Have you ever felt like if you stopped managing every little detail in the saddle, the whole ride would fall apart?

Maybe your horse gets a little quick in trot. Maybe they lose balance, rush, lean, or wobble. And before you know it, you are shortening the reins, squeezing more, holding more, and trying to fix every stride. If that sounds familiar, you are not alone. In this episode, we're diving into a big truth many riders need to hear; you cannot control your horse, but you can absolutely influence them!

This episode is all about the difference between control and influence in your riding and training. Because so often, what feels like "helping" is actually over-managing. And while that might make you feel better in the short term, it can stop your horse from developing the balance, confidence, and responsibility you are trying to build.

We also explore why riders feel the need to control in the first place, what that says about trust, and how this shows up so clearly when lunging. If your goal is a horse who can carry themselves better, stay more balanced, and rely less on constant correction, this episode will give you plenty to think about.

In this episode, we talk about:-

• Why trying to control your horse is often a sign of fear, tension, or lack of trust
• How 'helping' can quietly become over-riding or micro-managing
• The question to ask yourself:- What am I not trusting right now?
• What you actually can control as a rider
• Why influence is more effective than force
• How lunging reveals whether you are guiding your horse or reacting to them
• How trust, self-awareness, and better timing help build self-carriage over time

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Join a growing community of riders from around the world who are building consistent progress in the saddle, often without riding more. Inside Connection, you'll get access to our fortnightly Review & Planning Calls, live virtual group lessons, Q&A sessions, and a full library of on-demand audio horse riding lessons. Start your two-week cycle with us today: 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/join

🐴 Restart & Reschool: Private Coaching

Feeling stuck or uncertain in your riding and training? This 13-week 1-to-1 coaching program is designed to help you get unstuck and move forward with clarity and confidence. We'll work closely together to map out your next steps, troubleshoot your challenges, and get real results with your horse. 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/rr

⏱️ 15 Minutes or Less

Short on time? You don't need a full hour to make meaningful progress with your horse. This free resource gives you over 80 ideas for exercises, groundwork, mounted work, and mindset—all designed to help you move forward in your riding in 15 minutes or less. Perfect for busy riders or unpredictable days. 🎁 Grab it here: https://stridesforsuccess.com/15

💬 The Daily Strides Podcast Online Community

Want to join other riders who are working alone but not feeling alone? Come be part of our free Facebook group where we share inspiration, training ideas, behind-the-scenes updates, and mini-challenges like Your Signature Ride. We'd love to welcome you! 👥 Join the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dailystridespodcast

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A lot of riders think they need a better outline, smoother transitions, or a horse who feels more "together"…

But underneath all of that is a deeper question:- Can your horse maintain their own body without you micromanaging every stride?

In this episode of the Daily Strides Podcast for Equestrians, we're diving into why self-carriage matters so much more than most riders realise, and why it has very little to do with head position, 'frames', or how your horse looks on the outside.

Because, let's face it; if you are constantly having to hold everything together, balance every stride, and manage every little piece of the ride, it very quickly becomes exhausting!

As riders, it is so important to help our horse to understand and begin workin on carrying their share of the 'team work'.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what self-carriage actually means in practical rider language, what it definitely is not, and how you can begin recognising where your horse may need more support and development.

• What self-carriage really means for everyday riders
• Why self-carriage is not about head carriage or a pretty outline
• How to tell if your horse is leaning on you for balance
• The question every rider should ask:- 'If I softened here, would my horse maintain?'
• Why some horses can hold things together for only a few strides
• How riders often end up doing too much without realising it
• Why lunging is one of the best places to begin developing self-carriage

Connection Membership

Join a growing community of riders from around the world who are building consistent progress in the saddle, often without riding more. Inside Connection, you'll get access to our fortnightly Review & Planning Calls, live virtual group lessons, Q&A sessions, and a full library of on-demand audio horse riding lessons. Start your two-week cycle with us today: 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/join

🐴 Restart & Reschool: Private Coaching

Feeling stuck or uncertain in your riding and training? This 13-week 1-to-1 coaching program is designed to help you get unstuck and move forward with clarity and confidence. We'll work closely together to map out your next steps, troubleshoot your challenges, and get real results with your horse. 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/rr

