Dadville with Dave Barnes and Jon McLaughlin

LOCAL GOVERNMENT IS HERE! The legendary Sissy Goff and David Thomas join us this week. Things get off to a wild start when host Dave realizes that a woman who changed his life decades ago is actually David’s sister. Once the shock wears off, the group discusses the duo’s new book about raising capable kids in a world that feels increasingly fragile.

They explore why today’s kids are hesitant to do hard things, like getting a driver’s license, and how the pandemic created a cocoon of safety. You will hear about the importance of practicing flexibility—even if it means causing a dinner table crisis by moving one seat to the left—and why parents must manage their own anxiety while watching their children struggle. From aggressive New York bagel shops to eighth-grade boys sleeping in a gas leak pose, this episode is all about trading protection for preparation.

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This episode features a "PowerPod" collaboration between the fellas and the creators of the 3% podcast, Jamie and Blake. The conversation explores radical honesty, specifically the "3% concept"—the practice of sharing the final, shame-filled layer of truth that individuals typically withhold from even their closest friends. The participants discuss the transition from childhood "proximity friendships" to the foundational intentionality required to sustain deep male connections amidst the busyness of fatherhood.

Drawing on therapeutic insights within the sources, they examine how children often sacrifice their authenticity for attachment, a pattern contributing to the modern loneliness epidemic. A significant focus is placed on intentional parenting, highlighting the transformative power of a father’s apology. By embracing vulnerability and "killing the fourth wall" of parental perfection, fathers foster genuine connection and freedom within their families.

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The fellas are back with our dear friend Ben Rector. It’s a classic dad-session—think driveway-wine-in-camping-chairs vibes. Ben drops some hilarious truth bombs, like his daughter's most accurate description of what he's like. He also breaks down his quest to look less like an accountant with his new robust beard and a legendary sock shootout method to find the perfect pair.

But it’s not all oatmeal-sifting rituals and badminton losses. The guys get into the "real" stuff, too. Ben talks about his career shift—choosing depth over scale so he can actually be present for his kids' math homework. It’s a funny, deep, and totally relatable look at suburban fatherhood.

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How quickly could you get a horse to downtown Boston?

Well, today's guest McKittrick Simmons posed that very question to Dave and it really framed their 20+ friendship in a new way. After meeting his new friend, Jon McLaughlin, McKittrick breaks down the "neutron bomb" of intentional friendship and why "no theologians allowed" Bible studies are the secret to growth. Whether navigating the "beta test" of parenting, escaping the "shadow world," or bearing witness to friends, this deep dive is for you.

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This week the fellas join up with former world number one tennis player and US Open champion Andy Roddick to discuss his legendary career and the transition into fatherhood. Jon is very excited!

Roddick reflects on holding the world’s fastest serve record, his humorous rivalry with Roger Federer, and the "light" feeling of retiring at age 30. He shares candid stories from the "School of Earth," including traveling the world alone at age twelve and why he believes parents must let their children fall sometimes to build resilience.

Roddick offers profound wisdom for sports parents, emphasizing the need to "control the controllables" and sharing Andre Agassi's advice on simplifying the path to excellence. From hosting Saturday Night Live to being the "third best player" on his high school team, Roddick brings his signature wit to a conversation about discipline, legacy, and the "white-knuckling" reality of parenting.

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The fellas talk to Jamie Winship, a former DC police officer and federal agent turned global peacemaker. Winship shares "absolutely bananas" stories, including the time he felt a divine prompt to "de-arrest" a suspect who committed two felonies, leading to a year-long partnership and a miraculous outcome for the man’s family.

Then, they explore the Identity Method, which teaches listeners how to distinguish God’s voice from the "radio static" of internal accusations. Winship explains that your true identity is a gift to the world and an "inexhaustible energy source" that remains intact even when professional roles fail. From practical steps for confession and repentance to a preview of his new book, The War of Worldviews, this episode challenges parents to stop "future-tripping" and lead their families with fearless joy

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Whether you are currently on spring break or just trying not to be "spring broke," the struggle of dad guilt is a universal experience. The fellas dive into the work-versus-presence conundrum, exploring how early "husband guilt" evolves into a paternal fear of missing out on key milestones.

Then, they get honest about the triggers of feeling like a "warm body" while zoning out on soccer scores and the "comparison trap" sparked by other dads’ elaborate chore charts or "Spanish Wednesdays". From using a "brick" to battle phone distraction to the realization that most parenting is "caught, not taught," this conversation offers much-needed grace.

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Buckle up, Dadville, because Matt Maher is in the house, and he’s bringing more than just hit worship songs. Ever wondered what happens when you walk into a college radio station, pretend to be Dave Barnes, and realize mid-song that your XLR cables aren't even plugged in?. Or how to survive "The Talk" with a 10-year-old using only tacos and a very necessary, panicked swig of Topo Chico?.

We’re diving into Matt’s Newfoundland roots—where the ocean is actively trying to kill you—and why he spent seven years as a "professional college student". From "Star Wars cantina" radio vibes to the "golden carrot" of the music industry, Matt breaks down why restructuring life around family is the real win. Plus, we tackle the baffling physics of girls' volleyball uniforms and why his daughter is basically a "method actor" for softball. It’s a masterclass in joy, resistance, and the visceral terror of letting go of your kid's bike for the first time.

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In this episode, the fellas sit down with Stephen Kellogg—singer, songwriter, author, and "professional road dog." He joins the show from a waterless hotel in Indianapolis with a "lumberjack" vibe and a "hot word shower" of career reflections and parenting wisdom.

As he approaches his milestone 3,000th show, Stephen reflects on a 28-year career built on connection and relentless hard work. The heart of the conversation explores the "clunky" but beautiful journey of raising four daughters, from navigating their unique personalities to learning that every child requires a tailored version of their father.

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The fellas welcome the official "Pastor of Dadville," Elliott Cherry back to the pod to discuss the hilarious and humbling realities of fatherhood, from the "gates of Thunderdome" (the teenage years) to the chaos of solo parenting at soccer games where treadmills are left unplugged.

Beyond the laughs, they dive into the profound concept of "making peace with the proximate"—learning to love the world as it is rather than demanding it be perfect. They explore the necessity of vulnerability, the beauty of being the "guy on the side of the road" who needs help, and the comfort of a "Misunderstood Messiah" who understands the lonely moments of parenting. Whether you’re looking for "homie yucks" or a rock to stand on, this episode provides a safe space for every dad.

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