Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together for episode 39 discussing both sub drop and Dom drop (yes, that’s a real thing): what it feels like, how to handle it, and how to help your partner.

In this episode:

* An amazing weekend quickly turned into the worst sub and Dom drop…ever.

* The details are still private but the affects were awful.

* Dom drop is just as real as sub drop.

* Sub space isn’t a prerequisite to dropping. It happens when the emotions/endorphins/adrenaline are very high.

* Drop doesn’t happen after every scene or every big moment.

* Everyone experiences drop differently: physically, emotionally, and mentally. Drop will be different for you each time you have it.

* Whether you’re a sub or Dom, you need to talk about how you feel and be honest with your partner.

* Taking care of each other will help you get through it.

* Aftercare helps, but it’s not always enough.

* Sticking with your routine is good, but leave some room for indulgences.

* Check in with each other and talk as much as you can.

* This isn’t the time to be stoic and pretend you’re okay.

Links from the show:

Sub Drop – A Newbie’s Experience (from 2012)

The Aftermath – Subdrop and Other Drama (from 2014)

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