⏱️ 15 Minutes or Less

Short on time? You don't need a full hour to make meaningful progress with your horse. This free resource gives you over 80 ideas for exercises, groundwork, mounted work, and mindset—all designed to help you move forward in your riding in 15 minutes or less. Perfect for busy riders or unpredictable days. 🎁 Grab it here: https://stridesforsuccess.com/15

💬 The Daily Strides Podcast Online Community

Want to join other riders who are working alone but not feeling alone? Come be part of our free Facebook group where we share inspiration, training ideas, behind-the-scenes updates, and mini-challenges like Your Signature Ride. We'd love to welcome you! 👥 Join the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dailystridespodcast

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Letting go is hard. Especially when what you're letting go of feels like who you are.

In this episode of Sunday Strides, Lorna explores the idea of mental suppleness as a rider; and why it's just as important as physical suppleness in the saddle.

Because sometimes the very thing holding you back isn't your horse, your skill, or your circumstances…

It's the identity you're clinging to!

Connection Membership

Join a growing community of riders from around the world who are building consistent progress in the saddle, often without riding more. Inside Connection, you'll get access to our fortnightly Review & Planning Calls, live virtual group lessons, Q&A sessions, and a full library of on-demand audio horse riding lessons. Start your two-week cycle with us today: 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/join

🐴 Restart & Reschool: Private Coaching

Feeling stuck or uncertain in your riding and training? This 13-week 1-to-1 coaching program is designed to help you get unstuck and move forward with clarity and confidence. We'll work closely together to map out your next steps, troubleshoot your challenges, and get real results with your horse. 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/rr

⏱️ 15 Minutes or Less

Short on time? You don't need a full hour to make meaningful progress with your horse. This free resource gives you over 80 ideas for exercises, groundwork, mounted work, and mindset—all designed to help you move forward in your riding in 15 minutes or less. Perfect for busy riders or unpredictable days. 🎁 Grab it here: https://stridesforsuccess.com/15

💬 The Daily Strides Podcast Online Community

Want to join other riders who are working alone but not feeling alone? Come be part of our free Facebook group where we share inspiration, training ideas, behind-the-scenes updates, and mini-challenges like Your Signature Ride. We'd love to welcome you! 👥 Join the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dailystridespodcast

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If this episode helped you, please consider subscribing to the podcast so you never miss a new one. Share it with a riding friend who could use a little extra clarity and encouragement. And if you have a moment, rating and reviewing the show really helps us reach more riders around the world. Thank you for being part of the Strides for Success community!

Have you ever started working toward something new in your riding where you intially felt excited, motivated, and ready to do the work...

Only to realise halfway through that you might have bitten off more than you can chew?! If so, welcome to the messy middle!

In this episode, we're diving into the phase of growth that most riders experience, but many allow to keep them stuck - and even turn back!

It's the point where:

• Things feel worse before they feel better

• Your horse doesn't look as "pretty" as before

• Your aids feel awkward

• Communication gets a little jumbled

• You're tempted to go back to the way things were

This is not failure; it's a sign that change is happening and this is the episode to encourage you to stick with it.

Connection Membership

Join a growing community of riders from around the world who are building consistent progress in the saddle, often without riding more. Inside Connection, you'll get access to our fortnightly Review & Planning Calls, live virtual group lessons, Q&A sessions, and a full library of on-demand audio horse riding lessons. Start your two-week cycle with us today: 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/join

🐴 Restart & Reschool: Private Coaching

Feeling stuck or uncertain in your riding and training? This 13-week 1-to-1 coaching program is designed to help you get unstuck and move forward with clarity and confidence. We'll work closely together to map out your next steps, troubleshoot your challenges, and get real results with your horse. 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/rr

⏱️ 15 Minutes or Less

Short on time? You don't need a full hour to make meaningful progress with your horse. This free resource gives you over 80 ideas for exercises, groundwork, mounted work, and mindset—all designed to help you move forward in your riding in 15 minutes or less. Perfect for busy riders or unpredictable days. 🎁 Grab it here: https://stridesforsuccess.com/15

💬 The Daily Strides Podcast Online Community

Want to join other riders who are working alone but not feeling alone? Come be part of our free Facebook group where we share inspiration, training ideas, behind-the-scenes updates, and mini-challenges like Your Signature Ride. We'd love to welcome you! 👥 Join the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dailystridespodcast

🎧 Subscribe, Share, Rate & Review

If this episode helped you, please consider subscribing to the podcast so you never miss a new one. Share it with a riding friend who could use a little extra clarity and encouragement. And if you have a moment, rating and reviewing the show really helps us reach more riders around the world. Thank you for being part of the Strides for Success community!

