding techniques.

[18:22] – My anxiety stemmed from caring too much about what others thought of my parenting.

[19:50] – Sissy feels that mothers are too hard on themselves nowadays.

[22:42] – The five different types of parenting.

[25:49] – Letting your kids experience discomfort helps build character and resilience in them.

[28:30] – How releasing my need for control to God helps alleviate my anxiety.

• Crystal Paine
• The Crystal Paine Show – 100. Raising Worry-Free Girls (with Sissy Goff)
• Raising Boys & Girls Podcast
• The Worry-Free Parent: Living in Confidence So Your Kids Can Too by Sissy Goff
• Raising Worry-Free Girls: Helping Your Daughter Feel Braver, Stronger, and Smarter in an Anxious World by Sissy Goff
• Braver, Stronger, Smarter: A Girl’s Guide to Overcoming Worry & Anxiety by Sissy Goff
• Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine
• 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom
• Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
• MoneySavingMom.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com

In this podcast episode, Jesse and I discuss three unexpected life changes that I have made over this summer -- inspired by a blood test I took earlier this year. I share why I made them, how I'm tracking them (and an app that has worked so well!) and the unexpected impact they have made on my life. We also talk about how these have turned into some daily choices that are now habits that I do without thinking. 

While I don't expect you to make these same changes, I hope this episode can serve as inspiration and motivation that small consistent tweaks to our life can add up to big overall changes. I'd love to hear if you set any goals as a result of listening and I'd love to hear the accountability you set in place for your goals.

[00:35] – Today’s topic is about the three big changes that I’ve made to my routine this summer.

[02:16] – Jesse had so much fun on his recent fishing trip with Silas.

[07:18] – We just got back home last night from a trip to Branson, Missouri.

[08:59] – Hear about the exciting events that happened before we left — and on the trip itself!

[14:04] – We stayed in a condo on the trip instead of a hotel.

[17:49] – We had a blast in Silver Dollar City, but it was definitely hot!

[20:23] – Jesse and I started listening to The Fountains of Silence on the trip.

[22:21] – I move into talking about my three unexpected life changes.

[23:43] – Because I like alliteration, I called the goals: sun, steps, and sleep.

[25:10] – The app I’m using is called Strides.

[30:59] – Starting my day with sunlight and fresh air has been so good for me.

[31:46] – Learn what I have learned about my sleep schedule.

[33:18] – This has also encouraged our kids, too.

[35:10] – My main objective has been a healthier lifestyle. What is your why?

• Crystal Paine
• The Crystal Paine Show – 218. 21 Days of No Sugar and the surprising lessons I’m learning
• The Crystal Paine Show – 212. How to Help Your Kids Have an Intentional Summer
• 1000 Hours Outside – Website
• 1000 Hours Outside – Instagram Page
• The Fountains of Silence by Ruta Sepetys
• Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys
• Strides App
• 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom
• Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
• MoneySavingMom.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com

I have really been looking forward to this topic and to having this guest on the show for weeks because a question that I frequently get asked on social media is regarding friendship and how I go about making friends.

What do you do if you’re dealing with feeling like no one ever invites you to do anything and you are lonely? My guest today, Laura Tremaine is the perfect person to help me tackle this topic because she has written a whole book about it titled The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs!

Laura joins me today to discuss friendship and community especially when it comes to women. She discusses how women struggle to make and then keep friends as adults and how the pandemic made the struggle even worse for some people, and then she recommends that we think of friends as a life council (hence the title of her book) of different types of people who each bring different strengths to our lives.

We also talk about how unrealistic expectations of others and of friendships can be harmful because they can lead to disappointment. I love how she encourages us in practical ways to look around and see the gifts in people already in our lives. It's so easy to miss that and to take those already in our lives for granted.

Laura also shares personally about recognizing her own weaknesses (not prioritizing returning texts promptly enough and more) and how she worked on being more intentional in these areas in order to show her friends love in ways that would be meaningful to them. She also leaves listeners with some helpful advice, encouraging lonely women to not give up, to keep trying with new friends but to get rid of the narrative that they tell themselves that they are unlikable. She challenges us to let go of holding too tightly to our idea of a perfect friendship to make space for appreciating the people already in our lives and being in a healthy space to allow new friendships to bloom.

Laura helps us understand how to reframe friendships and think of them from a brand-new perspective. Many of the things she shared in this episode are things I've thought about time and time again since we recorded this.

In This Episode

[00:35] - Please welcome Laura Tremaine to the show today!

[02:08] - Laura and I have known each other for years through blogging

[03:35] - How blogging anchored Laura and gave her a voice.

[04:32] - Why did Laura write her book?

[06:50] - Laura shares why she thinks women struggle with friendships.

[09:15] - I share how I relate to Laura’s struggle with maintaining friendships.

[12:15] - The meaning behind the title of her book.

[16:21] - I talk about some broken relationships in my life.

[17:22] - How does Laura ensure that she’s bringing her best self into relationships?

[23:12] - Hear about how Laura wanted to be sure that her feelings matched her actions.

[28:26] - Laura argues that pop culture doesn’t always portray friendship accurately.

[30:46] - What about those who feel lonely and want community but feel tired of trying and reaching out?

• Laura’s Instagram account
• Laura’s 10 Things to Tell You Podcast
• The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine
• Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine
• 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom
• Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
• MoneySavingMom.com
• My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com