One Pole = Endless Possibilities.

Why do we overcomplicate our riding, when often the biggest breakthroughs come from doing less?!

In this episode of Sunday Strides, Lorna challenges you to strip things right back. No fancy setups. No complicated grids. No elaborate plans.

Just one pole, placed on the ground, and a willingness to get creative.

Back to Basics to Move Forward

Inside Connection this quarter, the theme is ground poles. But instead of building complex exercises, Lorna suggests starting with the simplest possible version: a single pole.

Because when you remove the overwhelm, you create space for clarity. And clarity leads to progress.

Your Challenge This Week: Place one pole on the ground and explore what you can do with it.

• Groundwork around it

• Lateral movements

• Stride adjustments

• Riding straight lines with intention

• Raising it slightly for core strength

The possibilities are endless when you stop waiting for the "perfect setup."

Take Action This Week

1. Set up one pole.

2. Get creative with how you use it.

3. Film a short clip.

4. Reflect on what you notice.

Then head over to the Daily Strides Podcast Online Community and let us know how it went https://facebook.com/groups/dailystridespodcast

What happens when you expect the worst in your riding?

More often than not, you brace! And when you brace, your horse feels it.

In this episode, I'm diving into what bracing when working with your horse really looks like (physically, mentally, and emotionally), why it quietly blocks connection and suppleness, and how it can accidentally teach your horse to anticipate tension before anything has even happened.

If you've ever:

• Gripped before asking for canter

• Tightened your reins when another horse whinnied

• Held your breath during transitions

• Expected things to go wrong before they even started

This episode is for you!

We'll explore:

• Why bracing becomes a habit

• How horses learn to anticipate our anticipation

• Why "just relax" isn't always the answer

• The real opposite of bracing (and how to practice it)

• Simple ways to shift from bracing to embracing in your next ride

📖 Read the Full Blog Post:

Bracing When Working With Your Horse https://stridesforsuccess.com/episode1389-guilty-of-bracing-when-working-with-your-horse

📥 Free Resource:

Download the 15 Minutes or Less Workbook Simple, practical ideas to help you show up intentionally with your horse. 👉 https://www.stridesforsuccess.com/15

💛 Want More Support?

Inside Connection, we work on exactly this — building softness, clarity, and confidence in your riding (without overthinking everything).

Learn more here: 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/join

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a fellow rider or leave a review; it helps more riders find the podcast.

Happy Riding and chat soon Lorna

Life doesn't always leave space for long, luxurious rides, but that doesn't mean your riding has to slide backwards. In this episode, Lorna shares a simple, intentional 10-minute riding plan that keeps you connected, consistent, and moving forward with your horse… Even when everything else feels chaotic.

If you've ever found yourself thinking, "I don't have time for a proper ride," this episode will show you how to make the most of the time you do have, and why short, focused riding sessions often create more progress than long, unfocused ones.

In This Episode, You'll Learn…

• Why a 10-minute plan can save your riding during busy seasons

• How to set up a smaller space to improve focus and reduce overwhelm

• Why "riding" doesn't have to mean being in the saddle

• The exact structure of the 10-minute riding plan

• What not to do when you're short on time

• Why intentional short rides often lead to better results than rushed long ones

• How to create momentum over 4–6 busy weeks using time windows, weekly focuses, and tracking

https://stridesforsuccess.com/episode1388-a-10-minute-riding-plan-to-keep-you-riding-when-life-gets-busy/

🐴 Connection Membership

Join a growing community of riders from around the world who are building consistent progress in the saddle, often without riding more. Inside Connection, you'll get access to our fortnightly Review & Planning Calls, live virtual group lessons, Q&A sessions, and a full library of on-demand audio horse riding lessons. Start your two-week cycle with us today: 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/join

🐴 Restart & Reschool: Private Coaching

Feeling stuck or uncertain in your riding and training? This 13-week 1-to-1 coaching program is designed to help you get unstuck and move forward with clarity and confidence. We'll work closely together to map out your next steps, troubleshoot your challenges, and get real results with your horse. 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/rr

⏱️ 15 Minutes or Less

Short on time? You don't need a full hour to make meaningful progress with your horse. This free resource gives you over 80 ideas for exercises, groundwork, mounted work, and mindset, all designed to help you move forward in your riding in 15 minutes or less. Perfect for busy riders or unpredictable days. 🎁 Grab it here: https://stridesforsuccess.com/15

💬 The Daily Strides Podcast Online Community

Want to join other riders who are working alone but not feeling alone? Come be part of our free Facebook group where we share inspiration, training ideas, behind-the-scenes updates, and mini-challenges like Your Signature Ride. We'd love to welcome you! 👥 Join the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dailystridespodcast

🎧 Subscribe, Share, Rate & Review

If this episode helped you, please consider subscribing to the podcast so you never miss a new one. Share it with a riding friend who could use a little extra clarity and encouragement. And if you have a moment, rating and reviewing the show really helps us reach more riders around the world. Thank you for being part of the Strides for Success community!

Slowing down in your riding can feel frustrating, especially when you're eager to move forward or feel like you "should" be doing more. In this episode, I'm answering the most common questions riders sent in after last week's conversation and showing you how slow, steady work creates real, lasting progress for both you and your horse.

We'll cover:

• Where to begin when slowing things down (and why groundwork is the missing step for most riders)
• How to tell the difference between thinking forward and rushing so you know what's actually improving
• Why your first attempt at slow work might feel awful, and what that really means about your basics
• How to keep your horse (and yourself!) engaged when the work feels simple or repetitive
• What to do if you've been helicopter-riding and your horse falls apart when you stop helping
• Whether going slow affects fitness — and the mindset shift that makes all the difference
• How to know if your slow work is working by watching for specific changes in rhythm, balance, and responsiveness

If you're a rider working alone without a regular coach or trainer, this episode will help you feel more confident, more prepared, and far less overwhelmed about what "going slow" really looks like in practice.

Connection Membership

Join a growing community of riders from around the world who are building consistent progress in the saddle, often without riding more. Inside Connection, you'll get access to our fortnightly Review & Planning Calls, live virtual group lessons, Q&A sessions, and a full library of on-demand audio horse riding lessons. Start your two-week cycle with us today: 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/join

🐴 Restart & Reschool: Private Coaching

Feeling stuck or uncertain in your riding and training? This 13-week 1-to-1 coaching program is designed to help you get unstuck and move forward with clarity and confidence. We'll work closely together to map out your next steps, troubleshoot your challenges, and get real results with your horse. 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/rr

⏱️ 15 Minutes or Less

Short on time? You don't need a full hour to make meaningful progress with your horse. This free resource gives you over 80 ideas for exercises, groundwork, mounted work, and mindset, all designed to help you move forward in your riding in 15 minutes or less. Perfect for busy riders or unpredictable days. 🎁 Grab it here: https://stridesforsuccess.com/15

💬 The Daily Strides Podcast Online Community

Want to join other riders who are working alone but not feeling alone? Come be part of our free Facebook group where we share inspiration, training ideas, behind-the-scenes updates, and mini-challenges like Your Signature Ride. We'd love to welcome you! 👥 Join the group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dailystridespodcast

🎧 Subscribe, Share, Rate & Review

If this episode helped you, please consider subscribing to the podcast so you never miss a new one. Share it with a riding friend who could use a little extra clarity and encouragement. And if you have a moment, rating and reviewing the show really helps us reach more riders around the world. Thank you for being part of the Strides for Success community!

If you've ever felt like things in the saddle are either happening at 100km/h with you just hanging on, or your horse feels like the handbrake will not release no matter how you ask... This episode is for you!

Today, we're diving into the uncomfortable truth that keeps so many riders stuck: not being willing to slow down in order to go faster later. We're stripping everything back to the foundational communication between you and your horse, the mindset of forwardness, and rebuilding from the beginning in a way that actually works.

Whether your horse feels like a rocket with a mind of its own… Or like they need a push and a prayer just to enter the arena; this episode will help you understand what's really going on, and what needs to happen next.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why "forward" has nothing to do with speed and everything to do with mindset

• The biggest communication gap that causes both rushing and slugging

• How groundwork becomes the key to changing your horse's willingness under saddle

• Why walk–halt transitions are the most underrated power tool in your riding

• How to know when you're ready to move on to trot and finally canter

• The 12-week framework that will rebuild responsiveness, confidence and connection

You don't need a different horse, you don't need to ride more. You just need to start at the beginning again, with the basics done correctly this time.

Let's dig in… https://stridesforsuccess.com/episode1386-what-youre-not-willing-to-do-in-order-to-improve-your-riding/

Connection

Your next step if you're serious about creating actual progress in your training, without needing to ride more or change horses! Inside Connection, we're currently working through the Half Halt: first on the lunge, now in the saddle, and December is where everything clicks into place.

✔️ For riders working without a regular coach ✔️ Structured lessons + accountability so you stay consistent ✔️ A training rhythm that builds confidence, clarity & connection

Join us for the December Half Halt Training 🚀 👉 https://stridesforsuccess.com/join

The Daily Strides Podcast Online Community

This is our free, friendly Facebook group where you can share your wins, get support, ask questions, and connect with other riders who are also working alone, but not doing it alone anymore.

✔️ Weekly prompts & practical ideas ✔️ A space to stay motivated between rides ✔️ Real conversations with riders like you

Join us inside → https://facebook.com/groups/dailystridespodcast

15 Minutes or Less Freebie

If time is the reason you feel stuck… This is your lifeline! The "15 Minutes or Less" workbook gives you quick, focused exercises you can do on busy days to keep momentum going with your horse.

✔️ For riders short on time ✔️ No arena required ✔️ Keeps progress happening in tiny but powerful ways

Download it now → https://stridesforsuccess.com/15

Restart & Reschool: Private Coaching

If after listening you're thinking: "Yes, this is me. I need personal guidance through this process…", this is where we work 1–to-1 over 12 weeks to restart patterns, rebuild foundations, and reschool habits so you can move forward with certainty.

✔️ Tailored coaching for your exact partnership ✔️ Video reviews + clear assignments each week ✔️ Perfect for horses coming back into work or needing a clean slate

Learn more → https://stridesforsuccess.com/rr

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Your Energy Begins the Conversation

From the moment your horse becomes aware of you, before any halter, tack, or aids, the conversation has already started. In this episode, we explore how your energy sets the tone for the entire interaction. Whether it's calm, chaotic, focused, or distracted, your energy speaks louder than your words or actions.

Suggested Reflection: Pause before you approach your horse. Ask yourself: What energy am I bringing into this space?

Intentional Stillness as a Training Tool

Doing "nothing" might be the most impactful thing you do this week. We often think connection comes through doing, but true partnership is often built through simply being with your horse. Still. Calm. Present.

Try This: Spend 5–10 minutes just being with your horse this week. Sit, stand, or walk quietly, no agenda. Just notice the shift.

The Power of Breath Awareness

Lorna reminds us that breath is one of the most underutilized tools in riding and groundwork. Shallow, erratic breath reflects stress. Deep, calm breathing brings safety and groundedness. Your horse will feel the difference.

Mini Exercise: Before interacting, take 3 slow, conscious breaths. Let each exhale settle you more deeply into the moment.

Partnership Starts on the Ground, Not in the Saddle

Many riders focus on improving their connection during rides, but often skip over the groundwork of connection that starts long before the ride. The first look, the first breath, the first touch. All shape your training outcomes.

Shift in Perspective: See every interaction, grooming, leading, even watching from the fence, as an opportunity to strengthen your partnership.

🎧 The Connection Partnership Program

This powerful program was originally created as a live in-person experience at the farm. It's now available as a self-paced audio training, designed to help you intentionally develop your presence, energy, and awareness to deepen your partnership from the ground up.

🟢 On special this weekend only! Access the full Connection Partnership Program at 👉 www.stridesforsuccess.com/cpp